Why are we here??  

MajorEasy 46M
3805 posts
12/8/2005 9:48 am
Why are we here??


I recently met a pretty young thing...and didn't think she needed to be here for her kicks...but she said she wants to have sex but does not have time for a relationship...nor does she wish to jeopardise her friendship with guys she knows...hmmm...wonder what reasons, other than just random sex, are people in this site for??


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mr_simply_me 45M
842 posts
12/8/2005 11:23 am

Well..
Well.. Tell us your objective...

I joined AdultFriendFinder many years ago when it real cheap... I was out of curiosity and life needed a little boost.

After that, I stopped for 5 yrs plus and now I am back. The reasons for me to be here and then is so so different.

Then, I was young, thought this place was where adults are and where Fun and interesting things happen, like you get bedded or vice versa. Guess was horny then....But Asia Friend finder had more interesting people...

Anyways... stop for 5 yrs and now I am back. More matured and know what I really wanted...

@ first, it was for knowing people... understanding their thoughts and feelings of join AdultFriendFinder.

Then, it was about chatting and meeting with like minded people... Ladies especially.

Then, the thought of crossing the line and finding a lover who will fulfil the needs of you and vice versa in mental, emotional, sexual needs....

Now, where I am?? I am not sure... But I may be back to where I was in the first place on the second foray into AdultFriendFinder...

For me, sexual is the least priority.....


rm_wtsling 39F
31 posts
12/10/2005 9:58 am

Hmmm, what are sweet young thing's chances of bumming into her male friends on this site I wonder. Someone pointed out to me the sheer amount of men on the site is a few times more than the amount of women so her chances of bumming into her male friends will be very high... Anyway, bravo to her for knowing why she is on this site...


MajorEasy 46M
2693 posts
12/10/2005 11:21 am

Very true wtsling sweetie...

But as I've always maintained...meeting in here in not a problem as the other person has already conceded the moral highground for being here too...

In any case...there's less hassle in here since sex is out in the open...and it's just a matter of choice / timing to proceed or not...

I don't really buy the 'I'm not here for sex' pitch...sorry MSM...but mate...why be in here otherwise?? I was just wondering the reasons people give themselves for being here, that's all..sex is a given...methinks...


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There is no use getting, into heavy petting
it only leads to trouble, and seat wetting.....
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mr_simply_me 45M
842 posts
12/10/2005 7:55 pm

Well.. MajorEasy...

It is a matter of opinion.... I never said sex is not part of it. But it is the least part of it.

It is different if you are married and when you are single....
Especially if you are in a ok/good marriage....However there is a void somewhere...

If you want to have just sex, it is easy.... No emotional input....
It is easy to find ladies who are charged up to have sex....
Never think it is not possible...Basically, I think it is easy...
When there is that emotional input.... This is different...
Sorry mate... I am not what you think....
To fill that void (sexual, emotional, or mental)... it is more simple for a person who has less sentiment and who is out to have fun...
If you are out to conquer as many as you want, it is a choice....
If a married guy wants to cheat, he needs to know where he is going to head, and bare the consequences... (this is where married guy and lady make a difference. Most of the time, the guy lose greater than the lady)
Anyways a cheater in someway needs to find a virtual story for himself/herself to tell... Just to cover his/her tracks...
It can be tiring.... When you get married... as long as your spouse don't know what you are doing, it is fine...
But it is not my... It is a choice of you to believe or not....
May be I am just a weirdo...lol

Have a nice weekend...


mr_simply_me 45M
842 posts
12/10/2005 7:57 pm

So Major... u still have not answered the question,

What is your motive?? Just to bed as many as you can in life?

Or just to please as many women as you can for the sake of their one time happiness??

Come on... mate... don't be shy...


MajorEasy 46M
2693 posts
12/11/2005 10:57 am

Hahahaha...mate...thanks for thinking that I'm trying to serve the ladies...but since you asked...my purpose of being here is rather more self serving..

Most women I've met know why I'm here...while I have no trouble meeting women irl...I am also dead set on migration...as soon as it is approved as a matter of fact....so I just want strings-free relationships for now...the last thing I want is a girlfriend who would ask me not to go when the time comes...this also explains why I'm more comfortable in the swing scene or with married women...I don't have a problem about crossing the line or 'cheating'...we're all adults here and I don't really see why one thing (like marriage...) should stop a person from having another (like friendship, closeness, emotional support or physical enjoyment).

It's my belief that we cannot satisfy all aspects of another person...and neither should we try...humans are more complex than that and the only way this can happen is to put limits on the other person...ie...if you love me, you wouldn't do this or that...it's pretty much like saying...stop being yourself..I'm so fantastic all around that you shouldn't want nor need anyone else for anything in your life from now on since I'm here...bah...it makes me sick...it's just sex for crying out loud...think of the jokes in sitcoms about men getting upset when their women call the plumber in to fix a leaky pipe...how insecure can one be to want to control another persons thoughts and feelings and life??

