SEX VS Friendships  

ME_Bicouple 44M/38F
19 posts
11/14/2005 7:07 pm

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11/30/2006 4:22 pm

SEX VS Friendships

Sex comes and goes but friendships are for ever.

Why is it so many people expect us to jump into bed at the spur of the moment. We place in our add that friendship is important, we respond in all of our emails that friendship must come first and still they ask if they can just come over and F***. To explore such a lifestyle comfort is everything. In todays world you ahve to be soo careful and discreet (especially where we live). We want to explore our love for sex and our love for adventure, but we maintain our love for each other comes first. Love and friendship leads to excitement and a more open experience.

keithcancook 60M
17718 posts
11/14/2005 7:56 pm

Sex injected into friendship has it's own dangers...

SillieBear 63M

11/14/2005 8:24 pm

One hundred percent right about friendships and sex. And also noone ever got an STD from a friendship I don't have the answer to the jump into bed question. When my partner and I experimented with swinging many years ago, we found exactly the same thing. Three out of four couples that said they wanted to be friends first just got right to it on the first meet. It was a bit of a turn off. The fourth couple was looking good until I found out that the male actually worked for me several layers down in my company. It was tough to break it off, we were getting along so well. We then tried to host some parties with our friends and neighbors. It was a total nightmare. Half the people just wanted to F^&* some other guys wife and the other half were too shy to take off their underwear(mostly women)! About that time, my wife decided that she hated the whole idea, and that I only wanted to do it so that I could F^&* other women. BTW that was pretty much untrue and she had had more partners than I did!

Just deleted a bunch here cause I have wandered way off topic. Wish I had a better comment, maybe someone else will shed some light on this subject.


blacksweetness57 59M/F
3 posts
11/17/2005 8:00 am

I hear you. Not being from the county, I find it hard to make friends here. I guess I'm not used to the ways of people here. I do love living here however. We have a great love together, myself and my lady. We also love and respect our sexuality.

darksecret200 41M

11/22/2005 7:00 am

I agree, and I wish more people felt the same way. I certainly get turned off when I get responses that say "wanna meet this weekend?" How can someone just do that? Sex with someone after a few lines in an e-mail just doesn't seem right.

It could be that there are many people here that don't really want to meet, (they're just jerking off to pictures, to shy to really act, etc.) and serious couples are trying to weed out the fakes from the swingers in the quickest manner. I don't know all the answers.

It is good to know about people like you though. Glad to hear that there are some people who understand that trust and a sense of familiarity is important in this lifestyle

rm_rheapathic 47M

12/13/2005 8:28 pm


rm_ajalbert 45M
4 posts
4/17/2006 5:04 pm

Unfortunately, Aroostook County is a very sparsely populated area, and most of those that are here, are fairly devout Christian or various related sects, and haven't had much 'cosmopolitization'. So that does make it tough.

On the other hand, while quickie encounters can be enjoyable - I think that knowing someone over the long term, learning their faults, foibles, and their surprisingly good traits - is much more satisfying.

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