Random rambling about men and women...  

MajorEasy 46M
3805 posts
7/7/2006 10:00 am
Random rambling about men and women...


Was thinking of posting this in my group...but since they have hijacked my group...I'll put it here and add there later...

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MajorEasy 46M
2693 posts
7/7/2006 11:31 am

First up...this is not a man vs woman thing...it's just what I have observed and I find it very interesting...hoping that people would discuss this and share their thoughts...

Secondly...there's no right or wrong...nor who is superior...all that is crap as far as I am concerned...what matters is that we are different...and the sooner we embrace this fact..the sooner we may find happiness when dealing with relationships...

Thirdly...this is a generalisation...I don't mean all men or all women are like this...but most...there are guys with feminine traits (don't laugh...doesn't make them a sissy...just that they're more in-tuned to their feminine side...and vice versa...)...so please...don't write in with "I'm not like that..." hurray for you...but let me know if none of your friends are like that...then we'll talk...

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I just had fairly mind-blowing sex earlier this evening...mostly because I needed it more than I thought...after that...I discussed a few things with her and the thoughts festered...so I went back to meet Da woman and we talked about it some more...no conclusions...just points...

We agree that women and men feel and view orgasms differently...for women, there are different types (clitoral, G-spot, external, internal, squeezing of muscles, vibration...they all feel different...) and intensities ( from the light buzz to the mind blowing...)...but for men...it's pretty much the same (the buzz...then blast off...then lights out...)...of course the setting and method to achieve it may vary...and that will add or take from the whole experience...but the actual orgasm itself...quite the same for men, not so the same for women...okie...before you go duh...here's an analogy...

If orgasms are pies...men will pick the finest apple pie...that's the ultimate...however...wherever he goes...to the kitchen, in the bedroom, at the gym, by the sea...he's always having an apple pie...but for women...they get to choose (to a limited extent...also dependant on her partner to some degree...)...but she can have a whole cherry pie in the kitchen this morning...then half a banana pie in the living room in the afternoon, or just a slice of pecan pie by the sea-side tonight...see what I'm saying??

What this means is...for women...if they find a mate they trust and like...having sex with him is usually ok...because depending on her mood...she can choose what pie she wants and how much of it she can handle...variety may add spice...but in her world...there's already variety...of course...no one will baulk at more choices...still...for the average woman...she has enough to keep her moderately happy...

Now to the men...since he gets only an apple pie wherever he goes...the WHO is giving him this apple pie becomes a topic worth obsessing over...it is really the only variety we have....I laugh when women magazines suggest we do it on the dining table for variety...obviously written by women who don't get this...if it's with the same woman...however much we love her...it's still just an apple pie...

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Next topic...about quickies....I talked to guy friends about this...and the consensus seems to point to a quick sex romp...women think the same too...but we define time vastly differently...

Most guys...when we say "I'll pop behind for a quickie"...we'll normally be back sipping our beers within 5 minutes...in fact...if you ask..and if they are being truthful...most guys think of quickies as less than 3 minutes...
Now women...most that I've asked...and I hope they were being truthful...a quickie...wait for this guys...to women...a quickie is around 10 to 15 minutes long...

Hahahahahaha...10 to 15 minutes for guys is the normal we expect for full-blown sex....of course we don't factor in foreplay, oral and other sex play...even then...full on, penetrative sex for 10 to 15???? WOW!!!!! (guys...don't even ask how long the girls think a non-quickie should last...)

See the mismatch of expectations here?? I blame it on the idiots who go around singing...I'll make love to you all night long...heh heh...I can't even try to talk to you all night long...

Is there any wonder why women usually feel their lovers wane after a while...they forget that in the early days (or what I term as honeymoon period...) most guys will go a few rounds...hence making one session seem a lot longer...this was discussed in Scribie's thread on the Coolidge effect...

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I've been contributing to the erotic stories section lately...and I've been reading lots from there...some good...some not so good...but what's interesting is the way males and females express their views...if you pick up some of this hints...and go read the stories...you're likely to figure out who is actually not a male, and who is actually not a female while claiming to be one...either that, or...that person is a very good story teller...thus able to neutralize this aspect to make the story more appealing to both genders...

Men...being visual beings...most of the stories by guys uses picture words...and one thing I actually dislike...is they love to say the woman has 38DD cups...or that she is blonde...or her figure is fantastic...

Yeah, sure...who wants to read about ugly...but there's also ego...the guys wouldn't want to be seen dead with a bony, 27A cup, bald chick...but where's the realism??

