Fabulous Foreplay  

MaggiesWishes 60F
2231 posts
1/1/2006 12:54 pm

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Fabulous Foreplay

Speaking of new beginnings ...

"A lady always behaves in a manner appropriate to the occasion. The proper behavior for foreplay is unbridled passion, tenderness, eagerness to please, admiration, humor and love. No wonder the uninhibited lady is a lovable lady."

Saying this ... You as a woman ~~ a very sensitive, sensual woman ~~ can show a man how to truly enjoy the splendor of good foreplay. Showing him how you come alive under his hands, having him hotter and harder then he's ever been. Your tenderness is the key to guidance and communication.

Most men are too concerned with the many positions they can manage in a session of sex, how hard they can pump in and out, the manly attempt to satisfy you. This can be less than totally satisfying. Most women, being slightly submissive, give in to the pawing and shoving and neither truly get the gratification of fine lovemaking to it's fullest.

Speaking to a man, telling him how you feel, can be tricky at best. Men work in a behavior pattern. Most, by the time they are sexually mature, have created this idea that no matter what, they know how to satisfy a woman's needs. Hummm ... such is food for thought? And when is a man, sexually mature?

Being sensually enriched is the key to a wonderfully erotic physical encounter. But this doesn't happen over night, and certainly, not the first night. Raw animalistic sex is best served when you are aware of each other's body, hunger for the taste and feel of hot skin against skin. Anticipating the very moment you touch the fire in each other ... the desire to thirst, to be drenched in sweet sweat, and lie exhausted, fulfilled.

A man should not deprive himself of a truly exquisite sexual experience, just because we are too modest to say, something to improve upon the moment, say it ... make the feeling real, feed upon it's pleasure and reap the rewards. Both, will be vastly enriched in doing so.

Think sexy. This is what makes foreplay longer.
Think incentive. Play out your fantasies, be creative enough to "jolt" out of old lovemaking patterns.
Think relaxed. Sit back, enjoy what each of you can bring out of the experience, slow and succulent, hard and harder, juicy and juicer ... know the signs, gently guild each other to that sustained passion inside and let loose.

Foreplay, comes at anytime during the course of lovemaking. It can even come as afterplay, as something to unwind, instead of rolling over and falling dead asleep.

Everyone makes a sex pattern and changes are good. Change is what keeps us excited and curious from encounter to encounter. Just remember, no matter the baseline of your sex drive ... consider your partner, and have a ball finding each other ... each and every time.

** Note: This is not intended to reflect on those men ... who are more than willing to communicate in bed or out, for the pure pleasure of mutual enjoyment.

caressmewell 53F

1/1/2006 3:23 pm

Great advice!

gnr8nrg 46M

1/1/2006 6:56 pm

Communication is the key. I love it when a woman redirects me. As far as, "by the time they are sexually mature, have created this idea that no matter what, they know how to satisfy a woman's needs." Every woman's different so they all have different needs, wants, desires, pleasures, etc. If the guy isn't looking, then it's time to look for another guy.

Deepthroat215 52M
328 posts
1/1/2006 7:30 pm

Good post. I find that if I mix it up with my wife, she responds differently, more into it I should say. There are some night's when she mixes it up and I love it.

I never assume I've satisfied her and usual don't unless we have plenty of foreplay. Sex happens in the mind and the more I'm erect and exploring her body (or visa-versa) the harder I/we orgasm.

silkysmoothlegs3 105F

1/1/2006 8:00 pm

Lovely blogg

I agree with caress great advice

rm_longliner002 50M
227 posts
1/1/2006 8:36 pm

Great post. Please don’t take this comment wrong, I know a few women who could use This advice and do the same for her partner. IM One of the Guys who love to see how well I can wind up my partner to the max. But most of the women I have met has no clue what foreplay Is. Other than starting a fight Just so we can kiss and make up.

rm_James20910 52M
316 posts
1/1/2006 9:27 pm

Best advise ev'ah.

justwhattosee 60M
182 posts
1/1/2006 9:30 pm

That's great remark's an agree with you in passion all is forgotten. But control the key? Love it.

rm_Young102 40M
181 posts
1/1/2006 10:12 pm

Wise words! Foreplay is often neglected, though it is a vital component of erotic fulfillment. Also a very essential point you made is that foreplay can come anytime during the cource of lovemaking even as afterplay. I think that afterplay is perhaps the most neglected stage of a sexual intercource. This is primarily a mistake made by men for 2 reasons: 1) Men after ejaculation we think that we have satisfied our woman and reassured our masculinity, and subsequenetly 2) we lose interest to continue (though perhaps the decrease of men's impulse for afterplay after ejaculation is simply a natural phenomenon because testosterone came out of the body and the human organism needs some time to produce new that will stimulate the sexual desire). I'm not sure about the natural cause because there are many variances in male sexual behavior in this regard but what about I'm sure is the psychological aspect and the need of a man to understand better his partner, communicate with her and take care of her. Of course this caring should be mutual as you very nicely explained.

