Have You Checked Your Wife's Manicure?  

MissAnnThrope 56F
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5/20/2006 11:41 am

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Have You Checked Your Wife's Manicure?

OK guys, you will be crossing your legs as you read this. This is from Channel 6 Action News in Philadelphia:

TIOGA-NICETOWN - May 17, 2006 - A Philadelphia man is recovering from an attack, allegedly at the hands of his wife. The assault on his private parts has become public knowledge. In an interview with Action News after his release from, the 52-year-old victim spoke of his terrifying ordeal.
The 52-year-old Tioga-Nicetown man, who we are identifying only by his first name of Howard, arrived home late Wednesday, hours after his wife allegedly tore off two parts of his genitalia with her bare hands. Surgeons at Einstein successfully managed to repair the damage.


Either he didn't have enough insurance, or the damage wasn't as bad as this and other stories would have us believe. The attack occurred on Tuesday night, he was home Wednesday night. How could he even walk?

Howard/Tioga-Nicetown: "Doctors did a beautiful job in E.R. and the paramedics did a wonderful job, they only took 4 minutes to get here."

Good thing this was Philly and not Manhattan. The ambulance would have been caught in traffic for a half hour.

Howard says his 40-year-old wife Monica, who he says is bi-polar, somehow conceived the notion that he was cheating on her. So while he was asleep last night, she attacked him.

Howard: "I mean she just grabbed me all down there and yanking and yanking and tearing me up with those fingernails."


I won't make a rude awakening comment, I won't make a rude awakening comment, I won't make a rude awakening comment...

Police and paramedics rushed to the man's row home in the 3800 block of Pulaski where they found him bleeding profusely. He was rushed to Einstein where doctors first labeled his condition critical. He was later upgraded to stable after having reattachment surgery and a few doses of morphine. Howard still cannot believe his wife of 11 years would allegedly do this him.

I hope they gave him a six pack of morphine to take home, as they kicked him out of the hospital the next day.

Howard: "I can see doing something like that to a , or mugger but not a husband, not something like..."

Dann: "She thought that you were cheating on her?"

Howard: "I wasn't cheating on nobody, I'm home in bed at 8' 0 clock every night, I mean I'm not out there messing around."


You may be home and in bed by 8 every night, but what are you doing with your afternoons?

Brian Lawson/neighbor: "I mean men cringing when they hear the story, I mean uh, I'm just cringing thinking about it."

I'm cringing thinking about it and I'm not even a man.

Antoinette Fortune/Neighbor: "Who would wanna do something like that?"

um... A complete psychotic off her meds?

Unidentified Neighbor: "That's kinda nasty. That's drastic isn't it? He's lucky to be alive."

Some neighbors say Howard's had problems with his wife before and has thrown her out only to let her back in. They worry what'll happen next.

Dann Cuellar: "Howard, you're not gonna let her back in here are you?"

Howard: "Oh no, no, no. She's in jail where she belongs."

At one point, Howard's wife Monica was facing attempted murder charges but now, the D.A.'s office has asked that a psychiatric evaluation be performed before any charges are filed.


Yeah, I would say psychiatric evaluation is in order. Not to mention a divorce.

Another article, from the Philadelphia Daily News went into much more detail. About how she tore out the sac with her fingernails. Feeling queasy yet?

That article also mentions he literally had to fight her off, lock her in the house and limp to a payphone on the corner to call the cops and ambulance. I can't believe he managed to do that. I would have probably bled to death screaming for a neighbor to call 911, instead of trying to get to the pay phone myself.

I think the lesson here is, if you're married to someone who is bipolar with paranoid delusions who goes off her meds, don't give her any reason to think you're cheating on her.


rm_VoodooGuru1 49M
2053 posts
5/20/2006 12:20 pm

Nicetown.

Heeyehyehyehyehyeh!


MissAnnThrope replies on 5/20/2006 2:14 pm:
In the City of Brotherly Love, to boot.

cuteNEway 41F

5/20/2006 12:41 pm

Ummmm since when is castration attempted murder? You know DAMN well that this fucker was cheating on his wife. A woman sane enough to be sent home on meds will only go off like that with good reason! If you ask me...he got what he deserved!


MissAnnThrope replies on 5/20/2006 2:41 pm:
Chemical castration is not attemted murder. Ripping off someone's balls can cause them to bleed to death. It IS attempted murder, if not done properly.

No, we do NOT know someone who is home most of the time on disability and who is in bed every night is cheating. The woman was OFF her meds for a number of days, refusing to take them. Read the next article I'm posting in the comments... It seems she was AWOL from the mental hospital when she attacked him.

rm_1hotwahine 62F
21091 posts
5/20/2006 1:12 pm

That must have been a rude awakening.