Women on the other hand...seldom describe the guys in too much detail...most that I've read...they state that the guy is hot...how so is up to your imgination...one other interesting thing...many will say...my friend agrees that he's hot...or the all the girls in the office thinks he's hot...etc...being hot for women is a commonly-agreed trait...if others didn't think so...he can't be that hot...

Women also cannot describe sex...they are suppose to be more verbose...yet words fail them in this area...most will say he made me moan...he touched me there and I came...I felt wave after wave of pleasure...no explanation of how or why...what it felt like?? No one seems to know...she just moaned...or screamed...or whimpered...the most graphic I've read so far is something like this...he's pushing into me and I think he'll split me...that's as close to how it went on paper...not much huh?? Yeah...they will talk about the guys...his penis pumped and pulsed and twitched...fair...since they feel it as an outsider...but not being able to voice their own actual feelings...something not quite right...they get from dry to drenched...nothing happens in between...

Men will describe the sex...they will mention the feeling of his dick...how her breasts feel...her pussy on his dick...etc...even the feeling at the point of orgasm...guys seems to be able to put those into words...we can also sense our erections...from growing to fully grown...to shrinking again...we talk about it....

One other thing...everyone in those stories have plenty of orgasms...especially if a guy is writing...she will get 3-4 before he even takes off his shirt...really???

Women are not spared here either...they have orgasms on sale...he kissed me passionately and I climaxed right there...oh??

Methinks this is wishful thinking on both sides...and it's a bit of a stretch..nothing wrong as it is fiction...just funny that's all...

One last thing...the hidden desires...many guys write about being with another man...women with women too...and girls writing about guys dominating them...or men writing about doing a friend's woman...sex with co-workers...all fairly harmless on print...but look at the stories with the most views and votes...some are seriously nasty...teacher's and students, cops and horses...whoa...

The general theme I get though...is that women write mostly in a passive way...that is...the guy does this or that to make her feel like this or that...but guys write that the woman will initiate things...and also...many women writers seem to accept guys doing stuff to them without consent...is that a type of fantasy? I mean...really...how many women will have an orgasm if a stranger walks up to her in a supermarket and stuck a finger in her??

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So...something to think about...see it in here...see it in real life...what does it say about us??

Isn't it great that we're so different?? Just hope we can find a way to understand each other and live together in peace...


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happyladychat 47F
3740 posts
7/7/2006 6:28 pm

Intesting write-up... I thought a sexually satisfied men would go to sleep with a smile on his face, and not rant and rave like you.

1st topic:

Personally, I find men are not as fussy compared to women. That's why a contented man wouldn't mind just getting on with one woman. How do identify such man? Just ask if they mind eating chicken rice every day for lunch. Usually, their reply will be negative in that they don't mind having the same dish every day.
(I did an observation study on this, but again... my study may not be representative since my candidates are just among few good friends.)

As for you... I would tend to think you are far from contented.

2nd topic:

I think a quickie is short and sweet... something that's not longer than 5 minutes too... But of course, for a woman to orgasm in a quikie, probably she should prep herself with some form of mind foreplay.

3rd topic:

Story writing is very personal and very individual. I define a good writer when he/she can bring readers into his/her world of made believe... stir in them emotions and feelings and can make them feel what the characters feel in the story.

To me... stories are all about fantasies, so I can be more expressive. If I do touch on a real-life experience, I tend to leave out details coz I'm not comfortable to do so. *shrug*


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Serenely_Yours 116
9198 posts
7/8/2006 5:25 am

Firstly, men and women are NOT THE SAME.(duh) Even though human may have the same nature, psycologically still differ between genders. Come to the same for sexual preferences. A woman feels horny, she can just not do anything. If a man is horny, he may be more forwarding to look for ways to get satisfaction.

Secondly, quickies for me lasted abt 5 mins. Nothing more than 15. Its a quickie, right?! Me and hubby are good at this. Already instilled! Wait, if Im going to do it with another man (besides my hubby), Im not sure if I can make it in just less than 15. Have not try it... Something unfamiliar (hes not hubby!) will take a longer time, isnt it? I will prefer more foreplay to just a quickie...(hes not hubby!) See, another different view to it.

Thirdly, Im not so into erotic stories so no comment to it. Prefer erotic poems instead. I think I prefer things short and sweet. Just like quickies with hubby.


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MajorEasy 46M
2693 posts
7/9/2006 3:23 pm

    Quoting happyladychat:
    Intesting write-up... I thought a sexually satisfied men would go to sleep with a smile on his face, and not rant and rave like you.

