Shameless Self-Promotion (Not What You Think)  

MissAnnThrope 56F
11679 posts
10/1/2005 2:25 pm

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Shameless Self-Promotion (Not What You Think)

Once again, I was browsing the new blogs and the new entries. Once again, tons of guys promoting their profiles, if not just reprinting their profiles to their new blog.

Guys, there are currently 42,804 Blogs and 373,991 posts here in the blogs. The number of blogs and posts grow all the time. Do you really think you're going to get lucky by posting someone please come fuck me in your blogs, anymore than in your profiles?

This site takes work. It isn't a sexual fast food service. Joining isn't a guarantee of sex around here for anyone, man or woman. If no one is writing to your profile, do you really think you're going to get someone saying, "Hey, I'm local and I love the shadow figure where your picture should be and I can't wait to have anonymous sex with you?"

Upload that face pic. Buy a ball. Write to the gender of your choice. If you're married, realize your chances are even slimmer than the single guys around here. Act like a man, instead of a horny teenager. Women are not going to flock to you, or suddenly appear to fuck you because you said you want to get laid in your blog. If you want people to read your blog, have something to say other than how horny you are. Your profile is the place to say what you're looking for. You're not going to have anymore luck posting here than just joining as a standard member and waiting for horny women to flock to you.

I'm not exaggerating either. Here's a sampling of what I found in today's new blog entries:

"I am looking for a girl under the age of 30 who is either normal,athletic, or slender and has no STDs!Id doesn't matter to me if she wants either a regular partner or a one night stand. I am a very nice person so pls give me a ring or send me a message."

Yeah, his post title basically says no fat chicks. He's going to do well.

"iam new to all of these sites it sucks that you have to pay to be able to do anything on them iam just looking for women in amarillo tx to have fun & good sex with & no strings i love being with women and know how to treat them in bed & out you treat a woman with respect kindness & careing always it would be great to meet some women on here but so far no luck iam beginning to think these sites dont work unless you pay for it"

I'm too cheap for a ball, so I'm going to hope women hit on me in my blog and I'll probably use the blogs to hit on women.

" I am a married man that wants to explore and fulfill some bi-sexual fantasies and desires, so if there are other married men out there that are bi/gay in the Houston/Aldine area, let me hear from you."

Yeah, because married men who sleep around with other men are so much safer than single men who sleep around...

"Hello out there. I am looking for a woman to have a warm, discreet sexual experience with. Anyone interested?"

This guy at least admits in his blog description that he has no concept of what blogging is for.

Guys, I'm really curious if this approach works. I'm guessing it doesn't. If you can't bring yourself to buy a ball, you can get into the chat rooms. What? No one will talk to you? Then consider your approach when you go in and watch the newbie guys who do manage to get a conversation started. But does this approach work? I'm dying to know.

bardicman 50M

10/1/2005 4:30 pm

I wonder if I would have better luck posting the "come fuck me" line in your blog, it gets more views than mine.
sigh, So many men are so desperate for sex, that they are willing to come off as the biggest bone head losers to get some....

I am not dead yet

rm_saintlianna 45F
15466 posts
10/1/2005 4:55 pm

I am dying to know too. That was funny, do some more!!!

007sexy40plus 51F  
7603 posts
10/1/2005 5:37 pm

I am so glad to see someone else write this besides me. I think others hate it when I write it. But I am glad you have said it again. I think it was expatbrit49 who said it best, his title reads writing a blog is fun but it dont get you laid. I think many think it will. I think writing blogs is fun but it brings out the worse in those who dont agree with what one writes. Thanks for telling it like it is. Most think that this site is a free buffet for sex.

I am the real deal! "Come Get Me!!!"

rm_jayR63 59F
1884 posts
10/1/2005 5:38 pm

Well written and insightful.
DCEbony couldn't have said it better

digdug41 49M

10/1/2005 5:54 pm

that just goes to show the level of desperation,guys wanna get laid that bad just pay for it! and save the rest of us the trouble of seeing or reading about your misadventures,but hey msann they are a source of entertainment too lmao

roaming the cyber streets of blogland

UtterlyLuscious 30F

10/1/2005 6:09 pm

Im sorry to say I disagree. Theres nothing that says we cant each ask for what we want. Theres nothing bratty, or inappropriate in demanding what you want.
I feel the approach itself is silly. What 'works' is only determined by each other, together we can make the choice to get to know everyone openly, kindly, and erotically.


