Cheap Stereotype Classifications  

MissAnnThrope 56F
11679 posts
8/23/2005 11:25 am

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Cheap Stereotype Classifications


I've seen one too many blogs here where the men classify women into several categories: Bots/ads for other sites; webcam queens; women looking for women; women who are just out for attention; women who don't want them. Most of these blogs are written by guys who haven't even been members that long and thought this site, where men outnumber women vastly, would provide them with instant sex. I swear, if P.T. Barnum was still alive, he could have a field day with this site.

Anyway, I've thought about the type of men who are on here. So, I've come up with a few cheap stereotypes for the men here:

1. Men seeking porn queens or supermodels. They see the women in the ads and think all the women here should look like they just stepped off a porn set or a catwalk. When they realize that that isn't the case, they get really pissed off.

2. Men who are insecure about the size of their penis. Seriously, how many times have we seen the posts in the advice column about what is average, what is large, how do I enlarge my penis, as it's only 7", etc. These men tend to be incredibly needy and need their egos stroked constantly.

3. Men who are insecure about their sexual talents. These men are easy to spot. They want no woman over 25, no matter how old and ugly they are and they also want to make sure said woman or young lady is inexperienced. Sure, they claim that they want someone inexperienced because they're afraid of disease. coughbullshitcough. If you're that worried, you'd get yourself tested for everything regularly. When a 45 year old man wants someone inexperienced, he has issues and those issues could be cleared up by actually learning to please their partners. This breed needs their egos pumped constantly.

4. Men who are insecure about their looks. Most of these men are ones who aren't bad looking. However, like most attractive women, they have body image issues. They're not buff like the guys in the fitness magazines they read as they look for tips for the gym. Once again, they need their egos pumped constantly.

5. Men who should be insecure about their looks, but don't have a clue that they're ugly. These men have egos the size of Alaska and were probably jocks way back in high school. They probably peaked back then too. Just saying hi to them in chat means you want them. When you turn them down, you're a lesbian. They need no one to pump their egos, they're just under the impression that they're not getting laid because all women are lesbians.

6. Men who want free call girls. OK, these tend to be the n00bs, who believed by joining up in the afternoon, they could have their dicks sucked by a some sperm-burping gutter slut by that night. Not to mention, have the hot, porn star type women lined up outside their door, waiting their turn. Yet another unredeemable group, when you tell them you want dinner and conversation before sex, they tell you while their gold ball is showing in chat, that they've never paid for sex and they're not about to start. I suspect many of these men are still virgins at 40.

7. Men who don't want to have sex with their wives, but want to have sex with you. These men have no respect for women whatsoever. Most of them are not just cheating on their wives, but their mistresses too. Any woman with a grain of common sense will stay away from this type.

8. Men whose wives won't touch them. Hey, if you're that boring in bed, why would I want you? It's not my fault that you take your wife for granted to the point where she's doing that kid down the street who grew up all of the sudden while off at college. Trust me when I say that kid appreciates her more than you do.

9. Men who are needy and desperate. They can't approach women in real life, yet they expect women here to be ready, willing and able. They have no social skills and think screaming in the chat rooms that they'll perform cunnilingus, um, excuse me, that "I eat pussy!" will get them somewhere with the women on the site. They're incapable of holding an intelligent conversation, scream that they're nice guys who are sick of seeing the jerks get all the women, but the simple fact is, they're jerks too. They can't see themselves for what they are.

10. The wannabe lothario. This is a man who wants to have sex with every woman within a certain radius, who thinks he's God's gift to women. He wants to go from one night stand to one night stand. Having sex with him will do nothing but pump his ego and make him think that he can do better with the next one. This breed becomes bitter after dumping a woman after a brief affair and finding out it's not as easy to get laid on here as he thought. His ego proceeds him. And in general, his aftershave, by about 20 feet. You can smell these guys coming in real life.

11. The smart, well spoken gentlemen with respect for women. This is the rarest of breeds on the site. These are also the guys getting into our pants. They treat us well, they're willing to have conversations and won't try to get into our pants before the entree arrives, nor will they insist on talking about sex or the pros and cons of the nearest motels or hotels during dinner. These men have been known to send thank you notes the next day. The drawback to this breed is, you don't know if it's a player playing the part of the well spoken gentleman, or if he is sincere. But either way, the other breeds on this site could benefit by taking a lesson from these men.

Well, that's all I've got at the moment. I realize I have left a few out. Now, I sit back and wait for the flame comments from the first ten breeds listed... Fun, fun, fun! And ladies, of course you're welcome to add any breeds I left out.

