Curious, competitive or insecure???  

MajorEasy 46M
3805 posts
8/18/2006 11:00 am
Curious, competitive or insecure???


Just noticed a strange thing about women...not sure if it's universal...but so far...it's fairly conclusive...


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MajorEasy 46M
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8/18/2006 11:01 am

I was telling Da woman about a meeting I had recently...and I must have gushed a little...the lady I met was sweet and charming and intelligent...the first thing Da woman asked me was...Do you think she's pretty?

Then I spoke with another woman friend...she was telling me how an insurance agent kept calling her about a new policy...and she asked if I meet agents who called me...so I told her I've done it only once...and the agent was very nice...she helped answer many of my concerns...the next question my friend asked?? Was she pretty??

I was talking to a friend from the U.K...they are coming here for a visit and wanted to firm up some plans...after the husband told the wife that I have a new girlfriend...she promptly took over the phone...and asked me...is she pretty??

Now...three in one day is not normal...but can women here please tell me why does it matter if another woman is pretty or not?? You seldom hear guys asking you if another guy you've met, or talked to is good looking?!?!?! So...girls...what's up with that??


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Serenely_Yours 116
9198 posts
8/18/2006 9:13 pm

Im more curious of how he or she looks like. Preferably the person can describe more than just being handsome or pretty.


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MajorEasy 46M
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8/19/2006 1:28 am

    Quoting Serenely_Yours:
    Im more curious of how he or she looks like. Preferably the person can describe more than just being handsome or pretty.
Yes my dear...that's my question...why does it matter how the other person look like??

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Serenely_Yours 116
9198 posts
8/19/2006 6:40 am

    Quoting MajorEasy:
    Yes my dear...that's my question...why does it matter how the other person look like??
When a friend speaks a lot or much about another person whom I do not know or have not met, I will be curious of how this person looks like in real regardless of gender. I like to visualise a person, especially the physical appearance, the dressing style, the expression, these are forms of impression. Visualising is part of my way of communication. Even when I writing this blog, Im thinking of how you are like in actual or your expression when you are reading all these stuff. BUT OVERALL, Im not bother whether you are pretty, handsome or ugly. AND reading your blog title, I think some women do feel that way, and THATS WHY it matters how the other person look. I will wait and see how the other ladies (or men) are going to respond to your question.


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MajorEasy 46M
2693 posts
8/19/2006 12:06 pm

    Quoting Serenely_Yours:
    When a friend speaks a lot or much about another person whom I do not know or have not met, I will be curious of how this person looks like in real regardless of gender. I like to visualise a person, especially the physical appearance, the dressing style, the expression, these are forms of impression. Visualising is part of my way of communication. Even when I writing this blog, Im thinking of how you are like in actual or your expression when you are reading all these stuff. BUT OVERALL, Im not bother whether you are pretty, handsome or ugly. AND reading your blog title, I think some women do feel that way, and THATS WHY it matters how the other person look. I will wait and see how the other ladies (or men) are going to respond to your question.
I'm sorry...maybe I didn't phrase my question properly...I understand that by asking, you want to know what the person looks like...what I was after...is the motivation behind it...why is there a need to know?? If a firend just got hooked up with a partner...maybe asking this is not too far out there...but if you told me you met the dustman today on your way out...instead of asking the reason you brought it up...I ask you 'was he handsome'...don't you find it a little wrong???

Oh, you're waiting for others....hahahaha....don't hold your breath...based on experience...no one else is going to post on this...like I said...in here...no one is interested in discussions...I'm getting used to that...

Sorry I posted...maybe I should go back to my jotter book...

