Your Response M'lady  

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
3114 posts
8/7/2005 6:34 am

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Your Response M'lady

I must make something clear…

The only thing that I hold dear to is the way of the sword.

I have gotten crap for mentioning my personality type and who has been scientifically proven to also be the same personality type as me. I mentioned this as a basis and by no means did I ever proclaim to be as noble or righteous as any of them. I found it interesting because I have idolized many of them my entire life and then come to find out I have the same personality types as they did.

I use to write on a much more researched level. I stopped doing this though because numerous members were posting comments about how I was stealing other peoples work. When I quoted the information I did it professionally by including the author’s name and title that the information came from. Fair use laws mandate that I can copy up to 250 words of “any” written work as long as I give credit to the author that wrote it. Anything over 250 words requires that you get written permission to copy or quote the work of copyrighted material.

People still slammed me for it though. It is hard to debate some of my longer articles that I write and virtually impossible once I zap 4 or 5 quotes into it from world famous sex therapists and doctors. Perhaps this is the reason people got so pissed… in order to debate what I said they would need to also do research and thus it would take time out of their lives.

What pisses me off is the America ways and ideals. A lot of Americans believe that it is impossible for someone to have a very high natural understanding for anything. If it were true then colleges would find themselves out maybe 1 or 2 million dollars a year because some people would suddenly realize that they already posses as much information about a subject as a graduate does. A lot of people also believe that unless a person has had sex, they can not know anything useful about it.

M’lady you have not seen the emails I get from women here, women who do not even read my blog or articles. They see my title and that I am a virgin and I get emails from younger girls saying that virgins are the most useless fucking thing in the world and that they never grow talented. I have also had several bloggers post this kind of thing in my blog. Those comments of which I of course deleted. I have even gotten comments from men here claiming me to be a Nazi and I of course banned the men and that deleted the comments.

It is not me that posses such a large problem, it is the way people think. Everyone assumes that because I am a virgin I can not possibly know anything about sex at all. Even the people who do know I am well educated claim that I copy everything that I write from books and that it is impossible for someone my age and sexual status to know anything. Others claim that I am lying about my virginity just to get the ladies attention.

No matter what, all I get is garbage!

I have met a lot of people my age, none of which have cared to study what I have studied though. Many of the older people I have met that have studied what I have do not understand it. It is “not” because they are stupid; it is because the older language is sometimes very hard to understand. I have tried to help a few of them read between the lines but all I get in return is “you are a virgin, you can’t possibly be correct”.

In regards to why am I still a virgin?

I won’t have sex with a woman I do not love. I am very shy and quiet in real life and women do not bother talking to me at all, not even a simple “hello”. I obviously can’t have sex when I can’t even get a gal to talk to me. I do not even speak to my co-workers very much strictly because I am focusing on my job and do not want a distraction. Women treat me like I am a ghost, even the few women I have said hello to do not respond in anyway at all.

I could get laid very easily if I wanted to umm purchase it. Goodness knows that I have spent almost $20,000+ dollars in the last 7 years on all my history books and sexual education books. I could have wasted the money and gotten laid several hundred times with it. I choose to use it wisely instead.

I believe in love and making love and I will not alter that belief. I know that if I have sex with a woman I do not love then I will become like everyone else and start having sex with a bunch of random women or men like 75% of the rest of the world does it. I will not allow myself to become like everyone else. Most people care about lust and I care about love.

I am a geek; the only difference is that I study world history, sex, and martial arts and not computers or cars and such like many others.

If you buy a book on “Bushido” (the way of the Samurai) you would understand my beliefs. If you truly desire to know me or help me then perhaps you might consider buying a book on life as a Samurai. We are warriors and knights and not womanizers like a lot of other men. I still believe that anyone who engages in pre-marital sex should be exe***ed without hesitation or regret. Pre-marital sex is a sin and the punishment should be ***th. I can not judge others, only god can do that therefore it us our job to send them before god to undergo that judgement.

It is my theory that INFJ’s eventually become serials later on in life. These people are highly smart and highly dangerous when they loose their minds. While young we are passionate and driven. As test studies reveal however, we are the most common people to fall victim of “love at first sight syndrome”. This has happened to me a few times and really sucked obviously. I am young though and I am distracted by my numerous studies and therefore do not dwell on that love. When older however, that love could easily become an obsession and then you begin to enter highly dangerous territory.

If an INFJ finds love early then he is most likely going to become normal. If he is outlawed and treated like a ghost his whole life then he will eventually make society pay for being so rude. Sounds impossible but if you have studied the behavior patterns of serials then you would understand what I am talking about. Serials are very rare and so is our personality type in general. If you do the math than you will also understand where I am coming from. I see a clock ticking in front of my face… that clock is counting down to something that I will not be able to control. Right now I could use my skills to help people, but seeing as though they are stuck on the fact us virgins know nothing at all… it is not helping.

