Not Something You See Every Day  

MissAnnThrope 56F
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4/20/2006 6:17 pm

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Not Something You See Every Day

I was on my way home tonight, when I passed the funeral home. The one I talked about in I Need Help. Now, I never take the short cut through the parking lot when a viewing is on, as that's disrespectful to the people paying their respects. Tonight there was a viewing. First, a police car drives up. I figured it was the funeral of a cop and he was trying to give his friend a send off, with the flashing lights. Then the ambulance pulled up. No, I wasn't going to stand there and gawk. But I can honestly say, this is the first time I've seen a viewing where somone had to be removed by ambulance.

Have any of you ever been to a viewing or funeral where one of the mourners had to be removed by ambulance, or passed out and had the rescue squad show up?

NickRules999 39M
9462 posts
4/20/2006 7:04 pm

I can't say that I have. The last funeral I was at was my grandpa's. This was two years ago. During the eulogy, I had a strange thought about life. That we walk over many graves on the way to our own. I then asked myself the question, how many will I pass before I find mine?

Come into my realm! You aren't afraid...are you?

MissAnnThrope replies on 4/22/2006 1:42 pm:
Yeah, I think that's one of the reasons I want to be cremated. All those damned people trampling over me in the graveyard.

8321 posts
4/20/2006 7:12 pm


I hope you're feeling better, though, Ann.


"My every move is a calculated step, to bring me closer to embrace an early death." -Tupac Shakur

MissAnnThrope replies on 4/22/2006 1:42 pm:
Thanks Division.

rm_1hotwahine 62F
21091 posts
4/20/2006 7:53 pm

I kinda passed out at my grandfather's viewing when I was a kid, does that count? It was hot and all the flowers really got to me.

My crazy Aunt Mildred used to fake pass out a lot, until we banned her from family funerals.

Neither situation, however, involved flashing lights or uniformed personnel. Sorry. I've lived a boring life, I guess. Although when Aunt Mildred was in her heyday, she did tend to spice things up a little.

I don't know why I'm compelled to ramble along on your blog but a thought just occurred to me. Are you CERTAIN it was a mourner? Cause there could be a REALLY interesting backstory here.

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]

MissAnnThrope replies on 4/22/2006 1:43 pm:
How do you ban someone from family funerals? You should have just gotten her a job as a professional mourner.

I don't know if it was a mourner, I wasn't about to go in and ask what happened.

rm_saintlianna 45F
15466 posts
4/20/2006 8:28 pm

    Quoting NickRules999:
    I can't say that I have. The last funeral I was at was my grandpa's. This was two years ago. During the eulogy, I had a strange thought about life. That we walk over many graves on the way to our own. I then asked myself the question, how many will I pass before I find mine?
Wow, that was deep. My brain cant function that way tonight, I hope it doesnt bother you as much as it does me.

MissAnnThrope replies on 4/22/2006 1:44 pm:
I hope your brain is back to functioning.

rm_VoodooGuru1 49M
2053 posts
4/20/2006 8:58 pm

No, but isn't a big display of grief - what with the gnashing of teeth and flinging themselves on the coffin - popular in Meditereanian cultures?

I'm with wahine though; is probably vampire-related.

MissAnnThrope replies on 4/22/2006 1:46 pm:
Yes, it is big in Mediterannean cultures. When my mother was growing up, funeral homes hired professional mourners. But to see an ambulance is serious.

nightstalker172 36M
1258 posts
4/20/2006 10:04 pm

Wow....I know that amublances and such take their time but...damn...when its too late its too late ...sorry that was wrong *lowers head in shame*

Anyway...cant say that I have...I know I had to catch my grandmother to keep her from falling over when my grandfather died. He was very ill and was already brain dead. The only reason he was still alive was because of the machines. When they took him off of them. You would think that if was a quiet peacful death. and for the most part it was but the gargling noise that he made as if drowning on his own spit was a sound I will never forget...he lasts exactly 12 minutes on his own without the respirator...The night before all the grandchildren 14 total and 6 great grand children said their good byes and then the 5 elders as I call them or his children where there when they took him off life support. I was the only grandchild who actaully witnessed my grandfather dieing (I was 18 by the way so not really a child just a big kid )...In my own weird mind it was something I had to see. I was never very close to him never did anything with him and he wasnt close to anyone unless you WORKED for him in which case being employed by him was as close as you got. To be honest I know he was family..but..I didnt really feel any grief...I never really had any attachment to him. The sad thing is...My grandfather on my other side of the family died a year before I was born and I never knew him...I barely know my grandmother on that side...she died when I was 5 or 6...The only grandparent I ever had or knew what my grandmother that I kept from falling. She is still around and kicking to this day. Shes 81 years young.

