Should I regret my past?  

MarLee495 56F
44 posts
8/9/2005 9:08 pm

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Should I regret my past?


I've been chatting with a few friends lately and talking about my past. I have had a real desire to act the way I used to act, but I know it's not a good thing.

I have had a lot of men...although all I have done is suck them. I love the way it feels to have a hard cock in my mouth. I cheated on my husband this way...and thought I was through. My craving is pretty strong though.

mouthfull2001 51M

8/9/2005 9:29 pm

Sex guilt is the worst kind of guilt. It's not healthy to feel guilty over urges that are hormonally driven, that you can't shut off just because you want to. When you want to blow your husband, you don't think twice about it. These are the same chemical urges that drive you blow other men. This is a losing battle. I wonder if you can satisfy this urge by blowing your husband more often. This is the way -- and don't take this the wrong way -- that sex offenders are actually treated by therapists: encouraged to hypermasturbate while fixating on their most alluring fantasy. In theory, this takes the charge out of the fantasy, by rendering it routine. What I'm getting at is, instead of veering away from this urge, veer closer to it. Besides, is hubby gonna mind?


lifeisablast333 53M

8/9/2005 9:33 pm

wow if you are still in a marrage, you could end up regreting your future. bill clinton did not think it was cheating either.


breastcummer 51M

8/9/2005 9:49 pm

OF COURSE, BEING A MAN, I HAVE TO SAY THAT THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH WANTING TO GIVE HEAD ALL THE TIME. HAVING SAID THAT, I CAN KIND OF RELATE IN A STRANGE SORT OF WAY. I AM A BIG RACK TYPE OF GUY. WHEN I WAS MARRIED, MY WIFE HAD SEVERAL FRIENDS WHO WERE VERY TOP HEAVY, AND I SPENT MANY NIGHTS AND AFTERNOONS PLEASING MYSELF, AND THEM, BY ENJOYING THEIR HEAVY, PHYSICAL ATTRIBUTES. I ONLY HAD ACTUAL SEX WITH TWO OF THEM, BUT HAD MANY SESSIONS OF TF ING WITH ALL OF THEM. WRONG?? PROBABLY. DO IT AGAIN?? HELL YES!! IF THERE IS NO PENETRATION, IS IT CHEATING?? IF IT IS NOT CHEATING BUT YOU GET OFF, OR THEY GET OFF, OR BOTH, DEFINE CHEATING...............


rm_bic5022 65M/37F

8/9/2005 9:50 pm

I don't think you should be afraid of your past. What you enjoy is what brings you pleasure. As one who has also enjoyed many woman (I'm male) you need to focus on enjoying life in whatever form. Your past is a guide to who you are...and need to be.

The mind is the largest sex organ in the body. If sucking brings you intense pleasure go for it! Your pic is very sexy...take advantage of that and share.


c1ngl3 45M
7 posts
8/9/2005 10:49 pm

Well its hard to say how did you used to act? I understanding cheating and yes like almost all men I have done my fair share of cheating, but I was onced married and now Im c1ngl3, but it wasent from me cheating she was cheating on me and it ended in a very ugly divorce. But I think that if your haveing problems with your mate, but yet you enjoy doing oral with other people then just do it, it might turn out bad but in the long run we are alive for now so live now do the things that excite you worry about it after your dead.


Chuckk48 60M
1082 posts
11/28/2005 8:36 am

We are all sexual beings, some of us are just more sexual than others. If your sexual desires are different from your husbands then you have a problem your going to have to handel (Frankly that happens to a lot of us). I think it's better to come to grips with who you are than try to deny it. Be honest with yourself about your sexual desires and understand while you may be able to suppress them you probably will not be able to change them. If you can separate sex from love that would be helpful, if you can't then it's something your going to have to figure out how to deal with.


rm_needyou48429 62M
2 posts
12/7/2005 6:18 am

should not be worried about your past,and the only one you are hurting is yourself by not exploring what you want and desire.


west_mi_man 51M
1 post
12/15/2005 9:19 am

We all have needs and personally if you have been committed to your husband's life and your family that extends well beyond a physical relationship. You have given them your heart and all your emotional support, you aren't giving that to anyone else. In one way or another we all have these needs. Don't criticize yourself, self doubt isn't worth it.


