Couple of points...  

MajorEasy 46M
3805 posts
1/16/2006 1:31 am
Couple of points...


1) A few women from here told me that they do not do it themselves...either they don't have a wish to or they don't do it well so they stopped.

I don't get it...they all agree that it feels good to be touched and orgasms are great...why wouldn't touching one-self be just as fulfilling??

2) One word keeps coming up on their search for a man...CHEMISTRY...while I don't deny it is a thing, I also don't believe it can be quantified...so...is it just a cop out??
Personally, I've found that chemistry is a matter of how horny I am at the time I meet a woman...sometimes, I'd say no to myself when with one woman, then feel like kicking myself the next time I see her because she's actually quite hot...other times, I'd do the wild thing with a woman then bury my face in my hands the next time I see her and think, my god, I slept with her??
Lucky for me, I believe in being friends with women whether we tango or not...so at least, bridges are not burnt or I don't feel too bad for making a friend feel good.


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happyladychat 47F
3740 posts
1/16/2006 6:21 am

Pt 2 > Not every man in AdultFriendFinder thinks like u..... for most, no fuck no friend FULLSTOP.

Make it your challenge.... turn me ON!!


rm_SexyCplJoy 40M/38F

1/16/2006 6:26 am

My dear, not every woman needs to make themselves feel good. Many think of it as the job of a man.

Ya, chemistry is hard to define. You maybe right and a lot of time it depends on mood. haha, thanks for making me feel good even though you have to kick yourself after


MajorEasy 46M
2693 posts
1/16/2006 8:26 am

"for most, no fuck no friend FULLSTOP"

Oh dear...I'm sorry to hear that sweetie...actually, your's is the fifth time I've heard it from women in this site over the last few weeks...very strange I find...
I've posted this a few times to new group members...and if all the men tried to make friends instead of trying to score...they'll find their success rate (at meeting women...) improve drastically...seems most are still too wrapped up in their horniness to care...

Well, as I said to a new woman friend the other night...heh heh, she was wondering if I would still call her if the sex was bad (and I haven't even met her yet... )...to which I replied...and this is the honest truth...'I like you a lot from just chatting...if I don't fancy you or if the sex is not great, I'll still come over to make you feel good when you need it...as long as you're my friend...'
I know how it may sound, but I really don't have a problem with that...what are friends for??

Not everyone can or will do this because most people view sex as something either special or exclusive...for me...it's just sex...nothing more, nothing less...and if it makes my friends feel great, why not?? If a buddy comes over and says he needs my help with his thesis...and I have the time, I'll do it...just the same with sex...no need to read more into it...

Better luck in the future sweetie...don't give up yet...there are men out there not completely dictated by their dicks...

"My dear, not every woman needs to make themselves feel good. Many think of it as the job of a man"

Hahahaha...darling...thank goodness I still have that job!!

"thanks for making me feel good even though you have to kick yourself after"

Forget about it...don't even say something like this or I may be mobbed by angry men out there...you are as close to a ten as I've ever known it...if M was out of the picture (sorry mate...hypothetically speaking... ) I'll be trying me best to make you fall in love with me...put it this way...when I flip my dictionary looking up 'gorgeous', your picture comes up time and again...



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Funasianfemale 38F
23 posts
1/16/2006 10:37 am

sigh, no one can explain chemistry. But your take on it is interesting, perhaps you're right, it's how horny one is at the meet.


happyladychat 47F
3740 posts
1/17/2006 6:55 am

So... there are 5 other women who share my view. Guess I'm not being unfair.

Make it your challenge.... turn me ON!!


MajorEasy 46M
2693 posts
1/17/2006 8:13 am

"So... there are 5 other women who share my view. Guess I'm not being unfair"

Heh heh heh...noooo sweetie...you most certain are not...

That is just in the last few weeks...have heard it even before...

Not something we can solve in a hurry...just live with it and think of it as you are doing the rejection...never feel you've been let-down...as long as you indicate that you're not ready to have sex yet, the only thing the man should be concern of is this...here's a signal that I've not made her comfortable enough to proceed...what should I now do to make her feel differently...if he chooses to throw it away at that point, he has basically failed the selection process...
Cool??


