Younger men = Better Lovers?  

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
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4/1/2005 1:50 pm

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Younger men = Better Lovers?

Younger Men A Better Lover?

I saw this in the advice line and I have to rave it!

“Do older women find younger men to be better lovers?

Younger men tend to have more stamina then older men; they often lack self-control though. The actual truth is that younger men are a good energetic fuck but not good lovers! Being a true lover involves making love, making love is medically/philosophically referred to as “tantric” sex. Many older men literally train and study kama-sutra for a long time as well as the Perfumed Garden, and Tao Tantra (plus several other forms).

Making love is about connection, fucking is about physical endurance. While many women here might say that younger men are good in bed, doctors and therapists confirm that very few younger men are actually what would be considered a “good lover” because they do not actually posses the knowledge of a lover. Fucking is only one of the numerous ways people can have sex; younger men tend to focus more on this one sexual aspect then any other. Being a good lover can happen through training or by accident, those who are trained as a lover learn both tantric sex and sexuality. They can then use this knowledge when having sex with “anyone” and still is a wonderful lover. An accidental lover is someone who just happens to have the freak accident of doing what happens to drive that one specific person wild.

Making love is also an act of passion, fucking is an act of lust. In order to be passionate in life you have to know who you are and then learn what your heart desires. Very few people especially younger people in modern society find out whom they really are till after they get out of college and step into the real world for the first time. I have not heard of very many younger men actually caring enough about their partners to take the time to study sex in it’s older more passionate form. Most people who learn about sex in today’s world do it through kissing and telling and not actually studying. According to typology there are only 3 out of the 16 personality types that would be a natural lover. These 3 types combined only exist within 27% of known society meaning roughly only 1/72 modern people are actually natural passionate lovers. A lot of personality types do not develop during puberty, they develop throughout your life and more commonly between the ages of 20 to 30 for women and 27 to 40 for most men.

I am medically a serious nymph; most people in modern society are not nymphs and are in fact sex addicts. A nymph is someone who loves sex but can go without it; we are abnormally sexually active when engaged in a meaningful friendship or relationship. Nymphs tend to care more for sexual art and erotica where as most sex addicts desire pornography and frequent and numerous sexual partners. Most of the younger and older people who go out to bars and sleep around would be classified as a sex addict and not a nymph! Nymphs care a great deal about sex, sex addicts tend to only care about rough pornstar style sex.

I do agree with one person’s comment when they said “many younger men like older women because they tend to be more sexually secure”. This is exactly why I enjoy older women so much, they know what they want and have the guts to express it. Younger women act in a similar fashion but they do it in a more flirtatious way and come across more as a erotic tease oppose to being a sexually secure person like older women. Lovers are defined by their wisdom and maturity, as most intelligent women know many young men and young women do not qualify within any of these guidelines. It would appear in today’s world that the average age of mature adulthood is more around the age of 30 to 35. In the US the law says we are adults at the age of 18, just because the law says we are mature does not mean we actually are though!

A true lover knows how to make a person tick both in and out of the bedroom. Lovers care about more then just sex but may very well be very sexually expressive people. Nudists would often be classified as true lovers because they are obviously secure with who they are. A woman or man who poses erotically would be considered mature, it takes more wisdom and maturity to reveal a part of yourself in a sexually arousing way then it does for a man to just flop out his penis or for a woman to expose her vagina. Erotic would be a woman spreading her legs to show her vulva but holding something over part of it to block the view. Also a woman who might reveal her breasts but keep just her nipples covered. A man who shows his penis but keeps the shaft or head covered so it does not reveal it all. There are various forms of what would be considered erotica and these are just a few. Erotic writing is a clear indication of a true lover, obviously writing erotica is about knowing how to not only have sex physically but to be able to have sex verbally as well. Many people who know how to physically have sex do not know how to verbally explain sex. A good lover can do both at any point in time “all” the time. A lover is a nymph, a f***er is an addict.

It may be possible that younger men are good lovers, but that is because they act with their heart and mind and not just their penis. Many people today try and make themselves feel better by using words out of proper terms, sex addicts try and feel better in this way by claiming they are nymphs when in fact they are not even remotely close to being a actual nymph. Loving sex and “not” being able to live without sex are two totally different things! One is a lover, the other is a f***er!

Lovers act out of passion, normally today the true lovers that exist are religious people who believe and feel in higher powers. Jesus was a virgin, but he is still considered the most admirable and “king” of the lovers and romantics. Even none religious people know he was without a doubt the greatest lover of all time. I am not personally religious, but even I have admiration for him, he did something no other human being will ever in history be able to do again. The men and women who have beliefs like his are the lovers of the world both in and out of the bedroom. Mother Teresa and Martin Luther King Jr. are the most recent true lovers that have existed. Lovers care about humanity or religion, most religion is actually just preaching about humanity though.

Because of the maturity factor and passion involved with tantric sex, I would have to say that older men make better lovers then younger ones.


LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
4/28/2005 2:32 pm

That is very interesting now that I think of it again... there is a major plus to some guy's not having sexual experience.

I think you are literally the first person to ever say that. Some experience is good, but in today's society... sometimes no experience is actually much better then a lot of it.


LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
4/27/2005 5:13 pm

I can imagine that... sorry it is hard for me to find comments when they get posted on older blogs.

A few women have told me politely that they think part of the reason I am the way I am is because I have not had to experience those hardships and that is why I am being so careful.


konkali 40F

4/25/2005 3:55 pm

on a curiosity.. back to the older/younger men..
There may be a level you're not addressing in regards to younger men being better lovers, like women, men to carry the baggage of past relationships with them as they experience life. I seem to find that the intensity and passion which I found in my younger days is almost impossible to find in men in my age group. Apparently, as people remain single and age, after a series of relationships, the walls that have been erected make true love and passion which comes from trust, harder to find.. thus, the intense lovemaking is much much more rare.


LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
4/3/2005 5:22 am

You missed several pervious posts, I don't normally masturbate. I go through cycles just like a woman goes through her menstrual cycle. Normally I write and not masturbate. I haven't been writing much lately, obviously I have been masturbating instead.

Sex addicts cheat, nymphs do not. Sex addicts love to fuck, nymphs tend to like making love. I can't be a INFJ if I love to fuck.


LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
4/2/2005 8:47 am

I don't sleep around, I am still a virgin. It is impossible for me to be an addict but I appreciate your comment. The fact I study sex and still am a virgin shows passion and caring for when i do have sex. Passionate people are not addicts my friend, that is impossible. Addicts feed off others and not themselves. I am self driven and open and honest, addicts normally try and hide who they really are. Sex addicts and drug addicts function identically.


rm_WickedFemale 62F
401 posts
4/1/2005 7:39 pm

U hitted that one on the head now!!!! Correct....


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