The Other Side Of The Coin  

MissAnnThrope 56F
11679 posts
10/15/2005 7:00 pm

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The Other Side Of The Coin

In Am I A Slut?, I discussed the Morality Police. There is the other side of the coin in the rooms. The people who think that by virtue of being on this site, you should have no personal limits.

This breed is mostly comprised of men, but there are a few women who fall into the category. They all feel you should be looking for exactly what they're looking for in their cyber fantasy. All women should be their personal fuckdolls.

Now, as all of us should know by now, there are several portals all advertised in different manners, that all lead into this site. Some tell you to upload a sexually suggestive pic to up your chances of finding a sex partner. Then there are the ones that lead here that tell you uploading a pic increases your chances of finding your soul mate. Therefore, there are people on here who are looking for very different things. However, nowhere do I see any that says joining this site means all the women here will do anything you want them to.

Let's look at some of the things we ladies have to put up with...

"You've been a bad little girl and Daddy needs to spank/punish you." OK... Where on my profile does it say I'm a submissive? Let me look... Why, nowhere! I don't find spanking erotic, it's not even something I enjoy doing to submissives. I find it boring. If a man tries to spank me, first I tell him not to do that. But if he continues to try, I will haul off and smack him. OK, by smack, I mean punch in the jaw as I say, "What part of no don't you understand?"

Now, I don't know about the rest of you, but that entire Daddy trip creeps me out. If these guys have daughters, I really do hope they're keeping their hands off of them. I refuse to do Mommy situations when I'm Domming, even if it's requested. There is something about it that creeps me out and reeks of wannabe child abuse. Any man who wants to call a grown woman a little girl and have her call him Daddy has mental issues that should be addressed. I know there are women into that trip, that's fine. However, don't go off on me when I tell you I'm the one who holds the riding crop and I think you're a pig who needs to be taught a lesson. What? You refuse to give up the top position, but you expect every woman to submit to you, even if we don't have a submissive bone in our bodies? Can you say double standard? If you expect me to switch, then you had damned well better be one too.

"What do you mean, I'm not your type?" Hey, you are not God's gift to women, no matter what you think. If women were falling all over themselves to get to you, I doubt you'd be here in the first place. If you don't turn me on, then you don't turn me on. No amount of begging is going to change my mind. No amount of calling me a bitch is going to change my mind. I'm sure you don't fuck women who don't turn you on. So why should I do men who don't turn me on?

"What are you doing in a chat room if you don't want to cyber?" Guys, the cyber chat rooms are down the hall and to the left. Read profiles. I personally find cyber more than lacking and I don't do it. Yeah, I can have a pic of a woman on my profile, but how do you know that cute 19 year old co-ed you were cybering with is even a woman? It could be a frat boy having you on, or a timid gay man having you on. Some of us are looking for real life meets, not cyber crap. In my opinion, cybersex is for those who are misrepresenting what they look like, who they are, or for people who will never run the risk of meeting each other. I personally think it's for wimps. Besides, if I'm going to masturbate, I'm going to do it in a comfortable position, not sitting reading a computer screen. Talk to the women who have looking for erotic chat on their profiles if that's what you want. Try pulling this shit in an IRC channel. The ChanOps will bust your ass and ban you from the room for harassment. If you do it in enough rooms, the SysOps will ban you from the system. Show some class.

"I want phone sex." There are people in Hell who want ice water. See above. And don't forget, harassing phone calls can be considered a federal offense.

"I can't wait to fuck your ass." Right. What is the growing obsession with anal sex? All women should be good little anal whores according to some guys. But tell them that they can fuck your ass as soon as they let you do theirs with a strap-on at least as big as their dick and they balk. "I'm not a homo! Don't touch my ass! That shit hurts!" Yeah, it does hurt. It can also cause us to bleed for months. Why should I allow you to damage me if you're not willing to let me damage you? What's sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander. We don't have a prostate to be stimulated by anal, men do. Now bend over and take it like a man, or shut the hell up.

"I think it would be really hot to fist you." Er... No. Go find a woman who has had 5 kids. She might be loose enough for that.

"But I read a webpage that said all women can squirt!" Yeah, then there are the pages that explain to you not all women can. As a matter of fact, the medical community isn't even sure it's not urine. I know, this is a hoary subject. But look, if you're looking for a squirter, look elsewhere. Not all women can do it, even if they do have G-Spot orgasms. The G-Spot has been around a lot longer than the concept of squirters. All that's going to happen if you insist on pursuing this with me is, two hours later, I'm going to have a sore vagina and be pissed off and you're going to have pruney fingers and try to tell me I'm defective, because I can't do it. So get out the rubber sheets for someone with this ability and leave me alone.

"It would be so hot to watch you with another woman." OK, as soon as I get to watch you with another man. What? That's gay? So is me with another woman, pal. Just because your porn collection has a bunch of girl-on-girl action it doesn't mean I should have to perform for you, unless you're willing to perform for me. Not all women are bisexual, no matter what you want to believe. So unless you're willing to be the meat in a man sandwich, shut the hell up.

"The perfect woman would be willing to blow me while I watch football and make sure I have a beer in my hands at all times." Uh-huh. Are you going to be a perfect man and perform cunnilingus for hours while I watch Lifetime and make me fresh strawberry daiquiris at the commercials? What? That's pussyass crap? Once again, it's a two-way street. (Lifetime was used purely to illustrate my point. I wouldn't be caught dead watching Lifetime.)

