~~ Ya wanna "tap" that lovely lump on Hump Day"  

MaggiesWishes 59F
2231 posts
5/31/2006 2:03 am

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~~ Ya wanna "tap" that lovely lump on Hump Day"

Young man … you say you want to get to know me. Yet, you have little to bring to the table to make me interested in knowing you. Even your attempt to get me to notice you, falls in the high school “come on” phase. Grow up … will you? Learn to use the gift of mind and voice in a respectful way when you ask for the value of time with a woman.

Young man … you say you can make me beg for your long lasting sex, in bed. Yet, you talk all this sexy talk and have nothing to back it up. You have no clue as to whom you are making out with here, cause you don’t have the time to get to know me before you jump to conclusions that you are what I need to cure my “fantasies”? And did you care that I wasn't satisified, did you notice, ok, so I lied to keep from having that "gawd awful" sex with you again. Get real! Did I come looking for you??? I think not.

Young man … it’s not your AGE that makes me pull away. It’s your lack of AGE in attitude and how you play up your words here on the “black and white” cyber page. The quick and easy way of letting me know you think you can match this experience of mine, is to brag about your abilities. And I question you … with what? Your hand? Oh sure, you may can fuck for hours on end, but so can a horse in heat. And the horse doesn’t think anything about it afterwards either. On to the next pasture. Ya think?

Young man … why would I take your word and not challenge you as a woman to find the reason I should drop my “walls & way of thinking” and let you crawl into my bed for a one night stand. When questioned, you can’t respond … you seem “tongue tied” that I’m not “chomping at the bit” to get your cock in my hot little cozy cove, so I can stroke your ego. A dildo and a hand may not can talk, but it can produce the same results in the end. Got "O" ? Ha!

Young man … I can’t wait for you to grow up, get some real personal experience and look back on your youth and think, “no wonder they passed me up” … I was foolish to play out of my league with her. Hind sight is 20/20. I’d let you in on a few secrets, but then I’d be breaking into the “brotherhood of man” and honey, that’s not my style. You need to go through the “rite of passage” just like the rest of the male gender. Unless you change your ways, this is the way it will happen. Just as any OLDER man has had to do, so shall you.
I’m sure he will back me up. Can I get an AMEN!!

Young man … an older woman has different curves and skins sensations on her body. The years of childbirth may still be viewed as tiny scares left behind … or stretch marks from loss of weight, a slight gravity imbalance in her breasts, hips, thighs or ass. Of course, exercise helps but some of us just like the way “nature” made us. YOU can’t view us or compare us to those of “20 something girls: … this is why we are “older women” we earned this "beauty of ours" as we survived in the stages of age and continue to do so.

Now … give me a REAL MAN who can make me feel like I’m the most beautiful, sensual, erotic, wanted, intelligent, damn sexy woman in HIS world despite my flaws and vices (and KEYWORD here is “FEEL” ) HE'll have more going for him, even if he’s younger then me.
I’m woman, and it’s my choice if I want you or not. But I’m damn sure not desperate for your ass in no uncertain terms. You want to know what I know, and to convience me, you try to think you are so experienced as to offer me a chance at you? Better get a better “pick up” line.
Next!!!

A truly mature younger man … brings to the table a inner willingness to compromise and entertain, intellect, conversation and doesn’t have “Blinders on” for the perfect "Older Hottie" … (Cause women’s bodies change during the stages of our lives and ages) and presents himself as a real man. He has respect for himself, shows respect for me and knows when the time is right to get to “know” me more intimately. He’s there for more than sex with the older woman, he’s there to get to know her in life, not have her … but share in her breath, her wisdom, her laughter, her playfulness … and some mature younger men can do this. Not all have the gift ... to share in her world.

A truly mature younger man is NOT the typical "I work hard and play even harder" so time to fuck is now not later ... kind of young man. He doesn't think of himself as a piece of cock for any pussy. Yea, you can tell the differece, a younger man looks way out of context , sounds pre-destine to fuck up the first time and can only hope his ego gets stroked along with his cock, cause he’s not getting laid as much as his other “man-ho” friends. And we all know that line of reasoning. Go back to the drawing board!

Now you can read this and get pissed, cause I really could care less … it’s not a personal rant toward anyone “younger man” just the ones that have issues with older women as a whole and wonder why they are being passed up. Maybe you should stick with the girls your own age, until you can play with the “big boys”, ya think?

AND just a personal note, for the record, the gentleman I dated for 3 years was a “mature younger” then me, man. But he had the decency to know how to approach, appeal, and respect a lady of older years. I do prefer someone nearer my age so we have something in common, as well as sex. Stands to reason, I think?

There is a difference and honey … A real lady knows who & what you are before you can blink an eye or draw breath.

.....Ya still think you Got Game?

