Which is worse...01  

MajorEasy 46M
3805 posts
3/23/2006 9:47 pm
Which is worse...01


Having a partner who sleeps around but shares his deepest thoughts and feelings with only you....or having a partner who only sleeps with you, but shares his / her thoughts and feelings with everyone else...

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happyladychat 47F
3740 posts
3/23/2006 10:14 pm

Well... guess I wanted neither but I don't mind being both.

Make it your challenge.... turn me ON!!


rm_TyphoonS2000 46M
29 posts
3/23/2006 10:41 pm

i think both are equally worst.....

having a partner who sleeps around but never share their tots with u, that means you are stepping into the unknown zone of that person. They could be up to no good intentions or other things which you might not expect from them.......

having a partner who sleeps with u only but share their tots with others, that means they are doing things behind your back and you have been stabbed on your back not knowing wat kills you.....


rm_billblowjob 55M

3/23/2006 11:13 pm

keep it from ya dude


poison_syrup 43F
8533 posts
3/24/2006 12:19 am

The first is a better choice obviously. People are getting much more liberal in thinking and their partners might not be able to satisfy them in certain ways sexually. So its common nowadays that more people are sleeping around.

But bearing in mind that being physically satisfed is not all. A lack of emotional and intellectual communication between two souls is even worse.

So long as both parties are open to the idea, why not?


Angel Of Sins


MajorEasy 46M
2693 posts
3/24/2006 10:00 am

Oh dear...sorry folks...my bad for not making it clearer...

What I meant is which one would be considered less acceptable in your eyes...both may be cheating but most people only rile about the physical one...

Assuming it is not discussed between partners and the fact is only known later...which one is the bigger betrayal??

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There is no use getting, into heavy petting
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mr_simply_me 44M
842 posts
3/24/2006 10:49 am

Well said poison syrup....

"A lack of emotional and intellectual communication between two souls is even worse."

Cannot agree more

Cheers
MSM


poison_syrup 43F
8533 posts
3/25/2006 12:55 am

ME

Most people will find the first a greater betrayal, I suppose, but its the latter for me. You can get physical with your partner or anybody. But to me, the physical part (I classify it under Human Lust)is insignificant. Its only if you think deeper, what hurts more is when you realised your partner had shut you out of their hearts due to failure in communicating and understanding and they are no longer seeking solace in you but in others souls.


Angel Of Sins


MajorEasy 46M
2693 posts
3/25/2006 8:51 am

*clap clap clap*..Bravo....finally someone who thinks like me...outstanding!!



Yes...lacking in emotional and communication in a relationship is not the worst part...the worst part is when one's partner actually shuts one out while finding solace in another....

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sweetandspicy570 59F
2832 posts
9/24/2006 9:15 pm

    Quoting poison_syrup:
    ME

    Most people will find the first a greater betrayal, I suppose, but its the latter for me. You can get physical with your partner or anybody. But to me, the physical part (I classify it under Human Lust)is insignificant. Its only if you think deeper, what hurts more is when you realised your partner had shut you out of their hearts due to failure in communicating and understanding and they are no longer seeking solace in you but in others souls.
I agree!!

I would, of course, prefer to have both the physical and emotional sides of one I love.(but you asked us to choose one)
At the moment I'm not in love with anyone but I do need to feel an emotional connection to fully enjoy the physical relationships I do have.



Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.----Dr. Seuss


MajorEasy 46M
2693 posts
9/25/2006 12:11 pm

    Quoting sweetandspicy570:
    I agree!!

    I would, of course, prefer to have both the physical and emotional sides of one I love.(but you asked us to choose one)
    At the moment I'm not in love with anyone but I do need to feel an emotional connection to fully enjoy the physical relationships I do have.
Okie...let's assume he shares both with you...which is a bigger betrayal?...that he also shares the physical side of him with another woman...or also shares his emotional side with another woman...

Or don't you consider it a betrayal at all because he doesn't, strictly, belong to you???

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There is no use getting, into heavy petting
it only leads to trouble, and seat wetting.....
.


sweetandspicy570 59F
2832 posts
9/25/2006 2:33 pm

    Quoting MajorEasy:
    Okie...let's assume he shares both with you...which is a bigger betrayal?...that he also shares the physical side of him with another woman...or also shares his emotional side with another woman...

    Or don't you consider it a betrayal at all because he doesn't, strictly, belong to you???
Okay.... I would consider him sharing the emotional things with someone else a bigger betrayal.... in the case of someone who is mine....
But at this time I don't have anyone who is mine, so I really wouldn't have the right to feel betrayed, even if I am longing to be closer and have more sharing from him/them.



Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.----Dr. Seuss


MajorEasy 46M
2693 posts
9/26/2006 2:17 pm

    Quoting sweetandspicy570:
    Okay.... I would consider him sharing the emotional things with someone else a bigger betrayal.... in the case of someone who is mine....
    But at this time I don't have anyone who is mine, so I really wouldn't have the right to feel betrayed, even if I am longing to be closer and have more sharing from him/them.
...hmmm...when you're right aweetie...you're right...

Not a problem...it's a case for the future...either ways, I'm not sure it matters...as long as a person gives us the time we want, what he / she does outside of that should be fair game...maybe I'm too laidback??

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sweetandspicy570 59F
2832 posts
9/26/2006 4:09 pm

as long as a person gives us the time we want, what he / she does outside of that should be fair game...maybe I'm too laidback??