Maggie maybe you should teach sexual behavior at college level? Or maybe better you should write a book?

You are amazing!

MaggiesWishes 60F

1/2/2006 5:53 am

Caress ~~
Someday's, the light switch still works.
Thanks, lady

MaggiesWishes 60F

1/2/2006 5:54 am

Silky ~~
Thanks for the moral support, much appreciated.
< still flipin' the light switch >

MaggiesWishes 60F

1/2/2006 5:56 am

Deepthroat215 ~~
Now, that's what I'm talking about!
Thanks for visiting

MaggiesWishes 60F

1/2/2006 6:01 am

gnr8nrg ~~
I agree, every woman is different. Simple deduction there.
Now, when can men figure this out?
The sexual maturity of a man is not determined by how many women he has explored ~~ but by how open his mind is to exploring the "one woman" he is with ... and not be "ego crushed" ... cause she is different.
And vice versa.

The_Wraith_1969 47M

1/2/2006 6:07 am

Two thumbs up!

MaggiesWishes 60F

1/2/2006 6:09 am

longiner002 ~~
"Make-up Sex?"

Maybe a more indepth look into the woman/women you are choosing ... will clue you into how she will react in bed?
And then, you as a lover, can gently guide her into those moments, stretch her imagination, push the envelope to the edge ... etc.
This by no means, is a "one way street" of communication. WE all want to be acknowledged for our efforts in pleasure. Talk it up!
If all else fails ... buy her a book.

warm wishes
happy to have ya visiting

MaggiesWishes 60F

1/2/2006 6:12 am

james20910 ~~
Thanks for droppin' by ...
always nice to see a new face.

justwhattosee ~~
Thanks for droppin' by ...
It's all realivent to the cause ~ cause you want to.

warm wishes

MaggiesWishes 60F

1/2/2006 6:24 am

Young ~~

Can we say :: I'm still learning.
<topples from the pedstal, rubbin' hiney>

BTW~ Thank you for the moral support.

warm wishes

Jim4378 56M  
11 posts
1/2/2006 6:34 am


Great post and advice. I may be in the minority here but I seem to enjoy long periods of foreplay even more than the sexual act itself. As a man who enjoys providing plenty of foreplay the key is having the woman communicate back the pleasure that she is receiving. If I know a woman is enjoying the foreplay it makes me want to do more

MaggiesWishes 60F

1/2/2006 7:41 am

What's ya doing with the other eight fingers? Just ck'ing?

MaggiesWishes 60F

1/2/2006 7:52 am

Jim4378 ~~

Gotta give credit where credit is due.

Both genders tend to "deny" this pleasure ... from time to time. Foreplay should be intertwined all the way through.
Just my opinion.

nnjtastyguy 46M

1/3/2006 1:15 am

i agree alot with young102's take on this as well..it is a pleasure often neglected,..it is a vital component and shouldnt be overlooked before or after...psychological aspects are vital and communication is key as well, but it should be a key element in the success of love making...

MaggiesWishes 60F

1/3/2006 4:16 am

Mucho besito's, mi hermoso hombre, nnjastyguy!

It's good to see ya around, don't be a stranger, now.

Yes, valid points are made here ... from all points of view.

warm wishes768

ErosHunger 47M

1/23/2006 4:53 pm

I really enjoy the art of foreplay. I found it particularly challenging as my wife does not enjoy sex due to her disorder...but I love exploring a womans body, especially slowly with my mouth, nibbling, licking, kissing from head to toe, every nook and cranny. Sometimes massage comes into play, and biting around the neck. I also have a tendency to linger around navels and earlobes, they are enticing to me for some reason...
I don't mind being told what to do, or directed, as I'm very big on pleasing my lover, it's mor ethan half my reason for wanting to make love. I want to be appreciated, to please another sexually. Wow. I'm getting myself all worked up remembering my now dead sex life. *sigh* Time for a cold shower.

One of the ways I make foreplay last is keeping my fantasies alive in my mind during the lovemaking. My fantasies are outrageous, complex, and utterly impossible in reality but I imagine them playing out with my partner on one level while I'm physically interacting with her on another. It's like getting two orgasms in the end, one physical, the other mental. Does that make sense?

Anyway, listen to me talk, I'm out of practice and looking for a teacher, a sexual guru. She around anywhere?

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