Sometimes, Ann, you just gotta let it out.

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]


MissAnnThrope replies on 5/20/2006 2:21 pm:
I know, I know.

NickRules999 39M
9462 posts
5/20/2006 1:13 pm

Lorena Bobbit has nothing on that woman. Lorena used a knife. This one used her hands. Ow!

Come into my realm! You aren't afraid...are you?


MissAnnThrope replies on 5/20/2006 2:23 pm:
Lorena Bobbitt also cut off his penis. This woman ripped off his balls. I don't think there's a comparison.

MaggiesWishes 59F

5/20/2006 1:39 pm

There is a goddess ... and she's laughing, somewhere?

Will wonders never cease?
AND Nick ... btw ... Lorena was being abused/beaten/ is why she used a knife. Had nothing to do with cheating.


MissAnnThrope replies on 5/20/2006 2:24 pm:
I don't know which Goddess would looks kindly on psychotic behavior. This woman wasn't being abused, beaten or any of that. It was purely mentally ill behavior.

OboesHonedIambs 62F

5/20/2006 2:05 pm

CuteNEway,

No, "We" do not know damn well that he was cheating. The woman is Bi-Polar and she was in a manic, delusional state when she attacked him. Delusions are seldom based on "facts of the moment." No human person DESERVES physical violence against them. Regardless of her mental state, her actions could have killed him - groin wounds like that are known to lead to men dying from bleeding to death. Hence the initial charges, but common sense in this issue prevails by recognising her illness requires psychiatric evaluation first.

Instant Human -- Just Add Coffee


MissAnnThrope replies on 5/20/2006 2:26 pm:
While I agree with you that this was delusional behavior, I do tend to disagree about the violence. I'm all for castrating with a rusty butter knife and then leaving them to either bleed to death or die of the infection. But it doesn't apply to suspected cheating.

MissAnnThrope 56F
11488 posts
5/20/2006 2:56 pm

Update, kids! I've bolded the parts of the article that I feel are most relevant to the case. This is from the Philadelphia Daily News:

Sac attacker was AWOL from mental hospital

A Nicetown woman who tried to tear off her husband's testicles with her bare hands Tuesday had skipped out on a four-hour pass from a mental facility the day she attacked him, her brother said yesterday.

Monica Randolph, 39, was charged with aggravated assault and related offenses for skinning the scrotum of her husband Howard, 52. His genitals suffered severe wounds that required stitching, an overnight hospital stay and a lot of morphine.

"They asked me to describe the pain between one and 10," Randolph said yesterday. "I said 20. I honestly don't think I could have gotten through this without the morphine."

Monica Randolph's brother, George Meade, said yesterday that the case is more complicated than it appears and represents a failure of the city's mental-health system.

"We have tried to get her help for years. She would pull some stunt, and they would 302 her [commit involuntarily to mental- treatment facilities] sometimes and keep her for a few days, but other times they'd send her home," said Meade, 31, of Mount Airy. "It's like you almost have to do a major crime to get help. Now my sister might get the help she needs, but more than likely she's going to prison, and that's a shame."

Randolph said his wife has never received the treatment she needed.

"It's like every six months, the people trying to help you all change," he said. "One day you go for treatment, and everyone is a stranger."

Meade, a mental-health worker at Graterford state prison, said his sister has suffered from bipolar disorder since she was about 19.

Her mental problems prompted her to drop out of Cheyney University and led to a life of paranoia, volatile relationships and criminal troubles, he said.

She tended to go off her medication when she felt better, prompting relapses that would turn her into "a monster," Meade said. Before pulverizing her husband's privates, her most serious run-in with police was in 2003, when she barricaded herself in her mother's home, he added.

She was involuntarily committed to a residential psychiatric- treatment program about a month ago, Meade said, adding that he did not know the circumstances of her placement.


Police and city mental-health officials declined to confirm Monica Randolph's psychiatric commitment, citing medical-confidentiality laws.

Her mother got permission Tuesday to take her out on a four-hour pass to get a new driver's license, Randolph said.

But when the pair stopped by her apartment, Howard Randolph said he refused to let her return to the mental facility.

That night, Monica Randolph sneaked up on her husband as he slept and grabbed his groin, ripping into his gonads with her fingernails and ending her attack only after he fled the house and locked her inside.

She told arresting officers that she attacked her husband because he was having an affair. Her frequent absences for mental-health treatment stoked her distrust in her husband, who she felt cheated on her while she was gone, Meade said.

Randolph said he had not cheated on his wife.