PS... I still love the enemy and he is male
Warm Wishes to ya
Ciao, beautiful ones
{=} {=} {=}


Nightguy_1961 55M
4866 posts
5/31/2006 2:40 am

Have I got game?

Hell, I don't have a clue what the rules are, to be honest....

NG61....disappearing into the shadows....


MaggiesWishes replies on 5/31/2006 3:20 am:
Rules? There were rules???
Damn! I forgot the rules

warm huggies 2ya, Dark One {=}

SleekIcilyVarix 41M

5/31/2006 2:52 am

One of the things I've appreciated in older women is that they are more likely to truly know what they want, which you clearly do. Good luck in finding a Worthy Adversary (AdultFriendFinder ).


MaggiesWishes replies on 5/31/2006 3:29 am:
The one thing I appreciate about a "mature younger man" is his insight to know the difference.
Clearly, you seem to know.
Thank you for visiting and don't stay a stranger.
Warm wishes 2ya

reverend21 49M
1913 posts
5/31/2006 3:33 am

That must have been one very interesting E-mail


MaggiesWishes replies on 5/31/2006 3:36 am:
Email? Hum... where? You sent me email?
Is it coming by carrier piegon???

No, just got a "bee" in my bonnet this morning, no biggie.
warm huggies 2ya sugg's

campfirecozy 66M

5/31/2006 4:11 am

Love it, Maggie!
Why do I somehow envision you schooling younger men in front of a class, armed with this info on a PowerPoint presentation?? The world would certainly be a better place *grin*
Hugs,
Cozy


MaggiesWishes replies on 5/31/2006 5:41 am:
Interesting Idea.
Probably won't be voted in, tho...

Good to see ya,
Warm huggies 2ya

AshenMagusDonor 71M
57 posts
5/31/2006 4:18 am

Well put and very well said Maggie....ya gotta love your style.


MaggiesWishes replies on 5/31/2006 5:39 am:
Thank ya so kindly
Some days are better than others, this morning is a "bitoch"

warm huggies 2ya

rm_pagan380 64M
4405 posts
5/31/2006 5:29 am

Well, at least I now know why I haven't got a chance. Older men just don't interest you. You should of just said so and I wouldn't have bothered you all these weeks.
Truly, over the hill


Come play naked in the sunshine and dance naked under the stars.

Digambara


MaggiesWishes replies on 5/31/2006 5:38 am:
Quote me~~
"I do prefer someone nearer my age so we have something in common, as well as sex. Stands to reason, I think? "

Guess you didn't read the "fine" print

Truly,
Warm huggies 2ya ~P~

Priapeo 46M

5/31/2006 6:04 am

awwww, too bad... no chance for us youngsters.

Never argue with an idiot. He brings you down to his level then beats you with experience


rm_pagan380 64M
4405 posts
5/31/2006 6:11 am

Guess I wasn't wearing my readin specs, you know how it is with us old farts, even if I did read it I probably forgot it as soon as I did.
I was the younger man for twentytwo years but I finally wore her out trying to keep up with me. She was only going on forty when I met her. Be careful what you wish for.
Truly,


Come play naked in the sunshine and dance naked under the stars.

Digambara


MaggiesWishes replies on 5/31/2006 6:27 am:
ahhhh.... you naughty man!
I'm just a "hopeful romantic" at heart.
But I refuse to be worn out, just yet!
Ya only as OLD as ya thinking cap

warm huggies 2ya sweetie

digdug41 49M

5/31/2006 6:33 am

Oh man whoever that is is gonna delete his profile and go back to my space there he will have game

roaming the cyber streets of blogland


MaggiesWishes replies on 5/31/2006 7:32 am:
LOL!
Well... it was just some random thoughts, but I agree, He might have Game @ myspace.

warm huggies 2ya

rm_pagan380 64M
4405 posts
5/31/2006 6:35 am

It's a fact that women are psychologically seven years older than their chronological age and men are seven years younger psychologically. So that makes us both forty-seven and perfect for each other.
Truly, another hopeful romantic


Come play naked in the sunshine and dance naked under the stars.

Digambara


imaxtoy 33M
1289 posts
5/31/2006 8:00 am

LOL. I loved this post. That young man could be me. I'm learning, though. I have an awesome woman to help me grow too. I wouldn't have patience for myself...

imax, the toyed


MaggiesWishes replies on 5/31/2006 8:05 am:
Bless you, my young one (said with endearment)

Patience and respect is a key factor.
Appreciation for the gifts bestowed, priceless!

warm huggies, sugg's

rm_gerson42 52M
2419 posts
5/31/2006 8:07 am

Hail to the older, I mean middle aged, men. We sometimes not only know stuff, but utilize it. Do men get to repeat Birthdays and stay the same age?
ger


MaggiesWishes replies on 5/31/2006 8:17 am:
In my "world" ... sure they can.
I thought about staying 39 forever, but then ... I can be 40 and have the "rite of passage" time and time again

Works for me ... inspiration for thought.

warm huggies to ya

SpaceRangerNJ 55M
4687 posts
5/31/2006 8:21 am

It's the Gods gift to women syndrome. Which applies to younger as well as older women.