10/1/2005 6:33 pm

Hey lady,
How goes the lifestyle earth-woman.: )
You are one of the few that has written my blog, yr comment gave me much to think about--and even made me change my profile. No grand gesture considering I’m JUST some damn man trying to get his dick wet, LOL. But u do seem 2 B right about married men, if there is among us a red-haired, bastard, step children--it's us. read it ALL the time, my only question is; Have I totally given up my right to fulfill my personal desires because I was fortunate enough to live full time w/ someone who is more than my closest friend--albeit, she and I have different sensual needs at this juncture of our relationship. Is it so hard to believe that I want to keep her, and yet consider my self capable of devoting a fair amount of human kindness to another—especially if THAT person knows that, that is all I can provide. I am the first to admit that I am at best a detraction to a woman’s search for her forever someone, and worse (W/O ego) a nice guy, they have to realize they can NEVER have!
Ur right, it sucks 4 my wife and the lady—but am I the villain. Or is it rather a woman’s perception of what THEY need from a relationship, my needs be damed—after all I’m JUST a man and we’re ALWAYS looking to get laid—nothing more meaningful than that!

THX 4 letting me rave…B
P.S. have I mentioned how much U remind me of a sister of mine: she’s strong & no-bullshit too…Chow

rm_VoodooGuru1 49M
2053 posts
10/1/2005 8:35 pm

Once again, I can't really get to the point you're making because I can't get beyond the illiteracy. If a writer is American, there's better than a 90% chance that English is the only language he knows, So, one language, that's all anyone expects, can't you have at least a medium level of proficiency? God... DAMN they're fucking stupid! Or is it that they just don't care? Or their community's indifference towards good education?

Puppy Chow!

nightstalker172 36M
1258 posts
10/2/2005 8:24 am

How you doin sorry....I dont think there is anything wrong with alittle flirting on a blog but I agree with you that you shouldnt post up adds looking for a certain type of person...thats what your profile is for. But honestly If I see girl I like Ill flirt with her where ever I can including a blog. Its just a matter of tact thats all..most guys are horndogs and dont know how to treat a lady

BTW...did anyone ever tell you you look like Lady Heather from CSI...she was only on a couple episodes that Ive seen anyway...she ran the S&M brothel "legally" of course LOL

goddessofbitches 41M/33F

10/2/2005 1:00 pm

That's just too funny. I like the ones where people are like...

Yeah...there will be more to cum in my blog...but for now...will you fuck me?

and that is the ONLY post they have!!! LOL



Always The Bitch

MissAnnThrope 56F
11488 posts
10/2/2005 5:47 pm

bardic, I'm still wondering if that line works in the blogs. Maybe I should test it out.

lianna, all I did was look at the new entries. I found those three in less than 5 minutes. I know there were more too.

straightten, the people who make these posts have no idea that the blogs aren't going to get them laid. They don't understand it's short for weblog, or that it's basically an online diary.

JayR, I haven't seen her blog. I'm going to have to start reading it.

digdug, how many times have you seen me tell guys with that attitude to just hire a hooker, it's less work and a sure thing? But they never listen to me.

Utterly, I just wonder if advertising for sex in a blog works any better than on their profile. It seems self-defeating to me. With the number of blogs growing daily, I wonder if there's even a point. It seems like a lot more sensible to me to just buy the ball and write to people.

IByer, I'm not sure where you're going with this. But did you meet your lady through writing to her, or did she stumble onto your blog and then your dick?

Voodoo, the point who is making? I hope you're not calling my post illiterate.

nightstalker, how am I doing? Well, I slept all day, I have to stop doing that. I defintely have to go for accupuncture sometime this week, for my sciatica. I just got over bronchitis and now seasonal allergies of some sort are starting. Aren't you glad you asked? Now, I'm not objecting to flirting in blogs. But to make your blog a "please, please, please, someone fuck me I'm just so damned horny" ad is something else entirely. I agree, that is what your profile is for. And yes, you told me I looked like the woman from that show a few months ago in the advice forum. I still haven't seen the show.

