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Alone and frustrated
Alone and frustrated
"You're such a good person and a great catch! You'll find someone at some point!"
"Wow, I can't believe you're still single!"
"Don't be hard on yourself, it'll happen someday!"
Not to toot my own horn, but these are things I've been hearing for years now from friends, aquantences, and family members. I guess if you hear it once, you've heard it a thousand times. I know it's meant from their hearts, but sometimes I wonder how accurate it is. If I'm such a great catch, why am I alone and frustrated?
Have you ever seen a couple and wondered, "What on earth did he/she do to deserve their partner?!" Lol, I know it's mean to think that way, as opposites do attract. I love all people as they are, and I'm certainly all for ANYONE finding love with the person they find attractive. But as time moves on, I feel finding love is like a spinning wheel: It's bound to come around to me...isn't it? Lately, that wheel seems to be getting bigger, and bigger. Is it almost out of style to be "the nice guy?"
I find myself in a new environment after a year, doing well, adapting, yet very alone. I think like most people, I try to fill my time with erroneous activities to pass time....well, aside from work, lol! Yet after a year of being here, I find myself having almost no friends, and seeing my secular life go up, and my social life go down.
Most of the time, I am just fine by being alone. I enjoy the freedom it provides by being able to jump in the car and go for a country drive, or a plane trip. But every now and then, I find myself looking in the seat next to me....wondering.
I wonder if I'm "such a good catch" like my friends, family members think, why am I still single? Why is it I only seem to attract those I'm NOT interested in? I don't use AdultFriendFinder as a dating site by any means, but if something came to be from a chance encounter...that'd be great! But, I'm not counting on it.
What am I missing? I'm not a drinker, and bars and clubs aren't my style. Are people like me doomed to clicking "Hot and Single" profiles for eternity? Is the phrase "Nice guys finish last" really true? Or am I stuck in the old song, "Lookn' for love in all the wrong places!"
9/9/2006 8:26 pm
Dont worry hun, I was in the same position at 35,but I was into the clubs bcause dancing was my out (need that raising a 15 year oldand sugle) I had just settled to the fact that I was meant to be alone, so I accepted that and was happy. Then this hot sexy man walked into my life and now I couldnt see my life without him. Good Luck!!!!|