MissAnnThrope replies on 4/22/2006 1:51 pm:
Yeah, I can imagine the sounds that he made. My father died of a massive coronary right in front of me in 1998. The noises he made as the air escaped his lungs was disturbing and something I can still hear. Then there were the death throes, which made me think he was having a stroke as I dialed 911. I didn't faint or have to be picked up, but the rescue squad assigned someone to follow me around, as I made sure that the dogs stayed out of the way. When I asked why, I was told, it's policy, people tend to commit suicide when they're not looking in such cases. I was deeply offended.

I'm glad to hear your grandmother is still kicking.

cuteNEway 41F

4/21/2006 6:19 am

I grew up in Astoria with two funeral homes within walking distance. I did see a few hysterical mourners but never any to the degree of needing an ambulance...

MissAnnThrope replies on 4/22/2006 1:52 pm:
This is the first time I've seen that happen.

free2chose2 66F

4/21/2006 2:20 pm

Yes, and the person had a heart attack and died

Don't worry, be Happy

MissAnnThrope replies on 4/22/2006 1:53 pm:
Oh no! That's so sad. I hadn't heard what happened. I didn't figure it would be in any of the daily papers. I was waiting until Thursday for the local weekly. Did the story say if it was a mourner?

nitya_toooo 60M/57F

4/21/2006 4:34 pm


I hate to "watch" death. As you may recall I was born and raised in Senegal, and in my teens I was a Red Cross volunteer during summer breaks. One year there was an awful and widespread cholera outbreak in the south of the country, and my dad and I were dispatched to help (we eventually both got cholera, but recovered well after having lost an amazing amount of weight). Many died, mostly kids, all of them poor as usual..... No time for burial not to mention the risks of having the disease spread even we burned them. THAT was awful. And sobbering in a way. That experience made me see death as a passage...and made me stronger.

MissAnnThrope replies on 4/22/2006 1:56 pm:
Mommy Dearest, I do view death as a passage. However, to die at a viewing is kind of creepy. People joke that if you die there you're in the right place, however, I'm sure the body was removed to the hospital for a proper pronouncement, which seems to be standard procedure.

rm_1hotwahine 62F
21091 posts
4/22/2006 3:51 pm

OK, am in a more normal mood now. Not sure if this is the case everywhere, but lately I've noticed a tendancy for businesses to call an ambulance no matter what. So it could be the routine reaction to someone fainting.

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]

MissAnnThrope replies on 4/24/2006 12:42 am:
That very well could be. However, I got a really bad feeling when I saw that. Of course, I have to wait until Thursday for the weekly local paper to come out.

popmuse01 35F

4/22/2006 8:54 pm

I've not seen that happen....but have heard of it. Came close at a couple of family funeral's though. When my grandmother passed 3 years back, we wondered if my grandfather would be able to make it past the viewing and funeral before the graveyard (He did), and the other was at my father's funeral, my sister and I were not sure if my mom would be able to take it either...but amazingly she did, though the subsequent suicide watch lasted 3 years, and caused my eventual nervous breakdown....yeah, you try handling with complete saneness when you find that a butcher knife sitting out on the counter was going to become a vein slicer for your only surviving parent (at the age of 18 mind you), and her thanking you and god that you came home early from school!

I'm leaving the site end of March. To those who want to keep in touch, see blog for details.

MissAnnThrope replies on 4/24/2006 12:43 am:
OMG, that must have been so hard for you and your sister. I don't know if I could have handled that.

Hippink 35F
4499 posts
4/22/2006 9:21 pm

I was having dinner in a restaurant that we'd never eaten at before, when we noticed a older gentleman looking rather ill, sitting by himself in the corner. The waitresses & manager tried to help him, then called an ambulance, which he went away in.
We decided not to eat there again.

I've only been to one funeral, and nothing out of the ordinary happened.

I always have to wonder, though... one day, I saw eight cop cars blocking off a main road, everyone bustling about busily... we must have arrived after everything had been cleaned up... and there was NOTHING in the news! I HATE that! Also, I've seen cops outside of gas stations... I just wonder how much stuff happens that we don't hear about. SCARY!
Hippie XXX

MissAnnThrope replies on 4/24/2006 12:49 am:
My mother arrived to the supermarket once, to find the ambulance taking someone out. Seems it was an older gentleman, who dropped dead while shopping. She was freaked, but as the produce manager told her it wasn't the first time, she didn't find a new place to shop.

But I don't think I would have gone back to that restaurant myself.

free2chose2 66F

4/23/2006 6:18 am

This happened over a year ago down here at the shore

Don't worry, be Happy

MissAnnThrope replies on 4/24/2006 12:49 am:
Sorry, I misunderstood.

elysianpleasure 47M

4/23/2006 6:05 pm

I have been at a funeral where someone passed out and they had to call the perametics. It kind of made the whole thing a bit more exciting I have to say...

MissAnnThrope replies on 4/24/2006 12:51 am:
As long as it was just someone passing out, it does make it more interesting. It also opens up for teasing that person at every family funeral to come.

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