If I ever decide to get a life partner...and she feels that the way I offer sex is not to her liking...while many other aspects of our relationship is great...I would actually encourage her to find a fuck buddy (or buddies)...that way...when she's with me...she is a happier person to be around. Would you be upset if your partner has a regular tennis partner or mahjong kaki of the opposite gender?? If not, then why would you be upset if it's sex?? Who decided that this one thing should be exclusive to only one partner?? I can see how it made a bit more sense before contraceptive...but that is no longer a concern...

Whatever thing we do with enotional input will make it different...I've watched plays with a woman who shares similar ideals and feelings...and one play can be such a moving experience...when compared to watching it with another woman who doesn't care for it(she could be prettier, smarter, sexier...etc..)...doesn't make me want to commit to the first woman and say I'll never watch another play with anyone else...don't you think that is a load of crap too??

If it's your personal belief that you don't want to do something...cool...knock yourself out...but if it's YOUR belief yet you impose it on your supposedly loved ones...in order to restrict what they can get out of life....then it's nothing more than despotism and self-righteousness....BUT...when you restrict yourself on what you can do, even though you want to, because you THINK that it is not acceptable (without even checking first on to whom it is unacceptable...)...then mate...it's plain dumb!

While I do not judge another based on their beliefs...I do have a problem when someone tells me that there's only one way to look at or to do something...and doing it any other way is sinful or wrong...well...who died and made this someone the rule-maker of the universe??

My take is simple...live your life...compromise when you have to...but live it as if it is the only one you're going to get...don't let sex or anything else be controlled by what you think others would think...as long as it is acceptable to all parties involved at the time...and all parties are mature persons who can think for themselves...no other person should have a say in it...have you heard of the butterfly effect theory?? If we worry about how one fart may add to the global warming effect which will kill humanity...then in reality...we should all just stay in bed and name ourselves chicken little...because everything we do can and will affect other people...intentionally or otherwise...just do what you think is right, without pushing it on another...and let nature takes its course.

Sorry to go off like this...but I'm a little tired of people labelling having sex with another person who is not a spouse as cheating...please...not declaring how much you earn for income tax purpose is cheating...the first thing is called having some fun while trying to juggle life and all its complexity.


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There is no use getting, into heavy petting
it only leads to trouble, and seat wetting.....
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mr_simply_me 45M
842 posts
12/11/2005 12:17 pm

well... Major.. long piece of comment...

you have your stand well others have other points... So let it put it this way... That is why we are never born equal....

You do not impose on others and others don't impose on you....
whether you like it or not.. So you are not among the normal it is fine... Your believes are ok but it does not mean we have the same... lol

But I must like some of your stands....

So relax mate... You have contradictions here... but I am not going to pick them... as life goes on...



Goosh I have a flight to catch..... Bye...

Please summarise next time...


mr_simply_me 45M
842 posts
12/11/2005 12:24 pm

Last point...

I think I may have give you a wrong interpretation of

"Anyways a cheater in someway needs to find a virtual story for himself/herself to tell... Just to cover his/her tracks...
It can be tiring.... When you get married... as long as your spouse don't know what you are doing, it is fine...
"

Now this part is very difficult for Asian Ladies to accept their Men who makes out with others... Now.. you are into swing couples... if is fine as both have agreed...

Now the question is just one married spouse... is there an agreement?

Anyways... the above is a senario of current society.... We need lots of Majoreasy and his companions to make the society change...

Yes... heard about your migration and situation.. hope all goes well for you....

Really... don't purse on this matter.. relax mate.. spent it on with others... It is just matter of opinions...


chocolatcreme 104F
766 posts
12/12/2005 10:22 am

I was curious, then I wanted sex. Had it once and think, ok. Enough for now. Not that I have low sex drive. But, when the primitive urge is quench, the secondary and complex mind part comes in.

It is complicated. Now, where are my animal urges? Tucked between you shirt and pants?


happyladychat 47F
3740 posts
12/13/2005 4:12 am

Interesting exchanges here..... very insightful..... and very frank....

I guess I'm here bcoz you get to know people who are open-minded and don't mind sharing naughty thoughts. I bet you couldn't bring this kind of conversation in normal social settings, can you? That's why I'm here....



Make it your challenge.... turn me ON!!


bacca_laureati 42M

12/13/2005 9:12 am

You could, but I wouldn't recommend it. I'm never getting invited to that Christmas party again ...