Godfather040560 57M

12/15/2005 11:02 am

Have you ever considered sharing these feelings with your husband? Who knows he may get turned on by the thoughts. Start slow and fantasize with him and role play feel the situation out and see if he is as adventurous as you see to be. You never know you may end up wih the best of both worlds


busters1968 57M
1 post
1/6/2006 12:48 pm

The past is the past ,All we have is too day


rm_softeyes1956 61M/57F

2/10/2006 2:09 pm

The obvious question is does he take care of you sexually and sensually? If not, then what you are doing makes more sense. Do you desire him or did you marry for other reasons. We were both married prior and we match up 100 percent in these regards now. If you think you should stop for none of the above, then you need to explain further or go further to figure it out. Best K/J


2totango35 49M/51F
3 posts
1/12/2007 7:21 pm

I believe you can find a middle. Some individuals are much more sexual than others. While on the other side, you can still have a great life with your spouse. It is very hard to find both in a relationship and if you do it's hard to keep it together for to long. I say life is too short and why not scratch that itch on occasion. It just sex. Usually hot passionate sex! IF your lucky you can bring your spouse into the equation occasionally. I can still look back on some hot nights in my past and truly have no regrets. Doesn't take away from the love I have for my spouse.


perfectgentl69 58M

3/8/2008 12:38 pm

This is something that will always be with you. You may not think about it for some time - but you will never forget. You have to be comfortable with yourself. Find a place to store these memories and chalk them up to experience. I know - I have the same issue - and yet, here I am too. I love my wife and wouldn't trade her for the world. I just want more sex than she does. I want more oral than she does. Sounds like we have similar issues. Take care of your head - keep your memories stored where you can be comfortable with them. You don't ever need to discuss them with anyone. Keep your home face on and keep smiling. You're obviously doing many things right.


kinkinmi 52M

7/25/2010 6:35 am

I it not always healthy to resist a strong urge. I am a local, discrete professional that would love to help you indulge, after getting to know you a bit.

- Alex


tjohn1952 52M

7/25/2010 4:51 pm

We are who we are. If you try and change yourself to be a better mate for someone then we are not being true to ourself and hiding behind something we are not. If you regret your past that is different. Then you are just coming to grips with your own sexual desires. If you find pleasure in your desires then you should indulge in your fantasy's. We are only here for a short while and pleasure is one of lifes greatest fantasy.


MrFriendlyMI 48M

7/28/2010 9:02 am

Hey MarLee. Whatever makes you happy is what counts. Evidently, it's something that you aren't getting at home & seek elsewhere. Whoever those men are, let me say "You lucky dogs". LOL


tcmaleperv 57M

10/1/2010 7:43 am

I can really relate to your comment about missing your past and acting the way you used to. I've done and enjoyed so many things including when I was married and fortunately with my now ex but having kids, work, community involvements, and damn it Age, it's much harder to pursue those memorable times yet like you the craving is still strong. I would suggest you take a chance and share your desires with your husband (of course as unfulfilled fantasies) and maybe as you are out at an adult club in GR that you suggest going to for a night of something different like pool, drinks and eye candy and tell him after you've both started to feel the glow of the drinks. Now if you're uncomfortable about a night out near where you live because you might run into your Mayor, Pastor, Doctor, Kids Teachers, State Rep/Senator or simply your Neighbors, I recommend a weekend to another city with the availability of such night life. Failing getting your husband to agree to such a night out, I suggest an enjoyable Color Tour Weekend in Northern Michigan.......Alone.


redwolf2 69M

10/8/2010 1:45 pm

MarLee,
Come be part of my life; I can be discreet and being retired I can be available. I have a cabin in Pentwater or am willing to travel to GR to be with you. It may not be what we should do, but it certainly is a thrill to do,
With all my Lust...redwolf2


rm_Nunozs 38M
82 posts
12/19/2010 12:36 pm

nice legs luve 2 see the rest of it im sure ur a lovely milf


laughsonly77 58M

1/15/2011 5:44 am

This may be the only way I can get your attention...since I can't email!

We've chatted before...Cozmo5877 was my former 'alias'.

I never knew of this 'passion' of yours!


chimper87 30M

1/30/2011 6:25 am

hey there, want a younger man? i'd love to see how the inside of your mouth feels around my thick shaved cock.... my webcam is up right now, you should take a peek... i'd love to meet up this morning and see how dirty we can get.


tommy51512001 51M
9 posts
3/10/2011 9:59 am

lets talk ,would be good buddy to you


secretlunchlover 45M
5 posts
3/10/2011 4:26 pm

So Marlee, what have you decided about your issues?? I am curious to hear what you have to think or say!


