Why?  

MagicChix2005 39F
13 posts
2/28/2005 12:28 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Why?

I just wanna know why I can't get off from having intercourse. I know that no one cares but me. But I want everyone to know it pisses me off. I mean how do you tell a guy " Hey sorry I can't cum that way buddy". Most of the time I just fake it and I am getting really good at it!
The thing is though I don't wanna be good at faking it ya know. I want the real thing. I had been faking it for about five years before I decided I wanted more. Now I am trying to date and it sucks cause........... well it just does. I don't want a relationship I just wanna get off. So if anyone had any advice please feel free to tell me what to do.


ExcitedSenses 38M

2/28/2005 6:48 pm

U need to find a man that can take u there. Hopefully you do. I think every man should want to put in the time it takes to learn how to get his girl to cum. My ex was amazed that I could make her cum so hard. But it's because I put in the effort to learn.


richardlv2 82M
25 posts
2/28/2005 6:55 pm

you deserve a minimum of one good orgasm daily.
This may sound stupid but, have you tried oral sex. If your partner knows anything about women he should know how to go down on you and bring you the joy of coming. My understanding is that very few if any women have orgasms from standard intercourse, (just plain fucking)
Try this as a little fun play trick.
Have him go down on you and while hehas his tongue playing with all of the different parts of your pussy have him insert an "ALKA SELTZER"
INTO YOUR NOW JUICY WET PUSSY. Once it starts to foam have him immediately insert his cock into you as deep as he can and hold still for a moment. Now put your hands on his ass and take control of the rhythym. Faster or slower you are in control. Now fuck till you both come at least once each.
repeat and call me in the morning (Laughing)
But seriously please try this.
good luck in your quest for pleaure


SigEp4U 42M

3/1/2005 5:13 am

MagicChix... I dated a girl like this once... for her just getting up the nerve to tell me about it was the hardest thing. We had been dating for several weeks and had been fooling around quite a bit and then one night she said that she had something to tell me. She told me that she had never had an orgasm with a man.

I was the first person that she had ever told. For her it was all about being able to relax... the mind is a powerful thing and sometimes if you just can't let go and be yourself... it can really mess up how much you enjoy the sex. Trust me I know from experience about that one.

I am not saying this is what is happening with you... just sharing something from my past.

I also noticed in your post that you said, "I know that no one cares but me." If you find the right man and he is really interested in you and not just himself... then he will care. Open up and talk to him about this... I am sure there are so many things that could be done to help you enjoy the moment.

I'm not a sex therapist... so I can't really offer any pointers for you to try... but you could also conisder going to a real sex therapist... they deal with this stuff on an everyday basis.

I hope you find what your looking for,

SigEp4U


Elysium7 52M/44F

3/1/2005 7:23 am

I know exactly where you are coming from. I've only been able to have an orgasm while "fucking" a couple of times. Usually, it takes fingers, a willing mouth, or a toy to bring me off. Sometimes my husband alternates between oral and penetration and I've been able to come with him inside me. I've always wondered how it will feel to have a man inside me and another mouth and hands working down there at the same time. Don't fake a damn thing girl, life is too short! L.


L8Nite1on1 35M

7/8/2005 2:19 pm

It also sounds like you're not getting comfortable with the people you're with. Your comfort level is going to have so much to do with what you get out of a situation. Men, in this situation can come really or early or not at all, while women are usually left with a disappointed look on their faces. In your most recent entry you said that you didn't feel uncomfortable with this guy, sounds like a good step in the right direction.


bigd4789 43M/41F
1 post
8/12/2005 9:33 am

just have sex with me......lol


tallnsxy24 35M

9/8/2005 9:45 pm

Well I just wondered a few things about your post. You say you cant get off during intercourse, but can you get yourself off? have you ever gotten off? What have you tried? I am going to suggest something and dont just dismiss it. It seems to me you need shocked in bed. You are probably in control most of the time, or just the opposite you expect them to get you off so you let them in control too much you know what you like take control and do it. If niether of those are the case this is the suggestion I mentioned earlier. Have a guy play with your butt more, not ruff, not sticking his cock in. I just mean have him put his pinky in during the heat of passion. Not all the way in, kinda have him rub the out side in a circle, and slowly stick it in fingernail deep while your on top. It has worked for me in the past when I have been with girls who were "orgasmicly challenged". Hope it works for you.


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