With all the perfect, ultra awesome hard body women in the media it's a hard lesson for some guys to learn that this is not reality. That the physical is only part of the equation and that beauty is a many faceted thing.

OK, now on a silly note regarding this line:

"Young man … you say you can make me beg for your long lasting sex, in bed."

It reminded me of this game to play with fortune cookies. Everyone reads their fortune out loud and puts "in bed" at the end. Makes them sound really funny. Try it. You are going to crack up.
SR


MaggiesWishes replies on 5/31/2006 8:44 am:
YOU "crack" me up, enough!

Yes, you have a valid point. Wish I'd said that.

The genes are holding up, but I'm fighting gravity!!!

warm huggies sugg's

imLadyBambi 58M/50F

5/31/2006 8:30 am

Maggie,

I have to totally agree with you.

Mr.Bambi is the only man that I have been with that makes me feel like a princess.

He takes ALL of my needs into consideration (sexual, mental and physically).

Nice expressions on your thought's.


Lady Bambi


MaggiesWishes replies on 5/31/2006 12:48 pm:
Ya know, that just makes me wanna "DNA" your man for future studies

Actually, Kudos to Mr Bambi for knowing how to make you the Princess in his life.

Warm huggies 2ya Lady Bambi

rm_pagan380 64M
4405 posts
5/31/2006 8:51 am

Sorry mame, I will not inflect myself upon you any farther.
Truly, no longer young


Come play naked in the sunshine and dance naked under the stars.

Digambara


MaggiesWishes replies on 5/31/2006 12:52 pm:
Mmmmmm... did someone get up on the wrong side of the bed today?
*shakes her head*
I would surmise a reply is in order, however ... as my Gramma use to say:
"A Lady, always knows when to walk away."

warm wishes 2ya ~P~

ByteChaser2 52M

5/31/2006 9:08 am

uh huh... Amen


MaggiesWishes replies on 5/31/2006 12:53 pm:
Just makes ya wanna get down on ya knees and ... pray???
Naw!
*giggles*

warm ya buns, hon? oh, sorry ... warm huggies 2ya

rm_kelli4u2dew 41F
5220 posts
5/31/2006 10:15 am

And people ask me why I prefer older men. It ain't because of their six-pack abs or all night hard on or rock-hard ass ...

Wonderful post, Maggie! You've said it far better than I every could!


MaggiesWishes replies on 5/31/2006 12:55 pm:
Somewhere there is a God, and she is laughing right about now ... probably at me! *snickers*

warm huggies 2ya Sis

Choozmi 50M

5/31/2006 10:43 am

I'm laughing because there is very little chance of any male of the species posting an equivalent version of this post directed at younger women.

See, we wouldn't want to say anything to upset them or steer them toward any hot young shallow guys (or hot young girls, for that matter).

Man, it's tough out here!


MaggiesWishes replies on 5/31/2006 12:58 pm:
Now that's what I'm talking about ... you found the humor and went with it! Yipppie! We got a live one!

Well... considering it's the female that actually chooses her mate in the end. If I were a Man, I'd be humble too.

warm huggies 2ya
Any good news on the home front?

concupiscentKid 40M

5/31/2006 10:54 am

"ya still think you Got Game?" must be a trick question.
I imagine it is the man who doesn't approach it as a game
who will best 'win' your heart.


MaggiesWishes replies on 5/31/2006 12:59 pm:
You caught that!
I'll never tell

Just *zipping* the lips for now

warm huggies 2ya

ByteChaser2 52M

5/31/2006 2:54 pm

Mother may I? Yes, Yes you may


wickedeasy 66F  
25445 posts
5/31/2006 4:10 pm

grins at Maggie ^5

i have known men in their twenties who are as mature as others i have known who are in their fifties. maturity is not ego driven. and men who love women, not just lust women are few and far between.

like parking spots.....all the best ones are taken or handicapped.



lucky me, i have my own validated spot.

smooch

WE

You cannot conceive the many without the one.


milfseeker27b 35M

5/31/2006 4:38 pm

Hey Maggie,

hehe - interseting post. Game - yea - I wish I had some - what game are we playing?? Wish we had been able to hang out - your one cool chicky. Did you make it to the party?? We will hang next time

Till then - this post made me break into song - hehe

Fooling Yourself
~ Styx
You see the world through your cynical eyes
You're a troubled young man I can tell
You've got it all in the palm of your hand
But your hand's wet with sweat and your head needs a rest

And you're fooling yourself if you don't believe it
You're kidding yourself if you don't believe it
How can you be such an angry young man
When your future looks quite bright to me
How can there be such a sinister plan
That could hide such a lamb, such a caring young


Djeeper1987 47M

5/31/2006 5:47 pm

Hell if I know if I still got game? hehehehe With you thou, and that hot smile of yours. There still might be hope for me yet.