    1st topic:

    Personally, I find men are not as fussy compared to women. That's why a contented man wouldn't mind just getting on with one woman. How do identify such man? Just ask if they mind eating chicken rice every day for lunch. Usually, their reply will be negative in that they don't mind having the same dish every day.
    (I did an observation study on this, but again... my study may not be representative since my candidates are just among few good friends.)

    As for you... I would tend to think you are far from contented.

    2nd topic:

    I think a quickie is short and sweet... something that's not longer than 5 minutes too... But of course, for a woman to orgasm in a quikie, probably she should prep herself with some form of mind foreplay.

    3rd topic:

    Story writing is very personal and very individual. I define a good writer when he/she can bring readers into his/her world of made believe... stir in them emotions and feelings and can make them feel what the characters feel in the story.

    To me... stories are all about fantasies, so I can be more expressive. If I do touch on a real-life experience, I tend to leave out details coz I'm not comfortable to do so. *shrug*
Yes sweetie...you're right...I did that for 40 or so minutes...a power nap ...then I wanted to rush back to keep Da woman company...

She made a beef soup for me and I made ginger tea for us...and we chatted till she fell asleep...I watched her sleep...and I typed the above out on her laptop...

I'm sorry dear, but your study is flawed...most men will say they don't mind the same dish everyday if asked...but when presented with a new dish...few men can resist...I hope you see the difference in the approach...

Heh heh...I can be contented...but as far as I know...most women think of contented men as boring...I'm not ready for boring yet...

Cool...5 minutes is good...oh...and also...most that I have asked...the women don't actually expect the big O if it's a quickie...maybe that's way they don't crave it as much??

Good point though...if a woman decides to prep herself...she can make herself come whenever she wants...I totally agree with you on this one...

Hahahahahaha...you're such a cute and confused one...If stories are all about fantasies...then why leave out details...there're made up anyways, no?? And...If you leave out details...the stories won't sound realistic...then readers will not be drawn into plot....and don't you think the best way to stir the feelings and emotions of the readers, is to use feelings and emotions through words?? This is why I find it strange that most women writers don't say how they feel at each point...they get wet...they moan...they quiver...they come...to me...too much is missing...How did she feel as she gets wet (what goes through her mind and body?)...what exactly made her moan?? And how was the quiver incited?? (can it be reproduced...or done again by another person?)...etc...And sweetie...how do readers know if it's fantasy or real experience for you if you write it similarly?? But now we know...if one account from you has a lot of details...then it's made up...if details are missing...then it was real...

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There is no use getting, into heavy petting
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MajorEasy 46M
2693 posts
7/9/2006 3:48 pm

    Quoting Serenely_Yours:
    Firstly, men and women are NOT THE SAME.(duh) Even though human may have the same nature, psycologically still differ between genders. Come to the same for sexual preferences. A woman feels horny, she can just not do anything. If a man is horny, he may be more forwarding to look for ways to get satisfaction.

    Secondly, quickies for me lasted abt 5 mins. Nothing more than 15. Its a quickie, right?! Me and hubby are good at this. Already instilled! Wait, if Im going to do it with another man (besides my hubby), Im not sure if I can make it in just less than 15. Have not try it... Something unfamiliar (hes not hubby!) will take a longer time, isnt it? I will prefer more foreplay to just a quickie...(hes not hubby!) See, another different view to it.

    Thirdly, Im not so into erotic stories so no comment to it. Prefer erotic poems instead. I think I prefer things short and sweet. Just like quickies with hubby.
Very true my dear...women can handle horniness much better than men...you girls don't have dangly bits that will turn blue and drop off...that's why...

Not longer than 15??? See what I mean...the concept is not stretchable...it's less than 5 mins...that's it...no encore...no stoppage time...no extra time...no golden goals and no penalties...otherwise...it's not really a quickie any more...hang on sweetie...foreplay??? No foreplay in quickies please...we don't have time...remember??

Huh?? So...familiarity is good for you? ...I thought being with someone new would be so hot that you can 'make it' faster...heh heh...so your body is a well-drilled machine...steps one to ten type thing??

Seriously though...I thought the anticipation from a new lover would bring people to new heights...hmmmm...more research needed here...

Okie...short and sweet is good too...I like longer stories...the realistic ones...because as HLC said earlier...they bring me into the writer's world and the whole set up can be built all the way to the climax...poems and short verses, while good, requires a lot of imagination....and the only problem there...is it's always my own imagination...so most things will flow in a similar way...but in the stories...I don't know where the writer is leading me (unless he / she is utterly crap at it...)...and that unknown can be exhilarating...

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There is no use getting, into heavy petting
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MajorEasy 46M
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