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Should You Fantasize and Tell?
Should You Fantasize and Tell?
Mood ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ oh, so thoughtful.
How much of your private fantasy should be incorporated into real life or, for that matter, even divulged? In a perfect world, the answer would be "However much turns you on." So the answer to that question probably comes down to how shy you're feeling and how much you know and trust your partner. Granted, this could take some time. Not everyone is a thrill seeker for the hell of it. Some like that "shared experience" to be one of mutual desire and growth in the relationship. For the "thrill seeker" it's only a knotch on your sex belt! Mark that one up for the record.
Perhaps a smart rule of thumb is to ask yourself how much you really want to hear about your lover's fantasies. (Key work is lover) Would it excite you to know he's/she's pretending the two of you are all alone on a tropical island? Terrific. Would it excite you to know that he's pretending the two of you are on a tropical island with another woman? Possibly. Another man? Hmmm. You may choose to keep your more ferocious fantasies to yourself.
Personally, I find it fascinating to share, and I love knowing what my man is thinking, even if it doesn‘t come true, it‘s fun to talk about it. And who knows, in time, maybe it will? When I grow up ~ I wanna be "Mae West"! Now, there's a dame!
What you need to know is this: There's no such thing as an inappropriate fantasy. Whether you choose to explore your fantasies–however mild or wild they may be–is up to you, but by all means don't hesitate to let your imagination “jump-start” your body into a sexier sex life. If you believe you are sexy, then you will be sexy to others. Creating a sensual sexy illusion, that flirtatious mystery or atmosphere can drive a man to total oblivion and he will desire you ... more than he knows!
Sometimes a girl needs a jolt of adventure–if only in her daydreams. But, try to incorporate those daydreams into reality with someone you have trust with, again, it's healthy to be sexual. You tend to have more energy and live a longer life. Well... some do! Just have the CPR kit available ... huff, huff, thump, thump!!!
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11/26/2005 9:17 am
A very intelligent and well reasoned Post that, with a very few asides, I’d have to agree with you on!
As to incorporating fantasy in to real life, the most notable exception to doing that are the numerous idjits I have to share the highways with daily who, regardless of road conditions, drive like they think that they’re some sort of freakin’ Dale Earnhardt, Jr! Drafting closely on wet roads, cutting in and out of congested traffic like they might actually save a millisecond or two…
Fantasy may be useful in spicing things up, particularly if a relationship is becalmed in the ho-hum doldrums. Some very inappropriate fantasies occurred to me while reading this Post:
Given that they contain a mind-set for abnormality and violence that is way beyond the Pale, they are: Snuff, Necrophilia, , and/or group-beastiality sex at the petting zoo…
Oh, btw~ LOVE how you’ve created a way to express your own Mood!!!
Been a while since they last let me out into polite society. Resurfacing, catching a breath, & catching up.
And while I got my Broad-Brimmed Pimping Hat on, could I cajole all of y'all to Comment on, Alone In A Cloud? It's probably the best thing that I've written!
11/26/2005 10:47 am
Mister P. Welcome to my world! |
Living in different states, I often wonder who knows how to drive???
It's a real life effort to keep on the road, away from the "idigits" and get to where you are going.
Often in traffic, I have my best fantasies or thoughts, or pleasure ... hummmmm.
Oh I agree with you on the "not so reality/beastie fantasies". But, experts say that even tho you have them, you may not act them out. Ya know that old fantasy about a woman and a horse???? LMAO!
11/27/2005 9:05 am
I am still not sure about divulging? I have let my lover (wife) know of my strong fantasies to watch her with others. I feel completely safe with our relationship in that I would never want to hurt her, but I also want to be truthfull in my desires and I trust that she will share the same with me. |
The problem is that once the genie is out of the bottle, you better make good use of your last two wishes!!
Unfortunately our fantasies are complete opposites. Mine involve her in a gangbang/bukkake and hers involve the two of us on a beach in Maui! I am MORE than happy to fulfill hers, why can't she fulfill mine?? LOL
Anyway, it's kind of like the old question: "How many lovers have YOU had?"
BTW - We are still happily married and working on a life time of making each other happier!! - In case you were afraid to ask
11/27/2005 1:24 pm
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