Gee... I managed to get 11 breeds listed, when men can only list 5 or so breeds of women on here. Who says men aren't more complicated than women?

rm_VoodooGuru1 49M
2053 posts
8/23/2005 1:11 pm

"...they tell you while their gold ball is showing in chat, that they've never paid for sex and they're not about to start."

Great observation.

"Who says men aren't more complicated than women?"

We were just chatting about that here: [post 71582].


rm_connor696 60M
834 posts
8/23/2005 2:31 pm

Hmm . . . this reminds me of a silly joke: There are only two sorts of people in the world--those who divide the world into two sorts of people and those who don't. (Damn that Aristotle and his freakin law of noncontradiction!)

It's funny, though, how so many motivations can lead to more or less the same surface behavior. But it makes life interesting, I guess (you know, in that may-you-live-in-interesting-times curse kind of way).

At any rate, I'm kinda happy to know that I might fall into a category beyond the dogs vs. pigs divide!


rm_DaphneR 58F
7938 posts
8/23/2005 2:57 pm

As much as some of the men here complain about women just playing games and not wanting to meet, there are men here that do the same thing. I've had a couple chicken out and call or email to cancel, never to be heard from again. One guy a couple years ago wrote me an email, harmless one really, and I answered back because he had asked a question that made me actually have to think. Well, he wrote back, saying how guilty he felt just about an email while he was picking his kids up from school and removed his profile. So, there are the posers who want you to think thay can talk the talk and walk the walk when in fact they run the other direction.

Have tongue, will use it. Repeatedly.


007sexy40plus 51F  
7603 posts
8/23/2005 3:36 pm

I think I have talked to a few of these types from the categories listed. But I need to add the men who want the petite/slim woman but yet he dogs a woman like me out and he looks like a bowl away from earning the frequent buffet award. But I guess thats good because hes not looking for a woman who can keep up and handle his ass, he's looking for one he can control. The guy who thinks because he has a large cock that women will look past his ugly face. I know a guy who changes his age constantly to find a woman that he difines as a little cum vixen. I think he changes his age because he's over 45 now he's suddenly 38 and not too many younger women want men over 40. He also pays for standards to contact him, so its obvious he's not getting much action if he has elected to pay for others.

The young men who think that because they prefer older women that every older woman will prefer them.

This is just my input, and things I have experienced.

Thats a pretty good post and (i'm ducking the items thrown by the other commenters) LOL

I am the real deal! "Come Get Me!!!"


StreaktheFreak 38F

8/23/2005 3:39 pm

even some of the sweetest most respectful guys on here are players...and sadly sometimes what they are playing at goes far beyond sex...


pseudohippie 49F

8/23/2005 11:12 pm

I'm a lucky, lucky woman. I found a #11 who is sincere.

AdultFriendFinder says men aren't more complicated than women...oddly, I just touched upon this exact issue in my own blog post today.

Maybe I share the half of my brain not occupied by SassyChrisls with MissAnn?


header1979 37M
507 posts
8/24/2005 8:40 am

Hey MissAnnThrope, great blog. I hope I am close to the #11 type. At anyway I try to treat a woman with respect. But I think guys have a gene that causes them to to say or do stupid things, particularly when the little head starts taking over from the big head. lol

I know that you have seen Rdy2try's blog with all the lame ass email from guys. Those email certainly illustrate the categories that you have listed.

PS: I think "you know who" is back with fake profiles in the magazine. I have been flamed by the new fake profile with nearly the same words that he has used before. Maybe you should have a 12th category for no-life asshole losers who couldn't get laid in a whorehouse with a $100 bill. lol


rdy2try4 51F  
3040 posts
8/24/2005 8:54 am

I agree with DaphneR, I have had the disappearing acts also.

However, I do love the men with their attitudes of "Tell them they are the best, cute, wonderful, and if they turn you down they are cheap, ugly, fat, sluts/whores that will never get laid." hahahaha Some truly think women are so stupid we will fall for any line and if they just wave a dick in front of us...oh hell we will be on them in seconds. Guys!!! ALL MEN HAVE DICKS!!! I mean, no one is going to fall for that crap OR change their minds on seeing someone like that. Funny it is that we get so horrid only AFTER the no thank you. hahaha Truly the men with the egos so high they can reach
the Mir Space Station with it, and of course they think we should be honored to be in the presence of such a dick, by and far are the most laughable. If they were so hot and so good, they would not be here looking, they would not need to flash us all, and definitely not tell us all how awful we are for not liking them. I don't believe Casanova EVER told a woman she was ugly. hahahaha And guess what...Casanova didn't even have a large penis. I want THAT kind of man!!! The secure one that doesn't need to prove himself to
anyone. But that is the #11 guy isn't it.