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rm_Razziemin 39F

1/17/2006 9:29 am

Chemistry is impotant, how else can a person even vcontinue talking to another if they don't even like each other?


bacca_laureati 42M

1/17/2006 12:06 pm

Major said, "there are men out there not completely dictated by their dicks"

My word, the stuff that leaps from my synapses sometimes. Just read that and had the idea for a facist Mr.Potato Head porno staring Dick Tator!

"Personally, I've found that chemistry is a matter of how horny I am at the time I meet a woman"

Is this the essential difference between men and women? I think for women it's a matter of how horny they get in the presence of the man.

Or to put it 'scientifically'. Women think of attraction in terms of CHEMISTRY. Men think of it in terms of PHYSICS.


MajorEasy 46M
2693 posts
1/17/2006 10:34 pm

"I think for women it's a matter of how horny they get in the presence of the man."

Hahaha...and I think you're too full of yourself, mate...
Women get horny all by themselves too...and when they do, they go out hunting...just like men do...if she's not horny at the point of meeting, there's very little men can do to change it...we may generate interest and make her believe it's worth a shot...but if you're talking about making her horny...while it can be done, it won't be in the context of meeting...it'll probably take a much longer time than what we're talking about here.

"Women think of attraction in terms of CHEMISTRY. Men think of it in terms of PHYSICS"

very true...though the world seems to be balancing out slowly...

Wonder if it's intentional, but everyone's avoided the first part of the questions...


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rm_Razziemin 39F

1/18/2006 6:57 am

Have to agree with funsassy, even though I do do it, it's just not the same. But the original question is why some don't do it, and I don't know.


MajorEasy 46M
2693 posts
1/18/2006 8:00 am

Hmmmm...I see....so sassy sweetie...even when there's no man around...you still wouldn't do it??

Okie...let me know the next time you're available...I'll rough up my hands a little...

Fair enough Razz, seems no one has the answer...what's your take on chemistry then...how would you define it?

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bacca_laureati 42M

1/19/2006 8:04 am

"Hahaha...and I think you're too full of yourself, mate... "

Haha, if only.

"Women get horny all by themselves too ... take a much longer time than what we're talking about here."

Yeah, true that. I stand corrected.


rm_Razziemin 39F

1/19/2006 10:15 am

Chemistry?? It's the feeling I have when I'm with a person. A vibe. It's not accurate and I can't put a finger on it, but I know if it feels right.

In one case, and this may be important, I didn't realise the chemistry was right till the person has gone. Then I feel like pulling my hair out for letting the chance by.


bacca_laureati 42M

1/20/2006 10:36 am

Pheromones?


MajorEasy 46M
2693 posts
1/21/2006 10:13 am

yeah mate...we talked about pheromones much earlier somewhere in the goupr posts or here...unfortunately, modern folks killed this off pretty effectively with all the standard perfumes and colognes in the market...

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bacca_laureati 42M

1/21/2006 12:02 pm

Really? Don't quite see how. Pheromones aren't really registered as smells in our olfactory glands. They instead cause a chemical reaction in our brains, no matter how much we cover them up. As for stuff like musk, or animal pheromones ... well they don't really stimulate the same reactions in (most of) us as human pheromones. But perhaps I'm mistaken.


rm_Razziemin 39F

1/22/2006 7:44 am

MajorEasy is right to point out the masking effect. Even though pheromones work at a deeper level as bacca_laureati has said, mixing in the 'artificial' scent will confuse the receiver and signals will not be as effective, if at all.


bacca_laureati 42M

1/22/2006 10:34 am

I've actually gone to the extent of doing some research on this and it's proven ... inconclusive. However, scientifically pheromones are chemical signals that are not cross-species effective - or rather they are species specific. In which case I don't see how they can be masked at all. Experimentation is therefore called for. Think I'll try spraying some Davidoff into a beehive and note down the effects.

Er ... of course I'm not saying that "Chemistry" is purely a function of pheromones. But the fact that we don't smell them would account for that inexplicable sense we get that someone is right for us.

