My thoughts on AFF...  

Moebius1970 46M  
21 posts
6/24/2005 11:35 am

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3/10/2006 10:22 pm

My thoughts on AFF...

My wife and I have chatted with a lot of people from AdultFriendFinder and met several also. I believe AdultFriendFinder is a great place to meet people, probably because there are so many people signed up. It's easy to find someone close by to get together with.

I believe that places like AdultFriendFinder help to foster people discovering their sexuality. I don't think that if these places had not existed that I would be married. I don't think I would have found a woman like my wife who accepts my appetite for women of all kinds. She even points them out to me when we are out and about. We don't have to hide and think of ourselves as deviants.

However, the more I talk to people from AdultFriendFinder, the more I get the feeling that it is also a haven for some not so nice people.

I have heard several stories about people misrepresenting themselves for thier own gain. Obviously, their own gain being sex. Sex is a very powerful driving force for a lot of people and I believe it causes some to do things that are harmful to others.

You have the people that say they look a certain way or display pictures that are not even them. Why? A rational person would know that eventually someone will find out because a meeting will reveal this. What causes people to believe that they will get away with it? Do they gain pleasure from feeling like they put something over on someone?

Another con I have seen, especially targeted at men, is where an adult web site will post an ad with a picture of a beautiful woman. The text of the ad always mentions that he should send an e-mail address because she can't answer e-mails. I'm sure you've seen those, right?

Is the Internet fostering a more open and tolerant society? I believe yes. But you also have to ask this question. Is the Internet contributing to harmful behavior? I believe, sadly, that the answer is yes. I am not a fan of suppression or censorship. But I do believe that the more readily available the material, the more harmful the material will get. What I mean by this is that once society gets desensitized to the pornography out there, then content providers will look to take things to the next level. Where will it end?

rm_cuml8er 55M
39 posts
6/24/2005 2:06 pm

Moebius, I guess I have been lucky so far and not come across any of the problems you emntioned. Not that I don't believe you are right. I have seen ads asking for me to supply email address but instead I have advised that standard member contact is activated on my profile. Ok so it costs more but is pretty cheap for the peace of mind.
As for where it will end....well it's the "boil a frog" experiment. You know? Put a frog in boiling water it will jump back out. Put it in cold water and slowely heat it and it will stay there and boil to death (so I'm I have never done that or anything as inhumane). Same with society, make changes in small steps and it is amazing what it will accept.

tg614 43M
2 posts
6/25/2005 8:56 am

I recieved 2 emails that seemed personal enough. The link in the emails took me to a site where I have to sign up to look at naked pictures of them? I can't figure it out. Do they just want your addy to solicite ?

Moebius1970 46M  
49 posts
3/10/2006 10:22 pm

I stay away from profile that ask for an e-mail addres right in the profile. I think it's an indication that it is fake and someone is just trying to get your address for SPAM.

You could also set up a free e-mail address on Hotmail or on fo the others that is just for replies. That will tell you if the profile is a fake. If that address starts getting SPAM, then it was.


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