I made a mistake, or have I?  

MainelyCurious15 47M/35F
86 posts
5/27/2005 1:45 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

I made a mistake, or have I?

One of the main dangers of the lifestyle is letting another person in to your life. Some avoid this by just having one night stands with others. Some are just able to detach emotions from sex, and let things flow. I am not that person.
I have said it time and time again, that no one will come between my husband and I. But, are those words empty? I have said that the only thing that would make me leave my husband is himself. What if there is someone else? How am i supposed to do this anymore? When this all started i never expected to find love. And now that I have, what am i supposed to do with it?
Do i walk away, and try to never think of him again? I don't think i can. Should I forget him, and go on living my life? Not likely. Do i walk away from my family, and embark on such an uncertain future? Not a welcome idea. But one that has such appeal it won't leave my mind. The freedom, no more ties. I have never been that way, what could it feel like?

007sexy40plus 51F  
7603 posts
5/27/2005 4:34 pm

I know this lady who walked away from her family to be with a guy she met on the net. She thought she was in love. But she later found out she walked away from the true love because the new guy beat the hell out of her and kicked her out of his home. I can tell anyone what to do but I would never leave my home and family for what appears to be something better. If that person truly is better for you he will remain in your life until you see fit to leave your husband, but if you have children, he needs to be ready to accept them as well as you.

I would never walk away from my children to have a little fun that will possibly end in a night. I know it's hard to walk away from someone you might be in love with, but if it is at all possible why not have your cake and eat it too. Keep the family and the lover. Live as if its the last day on earth.
I love my family dearly and it would take a hell of man to make me walk away from that. No matter how unhappy I might be in the situation.


I am the real deal! "Come Get Me!!!"

smileguyqc 53M

5/27/2005 5:44 pm

Glad you wrote it all done... you know what I think already, I agree with straightten have your cake and eat it thats cool but don't walk away, chances are you'll be walking onto trouble not away from it.

MainelyCurious15 47M/35F

5/28/2005 8:48 am

Don't worry. I still stand by my feelings that I won't leave my husband for another man. If I leave him, it will be his own doing. I don't honestly think I could be with my lover as a full time live in thing. I'd kill him, he works too much, and has a lot of baggage.

justme5078 68M
4 posts
5/28/2005 9:55 am

if you ever figure it out let me know, i'am 57 and havent figured it out. the grass is not always greener and should you give up what you already have. but then there is no subitute for being in love, i know i've lost twice, and i miss it.

rm_ajalbert 45M
4 posts
6/8/2005 9:55 pm

What I must ask is why must you give up what you already have for a new love? You didn't love your parents any less when you met your husband , did you? You didn't love your husband any less, when you had your children, did you? ( At least, after the labor was over. )

So, if you find that you're falling in love with someone you've met, there's no reason not to pursue that relationship, and maintain your currently relationships? There's no question that it takes work, and communication, but there are more than a few people who practice this - which is called polyamory.

bi4mainecpl 57M
2 posts
6/30/2005 6:33 am

I am one of those into the so called "one night stands" exactly for that reason. I don't want to get involved. Its not that I am mean. I crave hot bi cpl sex but I am not into cpls in my life nor me in theirs. This position eliminates most of my chances for a healthy sex life in maine as I go against the core grain of the swinging communities values in Maine. But its my choice and you blog just makes me feel more comfortable wiht my choice. Hot sex is fine but it should NEVER BREAK UP A FAMILY. Call me old fashioned but thats just me

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