Security vs egotistical??  

MajorEasy 46M
3805 posts
12/19/2005 9:07 am
Security vs egotistical??


Had a fairly high octane discussion with a woman friend about the virtue of being good looking...and why I don't care how other's view me...

My take was that at any given time, as we walk down the street...it is not uncommon that at least a few people will look at us and think we're yummy...she is of the opinion that one is not attractive unless at least 70% of the people think we're yummy...and I therefore should try to keep up appearance...

I recalled a certain Mr. Cruise...not long after causing women to ruin cinema seat covers all over the world by flashing that annoying smile of his in 'Top Gun'...had a bike breakdown in L.A...and was totally ignored for hours as he tried to flag cars down...so the at-that-time sexiest man alive couldn't stop traffic, hard as he tried.

Just goes to show, I argued, that we can be considered attractive if we can even make one heart beat a little faster every now and then...

What I don't understand is why she makes life so tough on herself...do we really need to be attractive to everyone?? Would having only a few people find us incredibly sexy, a disappointment??

Could it be that women and men have very different standards when it comes to measuring our own sexiness??

My final words to her...being secure doesn't mean an unrealistic inflation of the ego...it's the acceptance that one cannot be attractive to everyone...if we only spend more time with those whom we attract...and less time trying to attract those who don't give a hoot...the world could be a nicer place to live in...


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eternal1969 47M
1634 posts
12/19/2005 10:17 am

Vanity is the name of the game.... all you good looking babes and dudes flash your photos on your profile while we ugly ducklings only reveal body parts


mr_simply_me 45M
842 posts
12/19/2005 10:44 am

Eternal....lol....

Cannot imagine you will write this.. be confident man!! Come on.. every lady is attracted to a guy in someway... I have seen the beautiful lady with a so so looking guy... or bad attitude guy... so what got to do with a good looking man!!

In general, it does make one more outstanding if you know how to handle yourself in social events... That is what we called a groomed man... Say the correct words.. say @ the correct time... make the best impact @ the best time....

I have yet show who I am accept some some face parts for a zigsaw puzzle in the blogs....

I am just simply ordinary!! Could be dashing if I want or be a grand uncle! I don't really care what people thinks... cosz I want them to remember of what I am and who I am inside which they will always remember....

Sorry Major.... It's your blog..... so here is my comment....

Question here is how shallow does one want to get to know u?? Being attractive is just a cover... Knowing what is inside is better...

So being attractive attract bees.. but they sting and leave marks! Being attractive helps but you still need the skills of handling a proper conversation...

Agreed.. just be yourself... that is why my handle... MSM...lol

As a parting shot... Hmm... none of the ladies who met me say I am dashing leh... LOL... We just have a good time together only... May be I should check this out with them...


Fox4aKnight1 43F

12/19/2005 10:50 am

LOL I don't give much of a care what people think (mostly). But then I am one of the few american Fems that is overweight and not trying to lose it. I have also never been on a diet in my life. LOL If someone likes me they like me. I just don't see the point in trying to please everyone. It simply can't be done. I stay clean and so on. I rarely wear make up and I wear glasses.I might wear a skirt once in a while and high heels when I do that. But at 6' 220lbs I can afford to do without the heels to make me tall. I know I am weird but then I like weird LOL. And that is all that matters. As to what your friend was talking about hun. Lots of people need that confermation that they are desirable. for their own self worth. Its a common thing.

Foxy.


rm_W223344Y 41F
34 posts
12/19/2005 6:32 pm

men and women do look at themselves differently. but i prefer men to be more like you, non't spend too much time in trying to look good (but still does) and have plenty of character within.


MajorEasy 46M
2693 posts
12/20/2005 9:42 am

Thanks to everyone for sharing...

Yes, I believe that everyone of us is attractive to at least some...in which case, trying to change (for the sake of changing our image) would not only make us a fake at best...it could lead to losing those who could have been attracted to us in the first place...

However, it seems she was quite certain that one gets nowhere without trying to look better than others....fair enough in isolated cases, I guess...but does it make sense?? Perhaps we're all guilty of judging purely by appearance...and until that perceptiion changes, she's not wrong in wanting to be attractive to more people...

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Funasianfemale 39F
23 posts
1/8/2006 10:42 am

heha, cutie you'll always be attractive to me.


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1/16/2006 4:52 am



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