Besides anyone who would use so much colonge/perfume that it totally overwhelms our ability to receive those chemical signals either has severe hygiene problems, a complusive behaviour, or is still living in ancient Egypt or the French Middle Ages - which brings us back to hygiene problems ... eww.


rm_Razziemin 39F

1/23/2006 9:51 am

Ha, your inconclusive research.

Let us know how the bees react when you carry out your experiment.


bacca_laureati 42M

1/23/2006 11:33 am

"Ha, your inconclusive research."

Yeah. It's amazing how quickly people run when you ask if they'd sniff your armpits while your comely assistant sticks a couple of electrodes to their brains.

Or maybe it was the swarm of bees that kept trying to harvest nectar from me ... honelicious bits.


MajorEasy 46M
2693 posts
1/24/2006 10:01 am

Oh that was you was it?? I was quite happy to sniff your very hot assistant's armpits and more...but those prods you call electrodes never had a chance at getting near me...

I still believe that pheromones are masked by manufactured fregrances...I believe it's like the subtle sweetness of the scent of a ripe peach, put right beside a wok of fried garlic...no go mate...unless you're a fruit fly...heh heh heh...even then, you'd come back when the garlic is gone...

With your bee experiment, mate...try this instead...look for flowers where bees love to visit...spray a little Chanel on those flowers...and watch the bees go elsewhere...

*shake head*...it beats the shit out of me how we can move from female masturbation to frying garlic in just a few posts...please stop screwing with my fragile mind...

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rm_Razziemin 39F

1/24/2006 12:01 pm

Hahaha, you're too funny.

Strange that guys in here would forego female masturbation to talk about bees and armpits.


bacca_laureati 42M

1/25/2006 7:07 am

female masturbation? Damn ... we gottta get this back on track! You lot go ahead I'll er ... just watch.


rm_Razziemin 39F

1/25/2006 9:02 am

lol. No watching, this is the participatory portion.


bacca_laureati 42M

1/26/2006 7:24 pm

I seemed to have misplaced my clitoris ... must have left it in my other pants ...


rm_janeraped 40F
3772 posts
4/17/2006 12:19 pm

For me the reason why I don't normally do it myself is that my hands can't achieve what a real dick (that's attached to a real man) can. For that matter, it's also seldom that a man's hands can - in other words, hands don't seem to do it for me as well. Several times, my partner(s) tried, but it ends up being painful instead and I would rather they get on with penetration.

The only time I can masturbate at all is always in the middle of sleep- I will somehow slowly awake and finding myself involuntary contracting my vaginal muscles and moving my thighs together - again all without hands, and I will finish myself off by moving my thighs faster - strangely, even at this time, I can't use my hands, or the momentum will go off, and everything stops dead on track.

So I guess I can only jack off involuntarily while asleep, and the
the only other one time something like this happened while I was awake was when I had panicked about losing stuff at London's Heathrow Airport (you can read it in an article I posted)- that was one awesome orgasm, all involuntarily.

I've often wondered why I'm wired this way- maybe something subconscious. In fact, when some guys I'm with try to jack me off, and it becomes painful, I would usually move their hands to my nipples, which when they manipulate them long enough, I will get minor spasms in my vagina. So again, it's a case of hands-free...


MajorEasy 46M
2693 posts
4/17/2006 11:41 pm

The way I see it sweetie...is the amount of pressure (from hands I mean..) that you can't handle...perhaps you're too sensitive to the touch.

What about oral?? Does that work for you at all?? If even that is too direct...then maybe penetration is the only way to go.

Wait...in penetration...do you enjoy doggy more than missionary?? Does it still cause a problem if your clit is directly stimulated during penetration??

Very interesting case you are...the thing about most guys...we tend to be result oriented...which could add to your woe...if something we do is not getting the desired result...we simply double the effort thinking it'll do the trick...try telling your guy to take it real slow...only move up a notch when you say so...

If you've read my kissing story...try that...it may just take the edge off and help you relax...