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sweetandspicy570 59F
2832 posts
8/19/2006 2:25 pm

Hi! Probably it's just coincidence that this happened three times in the same day. Have you noticed that it's a trend, thinking back over time? The motivations for asking certainly vary. I suspect Da woman asked out of a combination of all three of your 'suspects', curious about this new woman, who is, or could be, competition, and given the recent 'restrictions' placed on her, she might be feeling a bit insecure. Your friend's wife almost certainly asked if Da woman is pretty in her hope that you have the best possible companion. (Although I am certainly NOT saying that in order to be the best, a woman has to be physically pretty) Please remember that when asked if someone is 'pretty' physical appearance may not be the only question. I am a little more stumped as to why the prettiness of a business contact would be a topic of discussion-- maybe she was fishing for s compliment as in 'not as pretty as you'?
As for men not asking about other men--it's just not cool. I think a lot of men would like to ask, but don't. Most men do not have your self-confidence or your ability to see beyond the surface.
Hang in there, I feel confident your other fans will join in sometime! You know people are reading....and writing is harder than reading...keep your chin up! It's not as bad as a Scottish winter is it?
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MajorEasy 46M
2693 posts
8/19/2006 3:46 pm



Hahahaha...thanks dear, this cheered me up more than you'll know...

You're maybe right...perhaps it is a coincidence...but not sure Da woman asked out of insecurity though...hmmm...will chack with her tomorrow...she knows me enough to know that I have a very different view of women's looks from the conventional...and mostly...looks on its own don't do it for me...

Nah...sweetie...most men don't ask...at least not about another guy...I really don't think many would whether it's cool or not...hahahaha...I can just see it happening...Hey John, I've got a new boss and he just started today...Oh? That's cool Rick, Is he handsome?? ...and as far as I can remember...we only ask about women's look if we're being set up for a blind date...heh heh...or have I been so completely delusional in my own world???

Hmmmm...please elaborate on...'Please remember that when asked if someone is 'pretty' physical appearance may not be the only question'...not quite sure where you're going with it...

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Serenely_Yours 116
9198 posts
8/19/2006 4:11 pm

Since you have already got used to people not posting anything, then you should just let it be. Not everyone is really into discussion of all the topics being mentioned. I think theres no need to be 'upset'. Like what sweetandspicy570 had mentioned, writing is harder than reading.

Probably the question is just getting at your nerves. To you its just 'meaningless'. Maybe you can find why from the person who pose that question to you again, directly.


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sweetandspicy570 59F
2832 posts
8/19/2006 5:54 pm

    Quoting MajorEasy:


    Hahahaha...thanks dear, this cheered me up more than you'll know...

    You're maybe right...perhaps it is a coincidence...but not sure Da woman asked out of insecurity though...hmmm...will chack with her tomorrow...she knows me enough to know that I have a very different view of women's looks from the conventional...and mostly...looks on its own don't do it for me...

    Nah...sweetie...most men don't ask...at least not about another guy...I really don't think many would whether it's cool or not...hahahaha...I can just see it happening...Hey John, I've got a new boss and he just started today...Oh? That's cool Rick, Is he handsome?? ...and as far as I can remember...we only ask about women's look if we're being set up for a blind date...heh heh...or have I been so completely delusional in my own world???

    Hmmmm...please elaborate on...'Please remember that when asked if someone is 'pretty' physical appearance may not be the only question'...not quite sure where you're going with it...
1) Da woman and insecurity-- I don't know her so I can't say, I'm just speculating that a generally secure woman under the sort of 'no sex' restrictions you've described, may be feeling a little insecure? 2) Are you fishing for a compliment? I've already acknowledged your unique ability -- Most men do not have your self-confidence or your ability to see beyond the surface. 3) which brings me to "pretty is more than a physical description". How many outwardly beautiful women have you met who are such bitches, etc. that you wouldn't want to have coffee with them, much less sex? 4) As far as men asking not being cool.... I assumed that you meant men asking women about other men, ie: "Hey John, I've got a new boss and he just started today...Oh? That's cool Jill, Is he handsome??" You can see that that would be possible, but not cool.
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Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.----Dr. Seuss


happyladychat 47F
3740 posts
8/19/2006 8:24 pm

Major, you're thinking too much. Women are naturally the more curious ones... that's how gossips come about, right?

And we don't neccessary ask about "Is she pretty?", it's natural for us to ask "Is he handsome?" if someone we know got a new boss.

Don't try to figure us out... Women are not meant to be understood, we are meant to be loved.