"How do you know you don't like it if you've never tried it?" Chances are I have tried it. Look at my purity score, Mr. 78%. Just because you feel you're missing out on something, it doesn't mean I have to help you discover it. If I've tried it and I haven't liked it, there is no reason for me to try it again. And for the record, I lied on a few things to keep my purity score over 20%.

"I don't understand women on this site who aren't willing to do anything that a man asks them to do." This came from a woman. Not just a woman, but one of the MPs, who is currently blissfully in love and not touching other men. What is this, the 1950s? Do whatever you have to do to hold onto a man? I'm not about to do something that I find distasteful or goes against my better judgment just to get a man into bed. Have some respect for your body. You aren't a fuck doll, you're a human being. If you're with someone with no respect for you, your needs, your wants and/or your body, move on and find someone else.

Now, if I have respect for you and don't try to force or cajole you into doing things you don't want to do, why can't these fucktards have respect for the women on the site and give us the same courtesy? Stop asking us for things not even hookers will do for you. Be an adult about sex, instead of acting like a horny 16 year old. Unless you're willing to do all the things you expect us to do for you, don't expect us to do them for you.

So, let's recap. Unless you're willing to let me strap one on and do your ass, watch you service members of your own sex, allow me to fist you, mix me strawberry daiquiris at the commercials while I watch something in which you have absolutely no interest and let me use my riding crop on you, etc., then you're not getting any of this from me. Are we clear?

Ladies, have I missed anything?

rm_DaphneR 58F
7938 posts
10/15/2005 10:44 pm

Well said!

I had to laugh when you were talking about the whole spanking thing. The first time a guy tried that with me, I did turn around and smack him. Knocked him on his ass and left.

Have tongue, will use it. Repeatedly.

LadyFantasy68 49F
126 posts
10/16/2005 12:03 am

Well said indeed!

The only thing I can think of that you have not included is the men who get angry over you not returning their emails when as a standard member they are limited (and so is my time) and they so obviously have never read the profile which states that they are exactly what you are NOT interested in (ie married/attached or too young or too old). Or the "f**ktards" as you perfectly called them who think that sending you an emails saying, "I think you are hot" (no pic on my profile by design) "and when can we f**k" is an acceptable way to talk to someone you have never met. Not interested if they cannot even have manners.

Great post.

RailBaron2 54M

10/16/2005 1:15 am

EXCELLENT POST!!! MissAnnThrope. The paragraph about "what do you mean I'm not your type" I have had to say some simmilar things to a few women.- Like you said " If You dont turn me on, Then You dont turn me on" Too bad you cant email this whole post as a responce to some of the emails I'm sure you recieve.RailBaron2

rm_connor696 60M
834 posts
10/16/2005 7:57 am

Necessity, they say, is the mother of invention; clearly desperation is the, um, progenitor (you know, to avoid the sexism) of a lot of wasted time.

What I can't decide is whether the strategy is to hit on every woman around, thus maximizing the odds, or to wear them down by relentless repetition. A little of both, I suppose.

007sexy40plus 51F  
7603 posts
10/16/2005 10:24 am

That was a kicker. Now, I wonder how many of those type of men can actually read what you said and comprehend it. Every paragraph you wrote I have been through the exact same thing.

Thanks MissAnn

I am the real deal! "Come Get Me!!!"

MissAnnThrope 56F
11488 posts
10/16/2005 10:34 am

Thanks Daphne! I just can't figure out this obsession with spanking and how they don't want to hear no for an answer. Especially when the rooms are always full of women who claim they love it and love being treated like dirt by men. (Until they are, of course.) Is the idea to break us?

LadyFantasy, that is one of my favorites. There was someone who is either gone, or had the good sense to change his handle who was writing to me. The handle was LyingScumbag. Yeah, I really want to get involved with someone with that kind of handle. When he wrote to ask why I wasn't returning his mail, I did tell him in no uncertain terms.

RailBaron, I probably could email this as a response. But this concerned the rooms, not mail. Most of the time, if someone isn't my type, I just ignore the mail. They are forewarned by my autoresponse that they won't hear back from me.

connor, the idea really is to wear us down to the point where we cave and say yes. But when we won't cave, we're evil bitch whore cunt dykes. But then for many of these guys, it's a lot easier to just call a woman a dyke instead of accepting the fact they aren't God's gift to women.

rm_j7088 53M
17 posts
10/17/2005 12:15 pm

LMAO you hit it right

rm_betabonnie 46F

10/17/2005 1:20 pm

*stands up, claps, cheers and whistles loudly*

The only thing I'd like to add to this is:

Just because I am A submissive, it doesn't mean I'm YOUR submissive. I don't have to put up with shit from jerks just because you THINK you're a dom.

Other than that... gah... you should write a book about this.

MissAnnThrope 56F
11488 posts
10/20/2005 9:33 am

Thanks j7088!

bonnie, don't you know that any submissive should give her body over to some rank amateur who read some website and has decided all women are bad and need to be beaten, because beating the shit out of someone turns him on? There are actual Dom/mes, who have the utmost respect for their submissives and are going to respect safe words, not overstep limits and not act like jerks in general. Then there are the dickwads, who give the entire scene a bad name. Most have never even heard of sub space or aftercare.

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