AMEN!!

Carpe Diem


complexlysimple 34M

5/31/2006 6:01 pm

    Quoting Choozmi:
    I'm laughing because there is very little chance of any male of the species posting an equivalent version of this post directed at younger women.

    See, we wouldn't want to say anything to upset them or steer them toward any hot young shallow guys (or hot young girls, for that matter).

    Man, it's tough out here!
/ I think I may have posted something like that already... something about not being just a walking dildo to play with and/or mooch off of....

....I must have missed a memo somewhere...

Anyway what this loving you despite your flaws and vices?? I think NOT ... they might just be part of the reason I'm here


MaggiesWishes replies on 6/1/2006 9:53 am:
make sure you send me a link so I can check it out

docdirk 47M

5/31/2006 7:23 pm

Damn, this isn't going to ruin Hump Day for the rest of us, is it???

Ah, Its you again, Your Angel Feathers and your Blood Stains...


rm_lust2u2 51M

6/1/2006 1:22 am

Maggie, well said (must admit I recognize myself in some of your argumentation... hopefully just a horrible flash back)


HBowt2 58F

6/1/2006 1:49 am

yep...we know what we want alright


out_for_a_ride 35M

6/1/2006 3:46 am

this is choozmi's comment...."I'm laughing because there is very little chance of any male of the species posting an equivalent version of this post directed at younger women. See, we wouldn't want to say anything to upset them or steer them toward any hot young shallow guys (or hot young girls, for that matter). Man, it's tough out here!" ....and can I say HA?!!!....there is definitely an equivalent to be printed, at least in my eyes, and it would sound a bit like...

little girl...you think you're drivin me crazy the way you flirt, shakin your ass and flauntin your dirt, actin like you can handle me cause you've handled "so" many already, but that acts no different than any one of these bettys, you're drivin me crazy the way you just keep runnin your mouth, none of you ever seem to shut up about yourself, the way you complain about the world, and how it's never your fault. you're just a sweet little girl in the world, please, the shits always your fault. all the little bullshit drama that comes your way, you claim to despise and say you wanna stay out of the way, but 9 times a day it's bullshit you creatively fabricate in your head, and i'm suppose to turn a blind eye and take you back to my bed?

little girl...you don't know the first thing about expressing your passion, and you certainly don't express it with fashion, you promise it's your hole that'll make my eyes roll and have me curl my toes, yet you don't know how to take control of a kiss, driving me crazy to take it back in bliss. you don't know how to ride the way a grown woman does, you don't keep your hole squeezed tight around my pole the way a grown woman does, you don't rock and grind in time like we're both on a roll, again it's all about your lack of control. it's race to the finish line like we're out of time, just slow down and enjoy the shit. if you did the big "o" would rip you to bits!

little girl...you still think you're just as sweet as can be. but you seem to think I don't know that as soon as your attempts fail with me, you're gonna move to my homeboy standin right next to me. in fact, lets be real, i'm not a chump ya see, even if your attempts worked with me, you'd still at some point make the move on my homeboy standin right next to me.

little girl...most importantly, what you fail to see, is my interest lies within the concept of intimacy. i wanna know that i can help you as much as you help me, and that's a desire of much more than physically. i wanna come to you as you come to me, with problems pertaining to spirituality, to share our ideas for a better understanding, of not only ourselves, but for everything we're planning. standing the test of time, best friends to the end, to pick up where we left off when the next life begins

the fact is, that maggie is dead on (and obviously i feel ya), but this isn't a gender thing. this is a people thing. for those of us that've been around for longer than our age would indicate, of course we're more refined in what we want. i was told recently, by a friend, that they feel i have far more sexuality pent up than i let on. true as it may be, it's for all of the things expressed in maggies blog, only for females. for those guys that think we don't get that same privilege to be choosy, we absolutely do. but the fact is, we exercise the ability a lot less. personally, if all you guys want these young ass minds and unrefined souls, take them. personally i'd rather try and help them gain some clarity and maturity without the drama and stress that comes with putting another notch on the post

b


SacredStarDance

6/1/2006 4:27 am

excellent post my dear...

under the stars
We choose to write
you choose what you comprehend.
read twice and be nice
every key stroke... has a heart beat


MaggiesWishes 59F

6/1/2006 9:54 am

UPDATE!