And MissAnn I will reiterate how funny it is that men can come on here and truly figure that they can be short/fat/stinky/no teeth/bald...just totally the grossest thing (no one named here it is just a description!!), and think that a Sharon Stone or a J-Lo is going to immediately show up on their doorstep with their panties off because......they were on AdultFriendFinder!!! Truly, the Moonlite Bunnyranch is open for business and it is not here. hahahaha And yes, the men complaining the most are the ones that try the least. A lame
"wanna screw" email and they are confused why we don't like it. hahaha

Be sure to check out rdy2try4 and see the lame emails we are
talking about. You will at least get a laugh and either see why we don't like it, or be ashamed that men act like this. Then again...you could be guy #11 and be glad these guys make your day easier. lol


MissAnnThrope 56F
11488 posts
8/24/2005 11:48 am

Daphne, thanks. I completely forgot the guy who's just out for attention and will never meet.

Thank you too, rdy, I also forgot the guys who get mean and nasty when you turn them down.

Last night, I was reminded of another classification. This is from a woman who is no longer on the site, as she ran into one too many of them... The guys who know they outnumber women on here 25 to 1, but act like when the talk to a woman or ask to meet her, he's doing her a favor. This is a breed with egos the size of the former USSR. They think they're God's gift to women and will never learn how lucky they are if a woman even answers their email here, let alone agrees to meet them.

So, we're up to 14 classifications...


nietchze 43M

8/25/2005 9:15 pm

ummm mom...where do i fit in?


MissAnnThrope 56F
11488 posts
8/26/2005 2:13 am

Son, you're in a class all by yourself.

However... I was reminded of one tonight in chat...

The guy who will jerk you around for months, saying he wants to meet, but always has an excuse not to meet. Then, when you call him on his shit, he acts like you're the bad guy. They will always have an excuse not to meet. Then they get pissed off when we tell them we're sick of the games.

Yet another type I was reminded of was, the man who wants to be chased by women. His ego is sagging, he wants to know he's wanted. You're supposed to come onto him, instead of the other way around. If you're determined to get involved with one of these, check your ego at the door, as all you will be doing is feeding his. Also, you will be the man in the relationship. So, throw out those skirts where this type is involved, unless you want him to wear them.


rm_ladyBgood46 61F
65 posts
1/21/2007 10:45 pm

I only recently discovered your blog, MissA, so forgive the visit to the wayback machine. I want to quibble a bit with your #7. There are men like that, no question. But your description is unfair to a large number of married men who would like nothing better than to stay married and faithful but who are married to women who have flat out given up on sex. I was in a close-to-sexless relationship for more than a decade with a woman, and the near universality of lesbian bed death after a year or two or five is what prompted me to go back to men at age 45, after having been only with women since I was 19. Lo and behold! I discovered that it wasn't just lesbians who were no longer doing the nasty, but heterosexual women in droves were apparently deciding that equality and feminism meant that they could refuse to put out and could shame/bully their husbands into being unwilling or unable to make demands. I believe this is a breach of marriage vows at least as serious as adultery. Having lived through the experience myself, I know how painful, humiliating and ego destroying it can be. While part of me thinks withholding sex is by itself sufficient grounds for divorce, the insidious way this happens is the aridity is typically gradual; one always hopes it will get better after the new job, the move, the kids get older, etc. And for most of the married men I've played with it's the children far more than their genuine affection and love for their spouses that keeps them in the marriage, ever hopeful but unwilling at 40 or 45 or 50 to settle for whatever little they're getting at home. And they've been *great* lovers, in the main; their women can't possibly be turning off the faucet because their husbands are incompetent in bed. The "wish it weren't so" guys also typically just flat out love women and the respect and affection you so eloquently capture in #11 has been there completely with most of these guys.


MissAnnThrope replies on 1/22/2007 9:29 am:
There's nothing wrong with the wayback machine.

I know there are both men and women who make their partners feel like shit and use sex as a weapon. However, I can name men from this site who were holding out on both their wives and their mistresses, while chasing some new piece. I've known both the wives and the mistresses in a few cases. Not wanting to touch the wive or the mistress, while chasing other women. It's not a happy feeling for them either. These are guys who only got married because they couldn't live without someone playing mommy.

rm_ladyBgood46 61F
65 posts
1/22/2007 10:39 pm

you said:
"Not wanting to touch the wive or the mistress, while chasing other women. It's not a happy feeling for them either. These are guys who only got married because they couldn't live without someone playing mommy."

Never met such a creature; must be an east coast thing (kidding -- not about the never having met one, about the EC). Men withhold, too; my sister was married for 12 years and lived sexless for 5 [5 years, no sex -- gawk]. I begged her to find a lover on the side, given that she was initially dead set against divorce, but she opted for the split and only by the grace of ghod was she able to manage a new husband, her kids, ex, all singing kumbaya around the x-mas tree. It's sick, in a kinda sweet way.