---I agree pretty much with that...the problem is that I want more of "you-know-who's" time than I'm getting, and it's making me a little nuts.
I'm trying to meet more people, but that's not working as well as i'd like either...
And yes, I do think that you are exceptionally 'laid back' compared to most of us. I wish I could be that comfortable with myself, since I think that's the basis of your ability to adopt a live-and-let-live attitude.



Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.----Dr. Seuss


MajorEasy 46M
2693 posts
9/27/2006 1:56 am

    Quoting sweetandspicy570:
    as long as a person gives us the time we want, what he / she does outside of that should be fair game...maybe I'm too laidback??

    ---I agree pretty much with that...the problem is that I want more of "you-know-who's" time than I'm getting, and it's making me a little nuts.
    I'm trying to meet more people, but that's not working as well as i'd like either...
    And yes, I do think that you are exceptionally 'laid back' compared to most of us. I wish I could be that comfortable with myself, since I think that's the basis of your ability to adopt a live-and-let-live attitude.
Heh heh cheers sweetie...

Think of what it is you want...he may not have enough time for himself...and you want more......it's normal to want more of anything when it's good...but over-doing it may make it less good and therefore spoils the original 'want'...

Being laid back is not hard...it's all about managing expectations...some things are achievable through perseverance...and some things are out of our hands...leave those we can nothing about alone and not worry about them...

I think you're doing great under the circumstances...

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There is no use getting, into heavy petting
it only leads to trouble, and seat wetting.....
.


sweetandspicy570 59F
2832 posts
9/27/2006 3:11 am

    Quoting MajorEasy:
    Heh heh cheers sweetie...

    Think of what it is you want...he may not have enough time for himself...and you want more......it's normal to want more of anything when it's good...but over-doing it may make it less good and therefore spoils the original 'want'...

    Being laid back is not hard...it's all about managing expectations...some things are achievable through perseverance...and some things are out of our hands...leave those we can nothing about alone and not worry about them...

    I think you're doing great under the circumstances...
Thank you hunny! I appreciate all the help and friendship that you've given me... I have to sleep soon since I have to leave for work at 3...but be looking for an email in the next day or so... I have updates for you. Hint: I was on IM with 'you-know-who' for more than four (yes 4) hours this morning! I had a crappy birthday, but this morning really helped me feel better. No, he didn't remember it was my birthday, but I didn't expect him to, but only one person from my 'real life' called me (not counting my kids). Bummer! Thank you especially for this....I think you're doing great under the circumstances...



Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.----Dr. Seuss


MajorEasy 46M
2693 posts
9/27/2006 11:23 am

    Quoting sweetandspicy570:
    Thank you hunny! I appreciate all the help and friendship that you've given me... I have to sleep soon since I have to leave for work at 3...but be looking for an email in the next day or so... I have updates for you. Hint: I was on IM with 'you-know-who' for more than four (yes 4) hours this morning! I had a crappy birthday, but this morning really helped me feel better. No, he didn't remember it was my birthday, but I didn't expect him to, but only one person from my 'real life' called me (not counting my kids). Bummer! Thank you especially for this....I think you're doing great under the circumstances...
Heh heh...my pleasure sweetie...

4 hours???!!!??? wow...if each of you went one way for an hour, met in the middle...you two could have spent 2 hours getting hot and bothered for real...

Happy belated birthday sweetie... ...what are you...26 this year??

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There is no use getting, into heavy petting
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.


sweetandspicy570 59F
2832 posts
9/28/2006 10:59 am

    Quoting MajorEasy:
    Heh heh...my pleasure sweetie...

    4 hours???!!!??? wow...if each of you went one way for an hour, met in the middle...you two could have spent 2 hours getting hot and bothered for real...

    Happy belated birthday sweetie... ...what are you...26 this year??
Thank you hunny! but I'd never want to go back to that age, unless I could go back farther and undo The Big mistake, so I could enjoy being 26. I have a daughter, single, who is 26, and I sure encourage her to live her life, don't settle! I'm 49 (not ashamed to say it), but since I have lost more than 10 years in my outlook over the past year, maybe I could be 39? I just got home from work, so I'll get started on that email soon or maybe sleep a little first



Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.----Dr. Seuss


MajorEasy 46M
2693 posts
9/28/2006 2:39 pm

    Quoting sweetandspicy570:
    Thank you hunny! but I'd never want to go back to that age, unless I could go back farther and undo The Big mistake, so I could enjoy being 26. I have a daughter, single, who is 26, and I sure encourage her to live her life, don't settle! I'm 49 (not ashamed to say it), but since I have lost more than 10 years in my outlook over the past year, maybe I could be 39? I just got home from work, so I'll get started on that email soon or maybe sleep a little first
Heh heh...my 39 yo sweetie...

No worries, take your time...get some rest first...talk later...

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There is no use getting, into heavy petting
it only leads to trouble, and seat wetting.....
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sweetandspicy570 59F
2832 posts
10/27/2006 10:26 pm

Wow! our own semi-private chat room.... funny you didn't get more responses to this...

{=}



Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.----Dr. Seuss


MajorEasy 46M
2693 posts
10/28/2006 3:32 am

    Quoting sweetandspicy570:
    Wow! our own semi-private chat room.... funny you didn't get more responses to this...

    {=}
Hahaha...that's true sweetie...it's strange...posts that I thought should be flooded are usually left empty...then those I thought no one would care about are usually filled...go figure...


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There is no use getting, into heavy petting
it only leads to trouble, and seat wetting.....
.


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