Meade said the couple's relationship has been marked by mutual physical abuse.

"He did not deserve what happened to him; I'm not taking my sister's back on this," Meade said. "But he is not innocent. He beat my sister up plenty of times, and my sister beat him up, too."

Howard Randolph spent yesterday recovering at home, but he denied that he had beaten his wife.

"The only time I ever hit my wife was the other day to get her to let go of my balls," he said.

Other times when they fought, he said he would just grab and hold her until she calmed down. He said he has never been arrested for abusing her.


I really do think bipolar disorder is a misdiagnosis. This woman suffers psychosis. The fact that the staff changed every few months also tells me she was dealing with county mental health. You really do slip through the cracks in places like that and end up either trying to commit suicide, or committing a crime before they do anything about your mental illness. Even in rural areas, county mental health departments tend to be overworked, overbooked and make NYC's ACS workers caseloads look small. The doctors just want you out of their office so they can see the next patient and refill the meds.

Mental hospitals are no better. The fact they didn't send anyone after her or issue a warrant for her arrest when she didn't come back after four hours is a sign of an overworked staff. Most places will issue a warrant for your arrest if you walk out.

As far of claims of mutual abuse, I can't tell you how many people I know, especially woman, who suffer mental disorders who consider being held down when they get violent physical abuse or being beaten up.

Hell, I had one friend who every July a mutual friend and I would have to visit her in the mental hospital. First, she tried to rundown her husband, because she wanted to do something he didn't want to do. She decided he was cheating and tried to run him down. The next year, she seduced her brother (I'm so not joking) and then tried to murder him when he stopped resisting and went with it. He wasn't too bright to begin with either. By saying that, I'm being nice, as he had a borderline IQ. The next year, she barracaded herself into the bedroom of our mutual friend. Our mutual friend was living with her mother and grandmother. They weren't pleased having the cops showing up and removing doors from the house. But while she had herself barracaded into the room, she was calling all sorts of people, the cops, etc. and threatening suicide. All of these instances were the fault of the husband she was constantly leaving, claiming he was beating her up, when he was the one who was always bruised. He refused to leave her, because he was afraid of what she'd be like left to her own devices. I missed any subsequent visits, as they moved to Florida. I can think of more situations like that too.

Reading this, I have to say he wasn't exactly guiltless. He was the one who didn't want her to go back to the hospital. Now, a sane person would understand that was because he missed her. But she isn't exactly sane.


DIVISION77 39M  
8321 posts
5/20/2006 4:44 pm

I think cuteNEway has "issues".

How can anyone justify an attack like that?

Even if he was cheating, you just don't attack someone when they are sleeping, hence the attempted murder charges.

She's getting off because he is not pressing the issue.

Obviously I think a divorce is in order, if not a stay at a psychiatric hospital for this woman with a court order to keep her on her bi-polar meds.

People are amazing.

DIV

"My every move is a calculated step, to bring me closer to embrace an early death." -Tupac Shakur


MissAnnThrope replies on 5/20/2006 5:26 pm:
You've got to be kidding me! How can he not press charges? You know, if he doesn't divorce her, they defintely deserve each other.

EroticaXTC 49F

5/20/2006 5:15 pm

My father's second wife is manic depressive, and she doesn't take her meds either. They divorced 4 years after marrying...it took her 4 years to get around to "going off" on my father...it's always someone, usually her (grown adults)children....She doesn't take her meds supposedly because of her heart, she's had full by-pass surgery in the past...and paranoia is definitely a symptom...It's not a condition anyone should take lightly, because these people become out of control.
Thanks for the follow-up report as well!


MissAnnThrope replies on 5/20/2006 5:27 pm:
No, it's not a condition to take lightly. When people who suffer go off, they really go off. They also start projecting their own faults onto the people around them. That part is always fun.

rm_LoyalCumpany 46M
3204 posts
5/20/2006 5:45 pm

I am never sleeping with a woman ever again.

I am JoJo the Circus Boy!


MissAnnThrope replies on 5/20/2006 6:16 pm:
What, you're just going to do the fuck and run? That can get you into just as much trouble.

JuicyBBW1001 54F

5/20/2006 7:01 pm

ewwwwww

Juicy


NickRules999 39M
9462 posts
5/20/2006 9:51 pm

Maggie, I remember that part. Lorena was justified.

Still, I have to cringe when I hear about a guys genitals getting pulverized like that. You gotta be fucking crazy to go that far. And the women in the news article certainly is.