I will be back to reply to all your comments, just at the moment, time is killing me to hurry up and shut down the computer. *sigh*

x0x0x0x0
Warm huggies to all {=}


Choozmi 50M

6/6/2006 11:22 am

    Quoting out_for_a_ride:
    this is choozmi's comment...."I'm laughing because there is very little chance of any male of the species posting an equivalent version of this post directed at younger women. See, we wouldn't want to say anything to upset them or steer them toward any hot young shallow guys (or hot young girls, for that matter). Man, it's tough out here!" ....and can I say HA?!!!....there is definitely an equivalent to be printed, at least in my eyes, and it would sound a bit like...

    little girl...you think you're drivin me crazy the way you flirt, shakin your ass and flauntin your dirt, actin like you can handle me cause you've handled "so" many already, but that acts no different than any one of these bettys, you're drivin me crazy the way you just keep runnin your mouth, none of you ever seem to shut up about yourself, the way you complain about the world, and how it's never your fault. you're just a sweet little girl in the world, please, the shits always your fault. all the little bullshit drama that comes your way, you claim to despise and say you wanna stay out of the way, but 9 times a day it's bullshit you creatively fabricate in your head, and i'm suppose to turn a blind eye and take you back to my bed?

    little girl...you don't know the first thing about expressing your passion, and you certainly don't express it with fashion, you promise it's your hole that'll make my eyes roll and have me curl my toes, yet you don't know how to take control of a kiss, driving me crazy to take it back in bliss. you don't know how to ride the way a grown woman does, you don't keep your hole squeezed tight around my pole the way a grown woman does, you don't rock and grind in time like we're both on a roll, again it's all about your lack of control. it's race to the finish line like we're out of time, just slow down and enjoy the shit. if you did the big "o" would rip you to bits!

    little girl...you still think you're just as sweet as can be. but you seem to think I don't know that as soon as your attempts fail with me, you're gonna move to my homeboy standin right next to me. in fact, lets be real, i'm not a chump ya see, even if your attempts worked with me, you'd still at some point make the move on my homeboy standin right next to me.

    little girl...most importantly, what you fail to see, is my interest lies within the concept of intimacy. i wanna know that i can help you as much as you help me, and that's a desire of much more than physically. i wanna come to you as you come to me, with problems pertaining to spirituality, to share our ideas for a better understanding, of not only ourselves, but for everything we're planning. standing the test of time, best friends to the end, to pick up where we left off when the next life begins

    the fact is, that maggie is dead on (and obviously i feel ya), but this isn't a gender thing. this is a people thing. for those of us that've been around for longer than our age would indicate, of course we're more refined in what we want. i was told recently, by a friend, that they feel i have far more sexuality pent up than i let on. true as it may be, it's for all of the things expressed in maggies blog, only for females. for those guys that think we don't get that same privilege to be choosy, we absolutely do. but the fact is, we exercise the ability a lot less. personally, if all you guys want these young ass minds and unrefined souls, take them. personally i'd rather try and help them gain some clarity and maturity without the drama and stress that comes with putting another notch on the post

    b
That was a nice bit of poetry, sir, but...

A) You posted it on Maggie's blog -- did you also post it on your profile? Hm.

B ) Your profile lists you as 24 years old... why would you be worried about fending off younger women?

C) Your poetry seems to actually be directed at shallow women who use men, not at young women, and I advise you if you ever reprint this poem somewhere to make clear who its target audience is because it's very offensive to classify all young women in this way (i.e., "the shit's always your fault."

D) Maggie's message is directed at the many young men who are doubtless besieging her because of her killer wit and devilish smile -- she's trying to fend them off and/or redirect them to move on or try a better approach. No matter how you want to dress it up, your message is a challenge to hot young women to prove to you that they are worth your time. You're trying to use reverse psychology to entice them, and in my opinion it will backfire.

First of all, the hot young women you're trying to entice will never bother to read your message in the first place because there are too many hot young guys who aren't boring them to death with poetry.

Second of all, hot young mature women who bother to read your poetry won't waste their time with you because you are trying to intimidate them and they probably encounter enough intimidation in their lives already with work, school, family, etc. They will interpret your "challenge" as a warning that life with you will be difficult. Interesting, possibly, but difficult. Who needs it?

Thirdly, the only women to whom your message is likely to matter are immature ones with self-esteem issues. They might interpret your poem to mean that you have high standards and they might welcome the chance to prove that they can be honest and true. There might actually be some women like that on this site and they might respond to your challenge. And you will end up with an immature woman with self-esteem issues who can only be happy in challenging, possibly abusive relationships.

The bottom line: Maggie's message is designed to repel unwanted suitors. Yours is designed to attract more mates. They don't fall into the same category.


MaggiesWishes replies on 6/6/2006 12:03 pm:
Ok, I'm just weak when a handsome man comes to my rescue ... point me in your direction, so that I may bask in your light, oh shiny knight.