Right now I am sick of hearing radio advertisements saying, “without an education you can’t amount to anything”. Well it is possible to be smart and educated without having a paper degree. These advertisements should not even be legal because it is fucking brainwashing and it highly insulting to those of us who did not stay in school. I left school because my sister was on her deathbed with two serious eating disorders. I do not regret my choice and never will, had I not helped her with her medical programs then she would have died. My parents did nothing and that left me or my brother to help her. My brother was always out partying and sleeping with different girls so he wouldn’t help at all.

By publishing my book it proves that educated or not by a school, it does not change the fact that some of us are very soulfully powerful. Most people need a supervisor in order to accomplish anything and my soul is my supervisor. No teacher or professor required for me, just my passion and ambition. I could use my money to have sex or go out and party, I prefer to use it to good though and educate myself. This is more then I can say for a lot of other people though...

A lot of people think I am a stuck up jerk because I do not read other people’s blogs very often…


This is not my computer, it is my sister’s boyfriend and he is always on it when he is home. I do not get much time to be on it and therefore when I do get that chance I spend it writing. When I am not writing I am training or studying…

Between studying and training it takes almost 8 hours of my day away. I also work a job and have to sleep sometime in there as well.

Someday I will meet a gal and have a relationship. The only requirement I have is that she be sexually educated! I educated myself and I am a virgin and therefore I expect anyone who is having sex to be just as educated as me. I am not interested in fucking; only making love. I desire to use Kama Sutra techniques and tantric techniques. I have studied them for a long time and do not feel that I should be responsible for educating her about them. If she cared about her pleasure and my pleasure so much then she would have already been studying them for awhile. I do not think it is unfair of me to desire a sexually educated woman. I do not care what she looks like on the outside but I most certainly care about how she looks on the inside. I spend a lot of time also doing community service work with disabled children in Raymond Maine and she needs to be willing to help me with that work. A lot of women do nothing for anyone else unless it helps her in some way. I am disgusted by this attitude and will not associate with a woman who thinks so poorly. I desire a real woman and not one who is stuck on personal appearances or wealth. I care about the passions of the heart… I want a woman that knows how to follow her heart and not just the wetspot inside her panties.

We can not always have sex so I have to consider what life would be like in both a sexual and none sexual way. Sexually she has to be educated or very submissive so that I can properly teach her all the information and positions. In the heart she has to be willing to give her heart and soul for the help of the starving and disabled children around the world.

A woman who can not live up to those expectations is not a real woman at all.

To many people think that our sexual abilities make us a man or woman. It is our heart and soul and only our heart and soul that truly defines a man as a man and a woman as a woman.

There is your quickly written response… 2ofusfor3

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
8/9/2005 5:01 am

I study sexology as well yes...

It is about the differences of the male and female minds. I have copies of Darwin's original writings about it actually...

I have said that many times in some of my posts...

I have stated numerous times that the reason i started studying sex is because I believe there is a great deal more to it then people acknowledge. They act physically and do not agree with or even slightly understand how the mind works.

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
8/8/2005 12:56 pm

I try daisey but I get far to much crap from the regular members here.

They talk more crap then I do, at least I can base my research off doctors and scientists, all they have is strictly experiences and that is not enough. I would like to see one of them describe the medical factors involved with the different types of female orgasms. I understand them naturally and thus my studies go very well and I retain the information easier then any other information I have studied.

I was a F student in school and suddenly I am able to memorize evetrything about sex... I don't understand it really...

daiseys_21 33F

8/8/2005 12:00 pm

Its funny that ppl judge a person that is still a virgin and the same ppl will judge the ppl that lost there virginity young or without being married.You know I lost my virginity at a very young age and yes sometimes I do wish I would have waited for a time when I was in love or found that special someone..cause know i am 22 and still haven't found that special someone and pray for him everyday..Personally if I was you I wouldn't worry about what others say or think, because you are pretty cool, your so intelligent and i love to read your blogs.I could being have the worst day and come home and read one of your blogs and something one of them could have me thinking for hours...So thats cool and I look up to you being a virgin still. Its cool that you want to wait for someone that is compatiable with you and all ppl should be just like that. So in your search I wish you all the luck in the world and when you find that special someone let all of us know..O ya don't stop informing us, I know I could always use it.

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
8/8/2005 5:32 am

When i meet a woman that is willing to allow me to teach her harsh I will gladly do just that.

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
8/7/2005 6:45 pm

I never said I wanted a woman identical to me. Sexually yes, but in personality I do not care. It would be nice if she had similar interest as me, but not identical ones.

Opposites can in fact attract, for instance...

