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Sex &Swinging Etiquette
Sex &Swinging Etiquette
I found this on another website and decided to share because I've seen on so many blogs that people have come across others who lack etiquette completely. Rude, self-serving, and dishonesty seems to run rampant which is sad. We are here to have fun, but with others. Here is what they suggest;
-Do be truthful and honest.
-Do talk to your partner; let them know your feelings.
-Do be yourself.
-Do decide what your needs are, your interests and desires.
-Do tell other people what your needs, interests and desires are.
-Do use Protection.
-Do try new things that are within your limits.
-Do move at your own pace and do not be rushed by other people.
-Do reply even if it's to say 'no thanks'.
-Do some research
-Do have fun and enjoy the experience
-Do not be rude.
-Do not be vague about your desires.
-Don't tell lies.
-Don't try to cross other people's limits
-Don't cheat, you may get found out.
-Don't ever give out personal information, wait until you are comfortable with them.
-Arrive and leave as a couple Always arrive as a couple, and leave, it wont be viewed favourably if one partner leaves early and the other stays, the majority of time, if one goes, both go.
-Arrive on time Its not fashionable to turn up late to parties, as the night may have already got underway, and you may make people who have already began feel awkward walking in late, it may also be harder for you to fit in. If you are going to be late, maybe due to traffic, give the host a ring and check with them, they may update you on how the night is going so you may walk straight into it.
-Be polite The swinging lifestyle is full of insecurities and uncertainties. Being polite may help ease this. Treat people in the way you want to be treated; sensitively, thoughtfully, understandingly.
-Be friendly Be friendly with every one, even if you do not want to take it further with them, you may find you have other things in common, or they may introduce you to people who you are interested in.
-Reply to all invitations Reply to all invitations, even if you do not plan to attend. It is very annoying when you’re the host, if you do not know how many people are going to turn up. Reply by either by a phone call or a letter, thanking them for an invite.
-Don't arrive empty handed Phone the host and ask them if there’s any thing you may bring, always arrive with something for the hosts.
-Go prepared Take with you what ever you may need, toothbrush, comb, perfume/aftershave, Condoms, robe etc. If you’re sleeping over night then a sleeping bag and pillow.
-Neat casual clothing and good grooming Always take a robe or negligee with you, you may find it more comfortable as the evening progresses. Keep money, jewellery and other such valuables at a minimum, it’s an embarrassment to you and your hosts if you lose them
-Your health and hygiene The main thing that may turn your potential partners off may be bad breath or body odor. Have a shower before you leave for your party, and it’s a good idea to freshen up when you get there.
-Only do what is fun for you The whole idea is that you enjoy your self, that’s why you are in the lifestyle. Do not be pressured into doing any thing you do not want to, with any one you do not want to, always say no if you do not want to.
-How and why to say no The most basic and important swinging etiquette is the right to say no. A simple and polite No, thanks is all that is required. You do not need to explain, as this may cause problems and hurt. Do not be afraid to say no, every one has the right, and if you do end up doing things you do not want to it may cause more ill-felling and embarrassment.
-Do not be pushy If you fancy swinging with someone let them know in a nice, inviting way, if they say no, it is up to them. Do not ask them why, as this could be embarrassing and hurtful. If they say no, do not carry on and try to sweet talk them and flirt with them, as this may do a lot more harm than good.
-Alcohol Most people like a few drinks at a party, drinking socially is fine, it may provide a good social platform to get to know people, it may also help you relax. Overindulging is not a good thing though, as it may hinder for physical and mental performance, and is a turn off for many people. If you need to drink heavily to participate in the party this isn’t the lifestyle for you.
-Practice safer sex It is up to you to protect your self and your partner. The use of condoms should not offend any one, it is not saying your dirty, it is simple a means to protect all parties involved. Anyone not maying to use a condom is selfish and irresponsible. How ever, saying that, if all participating people are happy not to, it may be down to your discretion.
-Do not take someone to a party who is not fully informed This is an obvious one, don't take any one to a party who doesn’t know what there going to, it is very embarrassment for every one, and probably may cause problems.
-Do not take a ticket to a swinger’s party A ticket is someone who goes with you to the party just to get you in, but has no intention swinging, of course no one HAS to swing, but if one person swings, it is normally expected that the other one is maying to swing.
-The group room is for group swinging As the name suggests, the group room is for group swinging, if you want privacy do not go to the group room, if you take your partner with you into the swinging room you may expect others to ask to join you, obviously you still have the right to refuse.
3/22/2005 9:30 am
thanks for the pointers hun... good stuff to remember.