MajorEasy 46M
2693 posts
12/13/2005 10:28 am

MSM...peace mate...I don't mean any harm...this occasional venting is my way of letting off steam and regaining my balance in life..

chocolatecreame...welcome and I do agree with you...once sex is out of the way...it's important that we still have something common which we wish to share...
But hmmmm..not sure what you mean about your animal urges being tucked in between my shirt and pants...dear god...please get them off me...if they find the fun bits lower down, I may never get rid of them...

happyladychat...welcome too and thanks for thinking we are interesting...
I see why you're here and it's great...but there are people out there who are frank and won't blush when talking about sex...it just takes time to find them...anyhoo...am glad you're enjoying the site..

bacca...mate...who are you talking to and what are you on??

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There is no use getting, into heavy petting
it only leads to trouble, and seat wetting.....
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bacca_laureati 42M

12/14/2005 5:27 am

Haha, should have quoted but hoped it was obvious enough that I was refering to the post immediately before mine - happyladychat's. As for what I'm on it's an old wooden dining chair with optional butt cushion, the complete series of Monty Python's Flying Circus, and my friend's Eddie Izzard DVD collection. = )


MajorEasy 46M
2693 posts
12/14/2005 9:55 am

Hahaha...good one mate...as to happylady's question...methinks it ok to discuss sex openly in normal social circles too...while many will treat me as an outcast for doing so...many will contact me on the quiet to discuss further...overall...it's a really nice trade off...losing narrow-minded bigots while gaining open-minded friends...it's absolutely win-win!!


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There is no use getting, into heavy petting
it only leads to trouble, and seat wetting.....
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lingling_0831 45F
2 posts
12/19/2005 10:19 am

To MajorEasy

Your words: I don't really buy the 'I'm not here for sex' pitch...sorry MSM...but mate...why be in here otherwise?? I was just wondering the reasons people give themselves for being here, that's all..sex is a given...methinks...

Telling you: I am not here for sex. I enjoy the attention I get from here. I like the posted articles, enjoy reading them. I like to see how you guys and gal chat.

Question for you: you believe me?


mr_simply_me 45M
842 posts
12/19/2005 11:45 am

lingling....

Matter of opinion... I shall not debate on this....

never said it was... or it wasn't... I just mentioned that it was least priority for me...

I do chill out with some ladies here... it is not about sex... not going to list my friends here...

We do evolve in thoughts and wants.... if I am here for sex... sorry for any offence... what is the same as visiting pros?? I have not visited such too.. lol

Isn't there more than sex??

Last point.. I do believe u when u tell it to me personally... Or your stand is pretty consistent throughout....

Merry Xmas...


MajorEasy 46M
2693 posts
12/20/2005 9:31 am

"Question for you: you believe me? "

Of course I believe you sweetie...why wouldn't I??

I was talking mostly of the guys in here...guess I'm bias...many guys I know come in here thinking this is the free for all they have been searching for all their lives...then after a while of being ignored...and realising that this is not the promised land they seek...they change their play and state they are not here for sex...

Well...what you stated is exactly what I was asking for...a real reason for being in here...with or without sex on your mind...I didn't ask for why a person is still in here...but for why a person would join this site upon first being introduced to it...other than to look for sex.

I've been told many times it's just curiosity...but at what level?? What others do?? How others feel about it?? How often others are getting it?? Why do others join a site like this?? What sort of person joins a site like this?? ...OR....could I get some attention and/or sex too??


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There is no use getting, into heavy petting
it only leads to trouble, and seat wetting.....
.


rm_W223344Y 41F
34 posts
12/27/2005 11:27 am

im here to find a man who can make quiver all over, and i have found him. thanks honey


MajorEasy 46M
2693 posts
12/28/2005 9:24 am



Straight to the point as usual...

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There is no use getting, into heavy petting
it only leads to trouble, and seat wetting.....
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rm_wtsling 39F
31 posts
12/28/2005 5:46 pm

Seeking the unknown sexuality I think is what the curiosity is about... curious to know if you can get winks/mails/guys/gals... curious to find out how far you can go in seeking that ultimate sexual experience... curiosity is a powerful motivational force... it's a killing machine... havent you heard before that curiosity (can even) kills the cat (with supposed 9 lives).... hehehe


MajorEasy 46M
2693 posts
12/30/2005 9:42 am

Ultimate sexual experience????

Woah sweetie...is there such a thing?? Wouldn't one become seriously bored with life once that is achieved??


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There is no use getting, into heavy petting
it only leads to trouble, and seat wetting.....
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rm_wtsling 39F
31 posts
12/30/2005 11:53 am

Well the fact that you aint sure what that ultimate experience will be (even when it hits you in the fact) will push you to seek more and more and more and more..... and the rest is history mate, history Like you asked... is there such a thing? I aint sure, I dont know... still seeking... wanna help me find an answer to that... ahaha


MajorEasy 46M
2693 posts
1/2/2006 11:13 am

*shake head*...greedy greedy...

Okie...let's give it a go...but if you end up in a hospital...don't say I didn't warn you beforehand...

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There is no use getting, into heavy petting
it only leads to trouble, and seat wetting.....
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it only leads to trouble, and seat wetting.....
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