Mandy, Yep, I've seen many of those blogs. Then they decide they can't get laid through the blogs either, so of course, none of us are real here. How did some of these people get off the "Welcome" page on America OnLine? It baffles me.

lifeisablast333 54M

10/2/2005 6:39 pm

We agree with goddessofbitches, when I am bored I respond to them asking if they are having any luck with the wordy blog, But I have not ever gotten a reply....................The Redneck

nightstalker172 36M
1258 posts
10/2/2005 7:40 pm have to see the show...I can think of two epsiodes thats shes in but for the life of me I cant remember the names...and did I say that? lol I forgot....anyway I know how you feel with brocitis...Ive had that a few times...its one of those things that just wont go away...Hope you feel better though...sometimes allergies can turn right back in to brocitis...It sucks even more if you have Ashma hehe...

rm_CauseISaidSo 48F
182 posts
10/3/2005 3:10 am

AND...NO TEENAGERS!! PLEASE, kids, go back to high school, find that wayward teacher, and get yer rocks off there. WE DON'T WANT YOU HERE!
We come to AdultFriendFinder to get AWAY from the chillun!

Another great post, MissAnn.

tamethytension 54M
2320 posts
10/3/2005 3:59 pm


I agree and addressed this in an early blog entrt

Men of AFF ... dial 911

but the other side of the coin are the female profiles (up to 20% in some markets such here in Cleveland) that expressly cater to this mentality. They expressly ask for dick pics, expressly demand cocks of 8 inches or more, expressly demand the stamina to "cum fuck me right now because I'm always wet". And there are no shortage of explicitly stated and equally brief female bloggers ... especially the teens.

Now is any of that real? Are those fake profiles meant to entice men to join AdultFriendFinder? No not all, but one wonders. I appreciate the female outlook on this. But I see where it would be a real eye-opener for the women of this site to learn to what extent women are marketed to men in the fashion that is consistent with these same profiles and come-ons. I am not defending these morons, merely pointing out that they may be more sheep than lion, being led along the path of least resistence.



MissAnnThrope 56F
11488 posts
10/3/2005 8:50 pm

lifeisablast, I'm not surprised you don't get a response. They don't want to admit it's not working for them.

nighstalker, I don't have asthma. But I am a smoker, which doesn't help. Now, as far as TV viewing goes, if baseball isn't on, I'm either watching a movie (I'm so behind in my Netflix) or watching Comedy Central. I really don't watch networks too much anymore. And isn't David Caruso in that? The only thing I've been able to stand him in is "Session 9" which is a fantasic movie.

Sassy, yeah, I noticed that AFTER I made the post. But I knew you'd catch it, so I didn't mention it.

Thanks Cause!

tame, I just read your post. I want that recipe for peppermint brownies! Now, there are women like that all over the site, not just in the blogs. I have trouble believing some hot 19 year old has trouble meeting guys. I was far from hot at 19 and I never lacked for offers, from men of all ages. If a chick who's hot and 19 can't get a date, then there's something wrong with her and if it's not the fact she's boring as a post, it means she's a psycho. That is, if she's not actually a 60 year old woman or timid gay man leading people on for attention.

nightstalker172 36M
1258 posts
10/4/2005 7:18 am

PLAH thats the wrong CSI...thats CSI Maimi...they have three of them...CSI Maimi and CSI new york are spinoffs of CSI Las Vegas
The vegas one is the one Im talking about it has William L. Petersen and Marg Helgenberger. I dont care much for david either..the only movie I really remember him in though was Jade (an soso movie kinda of predictable though). But the Los Vegas CSI is really good...if you like murder mystery type stuff. but anyway lady Heather was played by Melinda Clarke (shes on the O.C. too god I hate that show)...the way they had her look reminds me of your current pic ALOT...Anyway the names of the episodes are "Lady heather's box" and "Slaves of Las Vegas" anyway look her up Lady Heather's Domain (its just a CSI fan site not porn) and you will see a couple pics of her as lady heather.....she also played the hot zombie girl from return of the living dead 3 (bad movie but kinda funny)

MissAnnThrope 56F
11488 posts
10/4/2005 4:06 pm

nightstalker, I looked her up. I think it was the angle. She's also the chick from "Return of the Living Dead 3". But thank you.

There is another Lady Heather's Domain on the web. However, it's some chick with really BAD poetry. I mean, Rod McKuen bad.

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