All the Right Components  

MisssCuriousity 55F
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1/16/2006 6:46 am

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All the Right Components


If we agree that most all of human sexual attractiveness is based on physical attributes, then how much of this knowledge plays out in online dating?

Visual perception being key here, what of the people who dont bother to put up a profile pic?? I know that once i met a man, who had refused to post a pic, and found him to be the most alluring of any currently pursuing me.

Perhaps it was his voice, low and melodic, the tone suited to lulling me into a passionate submission. Audition can mean the world to a female.

I think that scent runs a definate second. Although we all agree that the wrong smell may be repulsive, the RIGHT smell can cascade you into a pleasure zone... Why do you think we sleep with your shirts?? I contend that the use of pleasant perfumes/colognes is intended to get the male/female to inhale more deeply.. allowing the pheromones to imbed more accurately, overloading thier senses.

Knowing that these two factors, for females, are paramount. What basis do we filter the men that fall into our sites???

Without voice, scent and pheromone interreaction, its a wonder we make contact with men online at all. So much falls into the written word that you send in an attempt to gain our interest. I might go a step further to inform some men at this point.. that certain things just don't work. Misspelled words, simple phrases like 'lets hook up', timing, and profile statistics can often kill or make a favorable impression.

On the flip side, men are visual creatures. The appearance we put forth in profile and additional pics will ultimately make or break a potential meeting.

Some studies suggest that one source of physical attraction of a man to a woman is dependent upon a proportion between the width of the hips and the width of the waist. I clearly dispute that theory, but would love to hear a male's point of view on that subject.

I once heard a theory.. where it was stated that ... A man, within 3 mintues of meeting a female (including conversation), can determine in what way that female will fit into his life.. be it mother, sister, lover, wife, friend...

What i found infinately interesting was that when asking this question of older men, they gave me an answer within 1 minute. Upon asking a younger man this same question, they were bemused, circling around the question, the answer, contradicting thier first answer. Only to return the next day and bring up the topic again. In other words, it took a younger, inexperienced male over 24 hrs to formulate an answer......

Anyone care to comment???

cobra70118 105M

1/16/2006 8:30 pm

You certainly have engaging thoughts... hope you do not mind my commenting, again.

I have some trepidation with these online personals. Though these blogs are cool. I wonder how many people have any intention of meeting anyone at all? I suspect for some people it's a vehicle to safely express their fantasies and entertainment for others. These are inauthentic relationships. They're not real. Until you choose to make them real. There's the key, it all gets down to a choice. And that's scarry for some cause making a choice has risks. People tend to play it safe. They play life safe. But real life, real living isn't when we play it safe. Real life is when we have the courage to take risks. If we're not uncomfortable once in a while then we're not really living.

Yeah, pheromones are wayyy important. I never leave home without them!

Those images people have in their brains of what they want, of the other person. That person they're seeking is also a fantasy, an image they created in their mind. That's where they are operating from. They attempt to find or fit real people in the real world into that image they created in their mind. That's impossible. It's not real. I have to chuckle a bit when I read what people are seeking in another. It's sounds like their ordering dinner at a restaurant. My goodness I'm a real person and I'm sorry for not fitting into that designer guy of their brain. That's why in my description I simply put a bold, daring lady who's real and after that I simply want them to be themselves. For some people that's difficult. I want real, not Mum or Barbie.

When we first meet people, the question is what are we references about the other person that decides within that first three minutes? Are we determing how it's going to be by those pre-conceived images, ideas, notions we have within our brain? Our wants? Because if we are then we are limiting ourselves as well as being shallow cause.. what if.... every person we have ever met was absolutely the correct person? Doesn't mean we're jumping into to sack with 'em. That's a want. Means we missed out on whatever that relationship could have been because all relationships are different and unique onto themselves. Just like people.

People think too much.

Interesting you mention the anatomy of men and woman. I'm an artist and that standard was set by Di Vinci. Based on the cannon. Di Vinci set the cannon standard at eight. The cannon is the relationship between the height of a person to the length of their head. Eight is the accepted standard. The cannon of an infant can be four to one and increases until we're grown. The difference between men and woman are primarily in the pelvic area. Woman have a lower center of gravity. Front view a man's shoulders extend past the hips. In a woman the hips extend past the shoulders. Side view, a mans shoulders extend past the butt. A womans butt extends past the shoulders. Given allthese lengths and angles..... Here's the amazing thing.... men and woman FIT together... perfectly! If we were the same, we wouldn't fit as comfortably.

Men and woman fit so darn well.... with so many creative possibilities.

Elvis was Hep to the jive.... it's in the Hip thurst thang.....


cobra70118 105M

1/16/2006 8:44 pm

All the ways we touch other. Physically and mysteriously...


MisssCuriousity 55F

1/17/2006 4:29 am

perhaps that is why, i dont hesitate on first meetings. i dont feel the need to invest 'x' amount of time in emails, posts and phone calls.. imagining someone into an object of desire. such imagery will always tend to fall short when reality sets in.

besides, i can usually tell by voice..... i wonder how many men actually realize our first test for compatibility/acceptance is voice.....


cobra70118 105M

1/17/2006 7:23 am

Hmmm.

Even when we don't have expectations, we will have them. We'll try to fill those empty spaces in.

Even though a word can be pronounced several different ways, there is an infinite way to speak each word. A tone, a resonance... we speak with, gives us away. We each have our own resonant range...

If we listen.

Something people don't do.... listen. They're generally too busy listening to themselves. People aren't natural. For the most part they not themselves. Cause..... that little voice in their head... isn't them. Pink Floyd was right. It's their ego, trying to calculate.... tryin to figure.... rather than just being present.

It's a no brainer.... go figure......

Men and woman.... both


cobra70118 105M

1/17/2006 7:24 am

Hmmm.

Even when we don't have expectations, we will have them. We'll try to fill those empty spaces in.

Even though a word can be pronounced several different ways, there is an infinite way to speak each word. A tone, a resonance... we speak with, gives us away. We each have our own resonant range...

If we listen.

Something people don't do.... listen. They're generally too busy listening to themselves. People aren't natural. For the most part they not themselves. Cause..... that little voice in their head... isn't them. Pink Floyd was right. It's their ego, trying to calculate.... tryin to figure.... rather than just being present.

It's a no brainer.... go figure......

Men and woman.... both

if this post repeats just delete one of them.


cobra70118 105M

1/17/2006 8:47 am

At any point along the way... whether it is three minutes or three years and we do know yet we continue.... then we're the ones playing a game. Doesn't matter whether they know or not.

When we're honest with ourselves then we'll be honest with another.

People will waste our time with games and there's no time to waste. If we let them, then we're playin..... their game, a game.....
Too many things to do, too much fun to have.

Only once was I truely fooled and still honest with myself.


AusTxman032 50M
62 posts
1/17/2006 10:46 am

I have found that as I get older...I play far fewer games and tend to get right to the point and open myself up to the other person rather quickly.
There is no reason to try and pretend anymore, your right, that is left to the young....

I have the experience now to know what is good...and what women want...so ...I can get to know them right away...and let them get to know me.

Good post!


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