The door to opportunity is always labeled 'push'  

Mistress_Nessa 40F
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7/21/2006 9:24 am

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The door to opportunity is always labeled 'push'

Gloria Estefan once said "The sad truth is that opportunity doesn't knock twice. You can put things off until tomorrow but tomorrow may never come."

I am proud to say that both of my daughters have put that advice to good use.

A few days ago, they heard something about castings for the disney channel, they talked to me and asked me to make the call. I told them I wouldn't make the call. They asked in their worse whinny voice, with tears in their eyes "But whyyyy mommy?!?" "Please!! I want this more than ANYTHING!"

I looked at them, and saw my self when I was somewhere around their age... and told them what I wish someone would've said to me, instead of the flat "No!" I got from my grandmother, I said to them: "Look, you both know I love you both with all my heart, and I will always support you in anything you decide to do as long as it is good for you. But, I can't do it for you. There's going to be times, that you're REALLY going to want to do something... and, as long as it's a good thing, YOU have to DO IT. You have to go out there and fight for what you want! You can't always send mommy to do it for you, even as much as I'd like to always do everything for you, it's time that you learn, that in order to get anywhere in life, you HAVE to work for it... And if this is something you both REALLY want to do, then you have to have the nerve to go for it! and if you can't make a simple phone call, how do you think you're going to be able to go through with the audition?? I can't do it for you! What happens later in life, when you want to do something and you have to do more than just make a call?? You're going to ask me to do it?? What if I'm not around?? What if I don't show up in time?? You're just going to pass it up waiting for me to show up so I can do it for you?? You won't get anywhere if you don't learn to stand on your own two feet and fight for what you want, for what you KNOW you deserve!... Do you understand?"

They said yes... and walked away, with their heads hanging down and looking so sad, I felt so bad... I thought, "Maybe I'm expecting too much of them... Maybe I should make the call, it doesn't kill me to do it." but I didn't.

A few hours later, they came to me, and gave me a phone number, and my oldest said, "Mommy, I called the number and talked to them, so did Evy (her sister), and they said all they need is to talk to you to get your permission for an audition. You said if we really wanted something to go and get it, and that you would support us. So, we called, and got it... Would you please call the lady now?"

I called the number, and gave my permission for an audition, but I told them to keep in mind that many kids will be auditioning, and that it would be hard.

So, even though both of their feet, and mine are very well planted on the ground, I can't help but to feel very proud of them. They did what I failed to do. Have the courage to go for what they wanted when they saw an opportunity, and maybe nothing happens, and maybe something does, but what really matters to me, is that I know, that I've taught them to grab on to the opportunities that might come knocking.

Their audition was on the 18th, and while they got accepted, I'm afraid we're going to have to turn it down, it seems they are required to take some classes, which I have to pay for, it will cost me $2250.00 for each one of my two girls to take those classes, and right now, I just can't afford that.

They say money isn't everything... but isn't it funny how the lack of it can close doors just as easily as having tons of it can open them?

~ Nessa ~

"Out of clutter, find Simplicity
From discord, find Harmony.
In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity."
(Albert Einstein)

TurnLock 59M
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7/23/2006 8:52 am

Some of these things are nothing more than marketing tools that end with you paying for a class or a series of classes. No audition should end with you paying them. I have two daughters and I've experienced the same things, but i ended up paying for things that were not on the up and up, but did so to make them happy. Be thankful that your kids made a step to independence by making the call, my teenagers still think mom & dad should do the footwork still. Also be glad that they priced themselves out of a sale. If it was lower you might have actually paid them for the classes. Be suspicious of any talent searches where you have to pay. Real ones don't.

Mistress_Nessa 40F

7/25/2006 5:32 pm

Thanks TL, I'll keep that in mind.

~ Nessa ~

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