I am very shy and I would prefer to someday marry a more outgoing woman who can help me come out of my shell a little bit.

demonicsexkitten 41F
10671 posts
8/7/2005 6:42 pm

hmm... a 'switch' huh? i didn't know there was a name for it

i fully believe you can be sexually educated and know what you're doing even if you're a virgin. i can see how it would be hard to believe though. i used to want to marry a virgin, but then thought... 'but what if i know more than him?! how can i explain it?" i felt so embarressed by the idea. My first partner (whom i loved totally--still think he's a great guy! and sexy still at 47) had tons of experience compared to me... married 20 years, and a few g/f's after that... and yet i was able to teach him things. of course my 'teaching' was more along the line of curiosity and experimentation and imagination than actually having studied. so i guess shouldn't be labelled 'teaching' at all.

it's actually interesting how much i'm learning from blogging ideas from other people that i would never have imagined, and all the in-depth issues you discuss. i've spent time digging through the internet regarding some of the topics and came across some miraculously relevant information for things i've been wondering about for years. the internet is tricky of course... search a dozen different ways before you hit on *THE* combination to give you what you are seeking. or maybe it's just that the answers appear when you most need them, and not a moment sooner.

oh... and loyaltyandhonor thank you for viewing and posting to my blog. i wasn't aware that you usually don't.

And good that you support children

five_speed 41M

8/7/2005 6:11 pm

Sorry about that, 2ofusfor3, I got fired up and shot off at the mouth before I even read all of the post. I didn't realize it was directed as a response to a specific person until after I went back and re-read it. I'm pretty hot blooded and opinionated, but I'm not trying to attack anyone personally or specifically, so again, I apologize if I offended you.

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
8/7/2005 4:21 pm

Now that I read it again...

I try not to think that way if I can help it fivespeed. People annoy the heck out of me but I do not try to think less of them. Sure that is how my attitude comes across, but often times it is just a bad use of words and people do not bother to read between the lines. That is exactly why so many people can not understand the older writing ways because the words have different meanings behind their uses a lot of the times. People are so stubborn that all the see are strictly the words and lack the imagination to see the rest.

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
8/7/2005 3:00 pm


I like the way you think...

I think it would be easier to educate a sub then it would be a dom. If this is the case and she has no education then I would prefer her to be a sub so I can teach her.

If she is already educated then I don't care if she is a sub, dom or a switch because I am a switch more often then not. I desire to lead but sometimes I would like to follow. Make sense? I guess it might not to some but probably would to many.

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
8/7/2005 2:57 pm


A lot of members here put me down for them all the time. Because of my ideals on my desire for love they call me a Nazi or even worse at times.

I say that there is a difference between making love or fucking and they often tell me that since I have never had sex that I have no right to question it until I have actually had sex. They are totally different both physically and psychologically and yet they still believe that a virgin can not possibly know the difference.

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
8/7/2005 2:55 pm

A lot of people go through years of that Missy or never grow out of it at all. I am glad that you were able to overcome what nearly no one else in society is able to.

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
8/7/2005 2:46 pm

Thanks five speed...

I agree I am nervous about the idea...

However, I do not expect to be a wonderful lover or anything at first. To be really honest I would be happy just to be OK opposed to being great. I expect to start slow and not use the techniques. After 4 or 5 times (when I get use to the basics) I can start working on the more elaborate things that I have studied.

missy973 47F

8/7/2005 8:56 am

"I won’t have sex with a woman I do not love." For this statement, I respect you immensely.

It is this philosophy that I occasionally find in men that tells me to hang in there, to keep the faith (not that I ever lost it) and that there are still people out there, men and women, for whom sex is something not to be used casually. I've done my share of meaningless sex recently, after years of holding tight to the idea that it was supposed to be special, even as far as with one person your whole life. I had my two and a half months of fun/chaos, and now am back to the normal me. The normal me similar to you - but not entirely - who thinks of sex as something more than rubbing body parts together. Fear is partly what guided me to my ideals previously. Now the fear is gone, replaced by a desire for something more meaningful.

five_speed 41M

8/7/2005 7:51 am


I know it can be very discouraging, frustrating, and difficult, but you can't let imbiciles get under your skin. If you let them, then they win. Even if they do worm their way under your hide, you can't let them know that they do - it's like dumping blood in shark infested waters. You have to do what you do and write what you write for yourself and for those who understand you, and to hell with everyone else.

And of course you can be sexually educated without having sex. I took years and years of sex education before I finaly found a class that had a "hands on" lab to go with it!

All joking aside, I was 21 before I made love. I was nervous as hell on the inside, but kept my cool on the outside, because I knew I knew what to do. I told her afterwards that I had been a virgin, and she didn't believe me.

So do your own thing, man, the way you think it should be done, and pay no mind to the whining little bitches that try to knock you down. They're just ants beneath your feet, my friend.

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