Thank you sweet darlin. {=}
warm huggies 2ya

Choozmi 50M

6/6/2006 1:15 pm

I'm pointing even as we speak.

Er, blog.


MaggiesWishes replies on 6/6/2006 1:53 pm:
Ya little rasclely one!

~~~> proceeds to blog, can follow really well too, If I don't trip on my feet as I look at ya behind*

out_for_a_ride 35M

6/6/2006 10:54 pm

i'm sorry i thought i was clear that this is directed at women of all ages because if you read the message beneath my "poem" (they're just rhyming words...it's not really a poem, though i'll take that part as a compliment) you'd understand that i feel eternally old (and so we're clear that's not anything anyone but me can judge) and i've spoken along these lines to women twice my age, and not necessarily about sex, so your theory about using reverse psychology to attract hot young females is unsubstantiated. i even state that if guys want to pine over these young minds, not young women, young minds, they'll get no competition from me. furthermore, by your own admittance no young hot girls are probably ever gonna read it, so why would you think that was my target in the first place...the truth is i didn't agree that a male couldn't feel the same way (because obviously i do), and it has nothing to do with a physical age (as i'm sure maggie has felt this way about a handful of "older" guys as well) but a spiritual and emotional consciousness...now if i was gonna try and bring you down a notch (which you've so blatantly tried to do here) i would have made my own presumptions of you (which you've so blatantly done) based on what i disagree with. i didn't, i simply replied "ha!" because i disagreed. so my far more respectful suggestion: examine why it is you felt so offended that i disagreed with you. i can assure you it's got nothing to do with me.


MaggiesWishes replies on 6/7/2006 4:10 am:
Nothing like a good downhome debate to get the blood flowing.
No harm, no foul.
It's good to view the underside, oversides, sideviews and rose colored glasse side of topics. A male side is always welcome, too

Personally, to each his own. We all learn as we go.

warm thoughts for ya and don't stress the rubber band, it all snaps back into place eventually

Now, who's fighting over me??? *looks around*

Choozmi 50M

6/7/2006 6:13 pm

    Quoting out_for_a_ride:
    i'm sorry i thought i was clear that this is directed at women of all ages because if you read the message beneath my "poem" (they're just rhyming words...it's not really a poem, though i'll take that part as a compliment) you'd understand that i feel eternally old (and so we're clear that's not anything anyone but me can judge) and i've spoken along these lines to women twice my age, and not necessarily about sex, so your theory about using reverse psychology to attract hot young females is unsubstantiated. i even state that if guys want to pine over these young minds, not young women, young minds, they'll get no competition from me. furthermore, by your own admittance no young hot girls are probably ever gonna read it, so why would you think that was my target in the first place...the truth is i didn't agree that a male couldn't feel the same way (because obviously i do), and it has nothing to do with a physical age (as i'm sure maggie has felt this way about a handful of "older" guys as well) but a spiritual and emotional consciousness...now if i was gonna try and bring you down a notch (which you've so blatantly tried to do here) i would have made my own presumptions of you (which you've so blatantly done) based on what i disagree with. i didn't, i simply replied "ha!" because i disagreed. so my far more respectful suggestion: examine why it is you felt so offended that i disagreed with you. i can assure you it's got nothing to do with me.
If you were trying to direct your poem/message at "women of all ages" then perhaps you shouldn't have used the phrase "little girl" throughout it. You used "little girl" a lot more than "young minds", so I'm sure I'm not the only one who assumed you were trying to reach young women.

I wasn't offended that you disagreed with me. I was offended on behalf of whichever women you were trying to reach with your original message. Here are some choice tidbits to refresh your memory:

"you think you're drivin me crazy the way you flirt, shakin your ass and flauntin your dirt" -- I can only assume you have women approaching you that way through this site often, yes? I'm assuming their "dirt" is their... what, sexuality? What an ugly way to put it. (My first thought is, If you don't like a girl flirting with you, ignore her.)

"none of you ever seem to shut up about yourself" -- don't you think that's a little offensive?

"you promise it's your hole that'll make my eyes roll" -- are women on AdultFriendFinder making these promises to you? How? Through e-mail? Your blog? How?

"as soon as your attempts fail with me, you're gonna move to my homeboy standin right next to me" -- How would you feel if someone said that about your sister? Don't you think it's insulting? You're calling her a slut.

Your final paragraph of your original message belies your claim that you are not trying to use it to attract a partner: "my interest lies within the concept of intimacy. i wanna know that i can help you as much as you help me, and that's a desire of much more than physically." "Much more than physically" seems to me to include "physically" which probably means sex, yes?

When you started your original post you said "there is definitely an equivalent to be printed, at least in my eyes". Equivalent meaning similar, on AdultFriendFinder I assume. I responded by pointing out that your message and Maggie's were not similar at all.

She was fending off would-be sex partners on this site and you were (in my opinion) trying to attract them.

She's dealing with obnoxious messages from young (and older) men on AdultFriendFinder who are trying every trick imaginable to get her into bed. Can you honestly say that you are dealing with something equivalent on this site? Without even having a picture posted on your profile?

