Too big? Too small?  

Mikey_B1972 44M
134 posts
7/21/2005 9:26 pm

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Too big? Too small?

Everyone has their own taste when it comes to what attracts them to someone else. Some think it is shallow to judge a book by it's cover instead of seeing what's inside. He is too short, he is too tall, he has glasses, he is too skinny, he is too fat,etc...

Do you think if you weren't physically attracted to your boyfriend/girlfriend you have now, at the beginning, that you would even with them now? Would you have hit on him/her? Would you have winked or sent a drink?

Can you have a relationship if there is no physical attraction?

Mikey_B1972 44M

7/22/2005 4:38 pm

nbtnt-- i do agree about a friendship, BUT i am talking about the real deal. What if he ended up being totally opposite of what you expected. Do you HONESTLY think the flames would still burn? What if you didn't meet by the net. Let's say you like dark hair and green eyes, stocky build and italian. A guy that is light complected with red hair and amber eyes is sitting next to you at the bar. Do you look at him and think "he could be a great person inside", NO...You think, "he is not my type". Now jump back to him showing up and being opposite. The relationship would already be starting off with negativity. It would snowball effect until you can't even have sex with him without thinking of someone else or even start giving the headache excuses...

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frbnkslady 48F
6183 posts
7/24/2005 9:13 pm

LOL.. initial attraction. That says it all. I don't care if you shared words with him for a long time.. He could be Longfellow with the pen.. but if you are meeting him for the first HAVE to click for it to go to a physical level. You are making love to this person, having sex, being totaly intimate with them.. NOT their words. Does not work. Yes, you may 'feel' for them, from their words, but I think that is what becomes your friend. Maybe you can overcome that..most cannot, or will not.


Mikey_B1972 44M

7/25/2005 4:06 pm

Frbnkslady--You are correct. Initial attraction does say it all. A few times in the past, my girl would say "would you stay with me if i got fat?" I hated to be honest, but i told her two words--Jenny Craig. Sorry, i have my 'type' that i am attracted to. I just can't picture lifting up a roll to go downtown, and regardless how much i loved her words, i would end up cheating on her with the physical side that i needed to have.

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