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There is no use getting, into heavy petting
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rm_janeraped 40F
3772 posts
4/18/2006 1:05 am

Major, strange you should ask about oral because that doesn't really turn me on at all, unlike I guess, most women. I just like hard penetration, and I think you're right about me being too sensitive to the touch. Often with oral sex, I find it too rough on my clit and don't find anything great about it at all.

And yes, doggy as well needs to be in a certain position because if its angled wrongly, somehow my front bits get really painful (kind of like the bits where the urinary tract is) - yes, exactly like what you said about my clit being directly stimulated. That feels really uncomfortable, so doggy style has to be a at a certain angle.

Missionary works fine for me, in fact the best, especially if my legs are kind of flat up against my side. Hmm, you seem to know women's bodies well.

Are you sure you're not majorjohn in sammyboy coffeeshop forum - the one with the hilarious lau kway bu stories. I just love that forum- unmoderated, quite wacky people, very political, often quite un-PC too. But I think their style is the best- no wussy PC-ness, and everyone will at least get flamed at least once a visit, without having to run to the moderator to whinge and whine. But lately I think too many idiots have come in, just because elections are a-coming.

Ok, I'm digressing. I'll stop now.


MajorEasy 46M
2693 posts
4/18/2006 11:16 am



Nooo...I've checked out sammyboy...not my cup of tea...seems to me more of a bragging place than a discussion board...though I've found some interesting information there...feels like hard work to keep up with the 'bros'...

Hahahaha...just so you know...I know everything...

Seriously though...I fancy myself a women connoisseur...and always learning...

A suggestion...tell your guys to lay of the clit...a bit harder to do if they use hands or fingers...but with oral...it's easy to avoid the spot and work on the surrounding areas...many women can achieve orgasm this way if done right...it's a technique I use normally after a woman's first O and she becomes too sensitive thereafter...

Okie...seems you're too sensitive inside and out...talk to me about your G spot...pain? discomfort? dunno?...and tell me this...do you get orgasms fairly quickly with penetration??

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There is no use getting, into heavy petting
it only leads to trouble, and seat wetting.....
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rm_janeraped 40F
3772 posts
4/22/2006 3:06 am

As for the g-spot, no, there is no pain or discomfort, but it seems that it can only be reached by hard penetration, or at least that's what I think it is. haha! Sometimes, when this is hit, it gets really intense, and I almost come, but then stop. At other times I can go all the way. Never really figured out why. As for a clitoral type of orgasm, it seems to be achieved only involuntary, like I said, in the middle of sleep, and never intetionally, and never through hands, just contraction alone.

I swear, Major, as I read more of your blog and all, I'm beginning to think that you may be the another handle that used to post on sammyboy's Alfresco coffeeshop at delphi forums - but this time under the name of greenlaser. We would always call him greenie there. Especially when you mention your significant other, and that she's Caucasian too.

That used to be a really fun forum - mind you its' not the sex forum (that's another one by sammyboy), but an ordinary, very S'pore-issues type of forum, very politics based and un-PC alot of the times. I just love the un-PCness of it. But lately it seems to have been infiltrated by idiots who are at both sides of the political field, and seem desperate like hell to convince everyone of their political stance, and justify stuff.


MajorEasy 46M
2693 posts
4/22/2006 1:02 pm

Hahaha...sorry to disappoint my dear...the only greenie I know is Kermit the frog...

Well..it can't be me since Da woman and I only met a few months ago...and have been together for a couple of months...oh shit...speaking of which...methinks I forgot our anniversary...
(you women will celebrate anything...*shake head*...)

Back to your thing...how can contractions give you a clitoral orgasm??? Perchance, you're getting it wrong??
If your G spot is not painful...what do you mean about doggy makes your front part painful??
Have you tried getting to the G spot via fingers??

I honestly don't see a problem...other than having an overly sensitive clit...your mindset may also be causing you to tense up whenever you start to get going...I suggest you give yourself plenty of time to warm up...get nice and turned-on before touch is applied...it should help a little...
Of course...contractions, if done right adds to the sensation...but the orgasms can't be very intense through them...can it??

Have you tried rubbing yourself on a firm bolster or pillow?? Some women who are very sensitive to the touch use this method and the pressure is entirely under control...maybe you can give it a go...

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