She actually is old enough to refer to a substantial portion of the male population on here as "young man" (sorry Maggie) while you are not much older than the "little girls" you are insulting.

I'm going to assume that you don't log in to AdultFriendFinder and find mountains of provative e-mails waiting for you. That's not an insult directed at you, by the way; it's the reality for most males on this site. I made my original comment because since males outnumber females on this site by something like twenty-to-one or worse, it would be very silly for a man to post a message equivalent to Maggie's directed at women because men so rarely hear from women here anyway. Why would any thinking man want to discourage contact when the odds are already so much against him?

I never said that I didn't share some of Maggie's feelings in terms of several immature partners I've had in the past. Sure I've felt that way. But it would be pointless for me or any male to post a message on AdultFriendFinder discouraging women from contacting me/us when they rarely contact me/us as it is.

I probably shouldn't add this, but I will: When I was in my mid-20s, I had little patience for women younger than myself. I assumed that I was terribly far beyond them in experience and maturity and I had a hard time even holding conversations with them because they sounded so shallow and "girlish" to me. I tended to date women who were within a year of my own age or less.

I look back at some of the attitudes I had then and I laugh.

Why did it bother me so much that younger girls sometimes talked of things I considered trivial? Did every conversation have to be about something huge to be worth having?

Why was it annoying when a younger girl was occasionally unsteady, unconfident, "coltish"? Couldn't I find beauty in that?

Why did it embarrass me that a younger girl could be clumsy in word or deed? Was I rock-solid and beyond reproach?

Now there may be a difference between the young ladies of my past and the sluts you describe who'd as soon do your best friend as you yourself but if there isn't... maybe you should lighten up and stop trying to take yourself so seriously.

Or try eHarmony. They claim they can help you find a spiritual partner.


out_for_a_ride 35M

6/8/2006 11:47 am

holy jesus man, i'ma answer all your remarks and then i'm done with it because you are beyond simple...

If you were trying to direct your poem/message at "women of all ages" then perhaps you shouldn't have used the phrase "little girl" throughout it. You used "little girl" a lot more than "young minds", so I'm sure I'm not the only one who assumed you were trying to reach young women.....maybe not, but you are the only one to have written a response directed at me with ill intent (that i noticed at least, i'll double check that when i'm done here). personally i wouldn't have been offended if maggie had started hers with little boy, the fact is you're reading into this far more seriuosly than i wrote it. not my fault.

"you think you're drivin me crazy the way you flirt, shakin your ass and flauntin your dirt" -- I can only assume you have women approaching you that way through this site often, yes? I'm assuming their "dirt" is their... what, sexuality? What an ugly way to put it. (My first thought is, If you don't like a girl flirting with you, ignore her.) lets be clear about my profile since you obviously went and read it, i'm not here to find a lover of any kind! so no, the few women i talk to on hotmatch are in their blogs i regularly visit, or when they decide they'd like a personal opinion not displayed in an open forum and they email me. if i wanted more i'd upgrade my membership. assuming also makes an ass out of you and me, and frankly i'm the only one allowed to make an ass of myself, and i surely don't need help. it has nothing to do with flaunting their sexuality, it has to do with flaunting the details of their encounters like it's supposed to impress me and catch my interest. again, not here on hotmatch, to my face from across the counter or where ever. to me that's not appealing and very distasteful. talk about that shit all you want, but don't do it around me cause i don't care.

"none of you ever seem to shut up about yourself" -- don't you think that's a little offensive?...no i don't. 99 percent of the world talks about themselves way too much! i hate talking about myself for that reason. i'd rather ask the right questions to make someone else feel like a million bucks to talk about themselves and what interests them. take notice during the day to the conversations around you, more than 80 percent (and that's definitely a low ball number) of the conversations are self centered with more than one person trying to interject themselves into the subject. but more than that, women, especially women, will ask a question just to answer it themselves about themselves!

"you promise it's your hole that'll make my eyes roll" -- are women on HotMatch making these promises to you? How? Through e-mail? Your blog? How? for the last time, no! not on hotmatch. at parties. at local events. at the mall. at the grocery store. at gas stations. at stop lights. jesus you must not get out much. i've been propositioned every which way possible and when i was 17-20 i loved it. somewhere on my way to a 21st year i began to find a lot of what i thought i wanted i didn't really want. it was a subsitution for a more meaningful exsistence that i wasn't fulfilling. now i walk the path i've only ever wanted to walk, and on this path random sex has no role.