My current theory is that women cheat as an off ramp out of their marriages [mostly hoping to get into another one] while men cheat as a way to bear staying in the ones they've got. Having no interest in having a man around underfoot 24/7, so far hanging with married guys has worked for me.

My beef? . Single guys roughly age-appropriate for me -- call it 40 to 60 -- who are single/divorced/widowed somehow believe Spears or JLo are waiting for them around the corner. I've had the "how *dare* you sleep with married guys" conversation with a few people and my response has always been: show me a guy who's unattached, whose dick works without -----------, who's got a job and a car and his own place to live who's not 100+ pounds overweight, and I'll fuck him in a heartbeat. So long as he's interested in me. Haven't met one yet.


MissAnnThrope replies on 1/23/2007 12:16 am:
Oh, I know men withhold sex too. I also know there are women out there who would cause me to cheat if I was married to them. I can also name women who use or have used affairs as an off-ramp from marriage, because they're such twits who can't stand to not be in love, not have someone taking care of them, etc. How dare anyone suggest they leave before they find another man to take care of them?

I'm so glad you said that about single middle aged men. I blame Internet porn. The most vile, disgusting idiot who makes Comic Book Guy from "The Simpsons" or Wilford Brimley look sexy all think they deserve a supermodel or someone who looks like Jenna Jameson. Actually, that's most middle aged men. Most of my hate mail comes from men over 50 who think someone my age who looks the way I do, whatever the hell that means, has no right to know what she wants, but should fuck anyone who wants a quickie. I pray these men are virgins whenever I get such mail. Why? I don't want to think about them passing on their genes.

But I can't bring myself to date married men who don't have permission. However, 25 year olds actually appreciate women who don't want to talk about pop culture, the latest fashions and all of that.

rm_ladyBgood46 61F
65 posts
1/23/2007 2:53 am

you said: "25 year olds actually appreciate women who don't want to talk about pop culture."

I'm 51. I can't bear the thought of fucking someone who can't remember the JFK assasination. Maybe that makes me kinky beyond all measure but I can't help myself. I get a fair amount of mail from young guys -- over 30 mainly -- but they never follow through when I actually answer their e-mail.


MissAnnThrope replies on 1/23/2007 11:14 am:
I was three when Kennedy was assassinated and all I even remember is my mother being very upset, the horizontal hold being off on the TV and me thinking she was upset about someone stuck in an elevator, because of the picture flopping.

The over 30 single guys are strange. I swear, they're a bunch of girls. They want women to chase them, their feelings get hurt at the drop of a hat, I wouldn't be surprised if they expected women to show up for the date with chocolates and flowers.

MoonRise9 58M

3/20/2007 10:08 am

    Quoting rm_ladyBgood46:
    I only recently discovered your blog, MissA, so forgive the visit to the wayback machine. I want to quibble a bit with your #7. There are men like that, no question. But your description is unfair to a large number of married men who would like nothing better than to stay married and faithful but who are married to women who have flat out given up on sex. I was in a close-to-sexless relationship for more than a decade with a woman, and the near universality of lesbian bed death after a year or two or five is what prompted me to go back to men at age 45, after having been only with women since I was 19. Lo and behold! I discovered that it wasn't just lesbians who were no longer doing the nasty, but heterosexual women in droves were apparently deciding that equality and feminism meant that they could refuse to put out and could shame/bully their husbands into being unwilling or unable to make demands. I believe this is a breach of marriage vows at least as serious as adultery. Having lived through the experience myself, I know how painful, humiliating and ego destroying it can be. While part of me thinks withholding sex is by itself sufficient grounds for divorce, the insidious way this happens is the aridity is typically gradual; one always hopes it will get better after the new job, the move, the kids get older, etc. And for most of the married men I've played with it's the children far more than their genuine affection and love for their spouses that keeps them in the marriage, ever hopeful but unwilling at 40 or 45 or 50 to settle for whatever little they're getting at home. And they've been *great* lovers, in the main; their women can't possibly be turning off the faucet because their husbands are incompetent in bed. The "wish it weren't so" guys also typically just flat out love women and the respect and affection you so eloquently capture in #11 has been there completely with most of these guys.
Lady,
Thanks for your thoughtful comments here. While I certainly appreciate the frustration and heartache women feel about the intent and skills of many men, I also know that male-bashing doesn't do much to improve their intent and skills.

The world would obviously be a better place if everybody was more satisfied with whatever was available to them, in their marriages, relationships, here, or elsewhere. I wish people would focus on what might constructively move us in that direction.


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