bifemhot4bigfun 51M/37F

3/27/2011 2:57 pm

I TAKE IT YOU ARE HIDING YOUR FEELINGS IN A HIDDEN CHAMBER OF YOUR HEART--I THINK WE BOTH WANT AND NEED THE WORLD WE HAVE CHOSEN YEARS AGO TO BE AS ENRICHED AS POSSIBLE, TO BLOSSOM AND FLOWER INTO THE FRUITS OF OUR LABORS LONG HOPED FOR AND HARD WORKED FOR, AND NOT TO HURT THE ONES WE LOVE AT HOME WHO HAVE INVESTED SO MUCH IN OUR LIVES, AS WELL, IN GOOD FAITH. ENERGIZED, BUT ONLY TEMPORARILY DESTABILIZED.
I CHERISH THE POWER AND BEAUTY OF THE EMOTIONS, AND USE THEM TO MOTIVATE ME TO CREATE THE MOST ENLIVENING ROMANCE AT HOME THAT IS POSSIBLE. INVESTING IN MAKING LOVE TO THE SOUL, THE INNER CHILD, THE HOPEFUL YOUNG ROMANTIC, TO LAUGH, AND PLAY AS WELL AS HAVE WILD AND HARDCORE ADULT FETISHES MADE A REALITY. I WISH US ALL THE BEST IN OUR BALANCING ACT OF LOVE AND LIFE AND HOPE AND PLEASURE AND NURTURE AND AUTHENTICITY WITHIN OURSELVES.--THE HOT AND HOPEFUL TRAVELER.


JimK1948 68M

3/30/2011 9:53 pm

First of all, you have the beautiful legs that I have seen in quite awhile! Absolutely perfect. Secondly, I really wish I was back in East Grand Rapids, where I worked for a year. I'll say it again, great legs.

I would not regret your past. I would not discuss it with your husband either. But it is your present that is the real issue. I would focus on getting what you want at home from your husband. If more affection is desired outside of the marriage, for whatever reason, let it be a positive loving discreet and guilt free experience.

And if you want a really discreet experience, contact me at .....


rm_normal4unow 51M
19 posts
4/14/2011 1:30 pm

well I would love to help you out on your little project. If you are looking for someone normal and fun let me know.
Dan


justmemuskegon 50M

8/20/2011 5:08 am

MarLee,

It is extreemly hard to conrtol the passion and the desire once we have that. I can remember when I was married and my wife told me to go find someone that could please me. That hurt terribly. And yet at the time I didn't look. Eventually it did come to that. At least it sounds like you do have sex with your husband.

jm


ronisub 60M
10 posts
9/3/2011 1:42 pm

Hi Marlee495, not sure what you did in the past was right or wrong but if you like sucking cock you should do it. I am not volunteering for you and I to get together, but would like to chat with you about the right and wrong of it and whatever you like to chat about.

roni


yours4affair 49M

9/17/2011 10:13 am

I think all of the guys are wanting to let you use our cocks, .
I think the underlying problem is you have the desire as we all have the desire to be naughty, the thrill of possibly being caught, the thrill of a new partner. Not just the sex always.


1horny60 57M

10/1/2011 6:14 am

Sexual urges can be very strong, I usually give into them myself


fun44sl 64M
1 post
11/15/2012 2:29 pm

Well no, Its good for your hair and complexion ! LOL


JC6131 55M
2 posts
9/22/2013 4:14 pm

MarLee, you raise a rather critical question that i think we all wonder about in our lives. I will tell you upfront I am not one to judge anyone as I know I am not perfect in my life.

We all wonder what our regrets in life should be, and only we should be the judge of what our own regrets should be. If you have a desire, that drives you, perhaps that is who you are. I will ask you have you ever thought of including your husband in your adventures? You may (or may not) find some new and exciting things that the both of you can share. However not knowing your relationship, I have no idea if this would work or not.

I guess the only real advice I can give you is that you have to be who you are. Some desires are part of who we really are. I wish you the best no matter what you decide. Say hello if you wish to chat sometime, about this or other things, John


michfuncpl4 60M/51F  
7 posts
12/2/2013 11:02 am

oh i like your past!! i understand the rush you must get kneeled in front of a man his hard throbbing cock in your mouth his hands holding you by your hair!!! it allows you to be a little slut briefly!! good therapy for a perfect lady otherwise!!
Randy


6shivashakti9 67M/56F  
47 posts
8/24/2014 8:38 am

Celebrate your past.


teaser19554u 61M  
5 posts
9/3/2014 6:54 pm

the only true regrets are for the things you did NOT do......


KBC1950 66M  
67 posts
9/3/2014 7:23 pm

No, you should not regret your past.

You did what you did then for whatever reasons were relevant at the time.

What you can do is remember what happened and use that to influence the decisions you make now and in the future.

We all have desires, some are new and some reflect on our past. What you need to decide is do you act the way you used to act or not and why is not a good thing. If you are not happy acting the way you are now then that is not a good thing.

You have cheated and stopped and now want to start again, is now any different to when you cheated before.


BigGuy2Try 56M  
4 posts
6/23/2016 7:54 am

According to a former President of the US, blowjobs aren't sex. You're good.


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