Come into my realm! You aren't afraid...are you?


lifeisablast333 53M

5/20/2006 10:55 pm

OUCH, you made my nads hurt......LOL...the redneck


MissAnnThrope replies on 5/21/2006 12:59 am:
Hey, I don't have nads and that story made me hurt.

rm_VoodooGuru1 49M
2053 posts
5/21/2006 3:48 am

Thank you Ann for suggesting it wasn't bi-polar disorder. She may well have had BPD among her illnesses, but BPD does not cause a person to be delusional.

It may have been written up as attempted murder because of the blood. A guy's junk has a very complex vascular system and the scrotum bleeds an insane amount of blood when cut. The cops investigating must have thought they were at Sharon Tate's when they got to the house.


MissAnnThrope replies on 5/21/2006 10:07 am:
Wasn't it actually Abigail Folger's house?

HBowt2 58F

5/21/2006 7:00 am

new meaning to the phrase ' a woman scorned'...


MissAnnThrope replies on 5/21/2006 10:08 am:
A woman scorned is NOTHING compared to a woman off her meds.

MaggiesWishes 59F

5/21/2006 12:38 pm

Nick ~ Scares the chit out of me too! *shivers* I've seen too many folks come into the ER with their body parts in ice packets or dry ice buckets.

Miss Ann brings up very good information as Abuse, in any form knows no name or gender ... and medication is not always the answer, but somtimes the cause. *sighs* Abuse, is never justified.


MissAnnThrope replies on 5/22/2006 10:13 am:
It might not be justified if your brain chemistry is normal, but if it isn't, then you can find justification in anything.

dirtynastygirl2 54F

5/21/2006 5:02 pm

Sounds more like Schizoaffective bi-polar type D/O, as diagnosisng is part of my lovely profession.
As far as the act itself in the news..Holy shit! That's f-ing crazy.


MissAnnThrope replies on 5/22/2006 10:14 am:
What is the difference between Schizoaffective and Schizophrenic? I know paranoid delusions are part of schizophrenia. But schizoaffective is a new one for me.

dirtynastygirl2 54F

5/23/2006 9:06 pm

Schizophrenia is the psychotic disorder without a mood disorder schizo affective is the psychotic disorder and the mood disorder (depressive or bipolar type)and can be very debilitating too.


MissAnnThrope replies on 5/25/2006 6:11 am:
Thanks. I had no idea there was a difference.

dirtynastygirl2 54F

5/25/2006 12:11 pm

    Quoting rm_Sheeana:
    My mother was bipolar and sometimes in the manic phase had psychotic delusions. I never saw a diagnosis of her as anything other than bipolar. The meds she took were Mellaril and, in the last few years, Zyprexa, anti-psychotics often prescribed for schizophrenics, but also often for bipolars as well. This certainly doesn't mean ALL people with bipolar disorder EVER even approach anything like that, but some do.

    People can say someone needs to have a stay in a psychiatric hospital, but it's not so easy as that. The longest amount of time she'd be allowed to stay in a hospital was one week. One week to get them stabilized on meds, and then they're out the door. Friends and family have to do whatever they can manage with them, because the the hospital will not allow them back in. Once my mother stayed up all night after being released calling the 800 number of a gospel singer and leaving messages saying I was the messiah and would be appearing in Mesa on December 5th. That wasn't enough to get her into the hospital. The last month of her life she was saying she had the president on speed dial and he was leaving messages for her on the evening news. Once the hospital wouldn't admit her, but did send her home in the ambulance because she was obviously in no condition to drive. She was allowed into the hospital finally for her one week that month. After that, on the last night of her life, she was trying to get back in and they again turned her away. She went home and took an overdose of Zyprexa, I KNOW because she thought THAT would get her admitted, and, yes, she was admitted, went into cardiac arrest, and later died. It's not common for people to die from Zyprexa overdoses, but it does sometimes happen.

    The point of this story is that the average person has no idea of the true state of mental health care in this country. It puts not only the mentally ill but the rest of us in danger as well.
Sheeana
My Dad was first diagnosed Schizophrenic, then Bi Polar then Schizoaffective. The changes in diagnosis and specifics have been broken down quite a bit over the years. It really needed to in order for specific populations to served and made the best they can be with medications. So you are absolutely right. Lots of people have the misconception of a standard with a certain diagnosis. That is one of the problems with community involvement with this population. We call it SMI here in AZ, My Dad was in the UP of Michigan, imagine the narrow mindedness there. He is also dead, and was only 51.
I am so sorry to hear about your Mother, I wish people cared more about this group of people. Was your Mom involved with VO? If so I am very disappointed in the case management she was getting. I'd like to talk to you about that.
It is changing but verrryyy slowly. People need to get involved and families need to continue to fight for assistance.


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