My Father-InLaw's Passing ...  

Luvwetcunt1000 48M
382 posts
8/9/2006 1:15 am

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My Father-InLaw's Passing ...

It was 4th of July - Independence Day... I got a call at midnight, my father-in-law was having difficulty breathing. We live in the same neighborhood. I rushed over to the house and found he was already in a very bad state. It happened so quickly, all over in a matter of 5 minutes. I couldn't save him ... he died in my arms.

I spent a little time trying to deal with my own emotions and not blame myself for not being able to revive him. After all, the end result of a 73-year-old heart struck by a massive attack isn't always a happy one. I think I'm okay now but I really feel bad that I can't do much else for the family.

These last few weeks have been extremely tough. My mother-in-law and my wife are devastated by his sudden passing. Now they're trying desperately to pick up the little pieces and continue a life without him. I'm doing whatever I can to provide support. Hopefully time will gradually heal the pain they're feeling and they will build up the strength they need.

For now, I won't have much chance to visit all my friends in blogland but I'll still pop in whenever I can. I've got to be there for my family ... they need me.

rm_Spices1971 46M
12 posts
8/9/2006 2:55 am

my condolences mate. take care of yourself as only then can u give the support your family needs. cheers.

digdug41 49M

8/9/2006 3:33 am

Sorry to hear this I hope that your mother in law and wife do bounce back it'll take a while the death of a loved one always takes away alot of our energy hang in there and just be there for them man I know its rough you have my condolences, As for me I am fine compared to what you have just had to deal with take care

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kyplowboy22 61M

8/9/2006 9:38 am

Condolences to you and your family. Guilt...don't help him, don't help you. From the sounds of things it would not have mattered if he had been in an ER when it happened. Bury him, grieve and move away from it. It is the natural way of life. Thanks for taking the time out to visit my blog. Hope you got a need laugh there. Later


docdirk 47M

8/9/2006 5:24 pm

I've got to be there for my family ... they need me.

Your priorities are entirely correct, lwc. We all feel for your loss and offer our heartfelt condolences. But we also appreciate that you are doing the right thing by devoting time normally spent here to those in your life that need you now, more than ever.

Best wishes and prayers.

Ah, Its you again, Your Angel Feathers and your Blood Stains...

Luvwetcunt1000 48M
1258 posts
8/10/2006 1:24 am

Spices: Thank you for visiting and thanks for the well wishes.

Luvwetcunt1000 48M
1258 posts
8/10/2006 1:49 am

Digs: So nice to see you around! Thanks for visiting. Yeah, death of a loved one can zap your energy but I'm glad that on the whole I'm doing quite okay. I'm now focusing on what needs to be done for the family and glad they're allowing me to help wherever I can. Catch ya later, buddy!

My man kpb: Thank you for your thoughts. You're right, chances are he most probably wouldn't make it in ER. I did get a good dose of laughter from your post! I'll see you around, mate.

Doc: I'm so happy to be in touch with you again after so long! I missed you (in a straight way!). Thanks for your words of encouragement. I'm staying focused and doing all I can. Say a short prayer for my wife and her mother if you can. They are the ones who need it most right now. You take care, my friend.

MZ: I take your advise seriously. I'm movin on-no problem with that. Like I mentioned in my blog, I dealt with it so I'm fine. It's only quite tiring now as my energy's used to support my loved ones. The good news is my wife has now gone back to work after a month and she told me it helps. She'll bounce back I'm sure. I'll visit you whenever I can. Miss reading all your interesting stories and I miss your humor so much! Later, angel!

Asian_SweetHart 46F
1547 posts
8/11/2006 4:17 am

hiya LWC,
Thanks for dropping in to read my blog. So, am returning to read your blog.
Condolences to you and your family for theloss of someone close to you - in this case, your father in law. No one is prepared for it, and it's a reminder to us all that life is too short.
I know what's it like to feel a death of a parent, but since then i've focussed my attention to one parent that is still alive and well.
There's nothing much to say, just be strong - though it won't be easy, but be positive too. Don't dwell on the sadness but always remember the good times.
Hope my postings has helped in a way, although i really don't know what am i rambling about. Big Warm Hugs my dear. Take care.


Luvwetcunt1000 48M
1258 posts
8/15/2006 10:55 pm

Hey SweetHart!

Thank you for your kind words. Things are better now. The family situation is slowly improving - time will heal...

As for me, I'm doing quite well. Still find it quite tiring because I now have added responsibilites in the family but pretty soon I'll get used to it.

Catch ya later!

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