I guess I just don't understand...  

Moebius1970 46M  
21 posts
7/15/2005 9:10 pm

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I guess I just don't understand...

I had a free minute (yeah, right) and wanted to vent some frustrations.

My most recent rant concerns women with whom I exchange contact and who, it appears, never really want to get together. I am talking specifically about women because that's all the experience I have on this site, I am not into men. If someone wants to enlighten me about how men act, please feel free.

I have sent out numerous messages to women I am interested in meeting. I don't expect many responses, mainly because I fully understand that men outnumber women on this site by a substantial margin. When I do receive a response with an e-mail address or IM handle, I assume that the woman is interested in getting to know me better. Is this unreasonable? Apparently it is, because I have received these types of messages and replied and not received a response. What could be the reason?

I have even received winks from women who never answer my messages. Maybe I have a different expectation than others here. I expect that when a woman winks at me that she is interested in, at the very least, exchanging e-mails or chatting to get to know me better. Is this unreasonable?

The reason I ask these questions is because I want to know what the rules are here. Or maybe there aren't any...I hadn't thought of that.

babsygirl 55F

7/16/2005 7:20 am


I can't say that there are really any rules per say...but women take things slower than men. We need to feel secure in the conversation we have with that man we might hook up with. Men on the other hand are wow....let's fuck. Not what most women will do on this site.

I myself talk with a man...until I feel like I really want to know that man...and then we meet. It's scary to meet yet exciting at the same time. If at all I ever feel uncomfortable talking with a man, I won't meet him. It's my sixth sense and it's usually correct.

Patience with the women that do pursue you...so they gave you their IM...keep trying...I know myself I like a man that keeps coming back to me time and time again with emails...or just chatting in the chatrooms..sending me a simple hello...

But remember women are not like the men who want to meet and fuck...they have to be comfortable...and it does not help that one of the women in the chatroom I talk in, was ...so it's a trust issue..

keep trying and dont give up...Babsy

Moebius1970 46M  
49 posts
7/18/2005 10:42 am

I think babsygirl misunderstood my post. I am not looking to have sex with a woman after one message. I like to get to know someone and become friends first, that's not the issue. The question is why women do not communicate after giving me their e-mail address/IM?

Even if it's because they found someone else, then fine. Tell me, I can take it. But don't just ignore me. After all, she did give me her e-mail address.

I would like to think that I understand women to a certain extent. I do understand that most women, make that people in general, like to be pursued. Most people like being told they are handsome or beautiful and get attention from the opposite sex. It makes us feel good, no arguement there. If that's all someone is doing here, then he/she shouldn't offer an e-mail address or IM. That's the issue here.

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