Teenage dilema  

MWWwantsmore 51F
1594 posts
2/8/2006 6:54 am

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Teenage dilema

Ok so it was 11 pm and I went downstairs to get a drink, my 14 year old son is walking around half asleep mumbling that his sister is keeping him awake.(he has been sick and feverish) So I steer him back to bed and go down to the basement to talk to my daughter.

She is down there watching a movie with her BF. Now she has like her own place in the basement, bedroom, rec room and bathroom. So as I head down the stairs I hear the TV, as I look in the rec room the DVD is on pause and no kids! I can see the door to my daughters room is closed. So I call my daughters name a few times............

A surprised and shocked "Yeah Mom!" She comes out a minute later, hair messed up, tank top, no bra (I NEVER see her without a bra lol) So I tell her that her brother is complaining that the TV is too loud, so she walks over and shuts it off.

OK so they are both 18, good kids and I know where she is and thats she safe. My issue is I know what I did when I was her age lol. I mean I have had the "talk" with her and everything. Then why do I feel this way? Maybe its because I have a hard time accepting that my daughter is grown and an adult now.

Should I just let this pass? I mean she is a good kid, full time college student, no drugs, at least I know she is safe. If I talk to her about it will it embarrass her? Of course there is that perverted part of me that wants to know what she was doing lol

Anyway any other parents out there have any comments?

AboutFuckingTime 46M
5 posts
2/8/2006 8:16 am

You have to resign yourself to the fact that college students have sex. I think it should be in the admissions handbook. It's always going to be weird, hell she's your little girl. What are you gonna do? The world changes, they grow up, we grow older...it's just life.

You have the choise of whether you want it all out in the open or to practice the "don't ask don't tell" and that all just depends on your own relationship with her.

Parenting, crazy shit. Good luck.

rm_paytoplay694 53M
14 posts
2/8/2006 8:20 am

well that is a predicament ot be in however i think you said it all.. you know where she is and you know she is safe..hey mom just think she could have been up a dirt road somewhere in a car with the potential of some freak robbing or otherwise harming her and the bf.. so with that said i can only remind you that you have hormones and you satisfy their needs and for the most part had she turned the tv down earlier the brother wouldnt have been bitching and the whole deal would have went unnoticed.. so sometimes like your current situation if you dont know it doesnt hurt you...

as for the curiosity how curious are you? i cant balme you there either just too bad the door wasnt cracked or the fact that you called her name next time just ease quietly to the door and listen...

rm_bri28ma 39M
357 posts
2/8/2006 9:48 am

Well, think of it this way...she's a college student and if she wasn't at home, she'd probably be doing A LOT more. If she's 18, be thankful she waited that long...really. I'd like to think when I finally have kids, I'll try to be understanding about them growing up, but I can imagine it's hard. It probably seems like yesterday she wasn't wearing a bra...because she didn't need to!
LOL as far as your "perverse" curiosity...hey, there's something sexy about discovering sex for the first time. Maybe it reminds you of the thrill of losing your own innocense or maybe you're just that comfortable with sexuality in general and that much of a voyeur that you enjoy the thought!
Anyways...it may not hurt to have a special drawer in the house with condoms in it that she knows about, just in case

MWWwantsmore 51F

2/8/2006 10:28 am

Thanks guys for all your comments, just tough accepting the fact that I am old enough to have an 18 year old!

Bri: The condom thing is a good idea but as long as her father doesnt find them !! LOL

keithcancook 60M
17718 posts
2/8/2006 2:26 pm

Maybe it's time to have another talk? Go over the risks and responsibilties section found in the How To Raise A Teenager Handbook once again. It never hurts to reaffirm these things.

rm_bri28ma 39M
357 posts
2/8/2006 3:10 pm

MWW...good point! That could lead to some sticky discussions! Does he know about her being physical with her bf? I imagine, like most dads, he's a little over-protective...

MWWwantsmore 51F

2/9/2006 7:22 am

Some good advice here people, thanks. As for the birth control thing there is nothing I can do about that. She has to take responsibility for that on her own, in CT the law states that I cant even make an appt for her. I have discussed it with her and she has talked to the doctor about it. Its up to her to do something about it, which sucks! But we are open with each other and she is comfortable talking to me so I am not worried. SHe still had her pats on that night and came out too quick to have had to put them on lol

Bri.. as for her dad, its best that my daughter and I keep certain things from him lol

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