"as soon as your attempts fail with me, you're gonna move to my homeboy standin right next to me" -- How would you feel if someone said that about your sister? Don't you think it's insulting? You're calling her a slut....no, you said it not me. i've seen women of all ages behave in such a fashion. one looks away, so she starts to talkin to his buddy. or he doesn't look away and she still ends up talkin to his buddy, with this i've watched some be not only honest, but upfront about being into more than one person, and others flat out lie. fact still remains that this is not a person i have an interest in getting to know. i didn't claim slut. i simply don't want to deal with the bullshit that such a situation would create for me.

Your final paragraph of your original message belies your claim that you are not trying to use it to attract a partner: "my interest lies within the concept of intimacy. i wanna know that i can help you as much as you help me, and that's a desire of much more than physically." "Much more than physically" seems to me to include "physically" which probably means sex, yes?...how does the final paragraph state i'm trying to attract a mate. this is no seduction note you tard. this is what i'd want in a person as opposed to a person described by any of the previous paragraphs. furthermore, a desire of much more than physically doesn't mean that it's included with the more. my life revolves around creating bonds with people that are stronger than any (solely) sexual bond could ever be. so while it could be included with a physical experience, my motivation isn't to find the intimacy for the physical. let me clear up the concept of love here....love is love, there is no degree or seperation. i love my family, my friends, as much as any lover i've ever had or will have. the only difference between them is the physical aspect of the relationship. so what i'm interested in from the opposite sex when they approach me is can such a bond be built regardless of whether we come to sex or not. and typically this is not the type of woman i've described...you're a great slueth though.

When you started your original post you said "there is definitely an equivalent to be printed, at least in my eyes". Equivalent meaning similar, on HotMatch I assume. I responded by pointing out that your message and Maggie's were not similar at all.

She was fending off would-be sex partners on this site and you were (in my opinion) trying to attract them.
and i pointed out you were wrong in your assumption because i'm not trying to attract them. an no, you assume again and you make an ass of both of us...my equivalent was not to this site. for me, it's when i'm out and about. but i posted it here because this is where the blog was, and though you may not have this problem, and though it may be far less common for guys than girls, i'm sure there are some dudes on this site that are getting more bullshit than they want. and even if there's not one guy on this site with this problem, that doesn't mean you have to be afraid of chasing off the shit you don't want. it's shit you don't want! how hard a concept is that, if it's hard enough for you as it is, it's got nothing to do with chasing away what you don't want! i mean how logical is that, listen to yourself, seriously..."it would be very silly for a man to post a message equivalent to Maggie's directed at women because men so rarely hear from women here anyway."...so if you heard from a person you knew you didn't want just by reading their email or checking their profile, you'd still try and hook up or something because you rarely hear from women as it is???? i know i've name called a few times at this point, but i'll leave it to you to come up with an adjective to describe this thought process...."Why would any thinking man want to discourage contact when the odds are already so much against him?"...because it's contact i wouldn't want

She actually is old enough to refer to a substantial portion of the male population on here as "young man" (sorry Maggie) while you are not much older than the "little girls" you are insulting....you should be sorry, but i won't even get into why because you're obviously too consciously young to comprehend, and that's no assumption, i said what i had to say about it already, and you completely disregarded it with the above comment.

and you really should have left your personal reflections out of it, because you can't ever compare me emotionally to you, at any age, ever.

if i don't take myself seriously who will? being serious in my thoughts and intentions doesn't mean i'm not amused in my life. on the contrary, i'm more amused because i'm getting everything i want. as much as your limited thought irks me, i want you to keep writing (how about that for reverse psychology) because in the end it's amusing that you took such offense to something I DON'T WANT from the women that approach me. how is that not the same message as maggies other than she deals with it here as well as her out and about day. you say it's got nothing to do with disagreeing with you, but do you really think i'm dumb enough to believe that had i just wrote it without mentioning your comment you'd still be trying me? come on man. you've said some pretty dumb things, but if your answer is yes, then it beats them all.

Or try eHarmony. They claim they can help you find a spiritual partner....so then why don't you hop on, maybe women will email you there. if i want more spiritual partners (which by the way, doesn't mean a sexual partner, it means a spiritual partner, someone who recognizes your entity in it's entirety, male or female) i'll find them in my daily travels.


Choozmi 50M

6/8/2006 2:34 pm

Out-for-a-ride, you don't offend me personally. You can disagree with me all you want.

What offends me is your attitude toward women. Go back and read your own words. They're ugly and abusive. You seem to see some women as dishonest, scheming, and emptyheaded.

You can explain yourself and try to justify your own words with more words but your original words are still there for all to see. Just scroll this page up and take a look.

I stand by everything I've said already.


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