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MajorEasy 46M
2693 posts
8/20/2006 1:54 am

    Quoting Serenely_Yours:
    Since you have already got used to people not posting anything, then you should just let it be. Not everyone is really into discussion of all the topics being mentioned. I think theres no need to be 'upset'. Like what sweetandspicy570 had mentioned, writing is harder than reading.

    Probably the question is just getting at your nerves. To you its just 'meaningless'. Maybe you can find why from the person who pose that question to you again, directly.
Yeah you're right...there's a reason why I'm upset...

This is the wrong post to say this...but since you mentioned it here...let' me tell you a little story...

I got an email from a woman yesterday...actually, she's written to me before and this was her second...and she said she heard something about me from another person...not sure guy or girl...anyway..she quoted the person for saying I'm like this and like that...and she liked the idea of them...she even sent me the quotes...direct cut and paste from what I've written...however...completely out of context...so I asked her if she has read my post...no reply yet...but I guess not...for if she did...she'd realise my words were twisted around to suit the description of who I am...luckily, it was done to make me look like superman...but I fear that for every one who makes me look good...there will be one who'll use it against me...and after the latest problem in here...I'm very weary of such recommendations...it can turn so quickly and before I know it...I am the devil himself....

Therefore, in my misguided attempt at balancing this disadvantage, I thought that people should add their views...so if anything bad is quoted, at least I have what they said on record...but now, I understand that it wouldn't work either...nonetheless...I worked it out of my system somewhat...so it wasn't a total waste of time...

Back to topic...yes, I've checked with the the ladies...their reply...oh just curious... not much help huh??

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MajorEasy 46M
2693 posts
8/20/2006 2:41 am

    Quoting sweetandspicy570:
    1) Da woman and insecurity-- I don't know her so I can't say, I'm just speculating that a generally secure woman under the sort of 'no sex' restrictions you've described, may be feeling a little insecure? 2) Are you fishing for a compliment? I've already acknowledged your unique ability -- Most men do not have your self-confidence or your ability to see beyond the surface. 3) which brings me to "pretty is more than a physical description". How many outwardly beautiful women have you met who are such bitches, etc. that you wouldn't want to have coffee with them, much less sex? 4) As far as men asking not being cool.... I assumed that you meant men asking women about other men, ie: "Hey John, I've got a new boss and he just started today...Oh? That's cool Jill, Is he handsome??" You can see that that would be possible, but not cool.
    Any more questions? My office is open, advice 5 cents!


I see your point my dear...but she's taking this sex restriction remarkably well......Yeah...asked her, and she was just curious...she couldn't put a finger on why it came out that way either...

Fishing for a compliment?? nah......I read you the first time...oh yes...you're right...good looks only go so far...and I believe that looks is a rejecting quality instead of an accepting quality where sex is concerned..(there are proper terms for this, but I can't be stuffed to look them up...)...what I mean is this...if we think we like a person enough to get close to (through means other than looks, like intelligence, character, temperament...)...his / her looks may turn us away if it's really bad...on the flip side...if we are not comfortable to get close to a person, however good looking they are will not sway us...Arrrrgghhhh...I'm making this as clear as mud aren't I??

Heh heh...no dear..I really don't think a guy will even ask a women if another guy is good looking...not unless she expresses interest in him...even then, I'd probably ask what is he like...in terms of personality and temperament...not so much looks...

Since I have 10 cents credit with you...let me spend 5 of those cents for one question...how often...when friends tell you about new people they've met, casual and none-relationship types...that you curious if they are good looking...and does it matter whether it's a guy or a girl??

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MajorEasy 46M
2693 posts
8/20/2006 2:45 am

    Quoting happyladychat:
    Major, you're thinking too much. Women are naturally the more curious ones... that's how gossips come about, right?

    And we don't neccessary ask about "Is she pretty?", it's natural for us to ask "Is he handsome?" if someone we know got a new boss.

    Don't try to figure us out... Women are not meant to be understood, we are meant to be loved.
Hahaha...thanks sweetie...I'm not trying to figure women out...gave that up years ago...I'm trying to find logic in how the mind works...I guess another futile endeavor...

It's hard for me to love something I don't understand...maybe in time, I'll grow into it...

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