Why do I choose a slightly over-wieght gal opposed to a "goddess"?  

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
3114 posts
4/5/2006 1:34 pm

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Why do I choose a slightly over-wieght gal opposed to a "goddess"?


I got a rather interesting question asked of me. Considering how smart and ambitious I am, why is it that I choose to have a girlfriend who is not drop dead gorgeous?

For starters, there is a lot more to a person than the way they look, dress, how much money they make, what kind of car they drive, what kind of house they own, or what type of job they work.

Some of my philosophies are very different than what other people have. The biggest difference is that I believe that a couple is not “one” but “two.” How I act is a representation of her and how she acts is a representation of me. A couple is in things “together” and there is no “I” in “together.”

I emailed several good looking and gorgeous women and none of them really spoke to me. The few that did made fun of me for being a 24 year old virgin! If they are willing to disrespect me like they did, I don’t even want to imagine how disrespectful they are to other people. I don’t treat people in such a manner and do not want a partner who treats people in such a manner because how they act is a reflection on me. Heck, one woman ignored several emails from me and I wasn’t even emailing her to try and meet her or sleep with her. The funny thing is though that she emailed me when I posted that my girlfriend and I would be doing webcam broadcasts and asked for a specific date and time.

My girlfriend is not drop-dead gorgeous to many people. She is amazing and beautiful to me though for several reasons…

She didn’t make fun of the fact I had never had sex.

She nurses me when I am not feeling well.

She is supportive of my writing and my dreams in general.

She has a very big sexual appetite.

She is willing to experiment and try new things.

She takes the time to understand my feelings and beliefs.

She loves me deeply.

She doesn’t nag at me about absolutely anything unless I study so much that I don’t spend a little bit of time with her (which is not something that annoys me).

She loves to kiss and cuddle.

And I could keep going with this list


Sure there are some things that I wish I could change about her, but as I believe and another member recently said… what matters is if you can live with those faults. They annoy me yes, could they change as she matures and grows older? I think they can and if they can’t than I will live with them!

A firm butt and skinny body is nothing compared to the intimacy that she can offer me.

I originally wanted the classic skinny girl. After actually having sex though… I think I would rather have a girl who has a little bit of weight to her. Even with her we can get pretty rough sometimes and she be screaming uncontrollably when I am really thrusting. Sometimes banging against her vulva or thighs can get pretty painful and that makes me “very” happy that she has a little extra padding. If I get sore with her sometimes (with that padding) I don’t even want to imagine how much it might hurt to thrust against a girl who is nothing but skin and bones!

I may be smart, but as I have said many times… I still have things to learn as well regardless of how much I study and understand. As I have always said, personal experience alone means nothing. Knowledge alone means nothing. Personal experience and knowledge means everything!

My writing focuses on “possibilities” and not just medical or scientific fact. I prefer to understand what is already known and not try and discover something new. Much of what is already known is still what I consider “undiscovered territory”. Some doctor discovers something and then they play with it for awhile. After some time passes they just move on to a new area and leave the old behind. This to me is not intelligent at all!

Truthfully, if it wasn’t for us philosophers, absolutely nothing would exist today. We are the first ones to get overlooked in a physical and an intellectual sense because people hate the so-called “know it alls.”

The truth is simple though…

As Plato once said, “There will be no end to the troubles of the state or indeed, my dear glaucon, of humanity itself, until the philosophers become kings in this world or until those we now call kings and rulers really and truly become philosophers.”

And as I always say, “There will be no end to the troubles of the human race until all humans first realize their true essence and then accept and fulfill it.”

My girlfriend is thankfully someone who knows and understands what Plato and I are talking about. That alone is a treasure in which I would never trade.

Now as you can see, there are numerous reasons why I choose to be with her. There are still many more reasons in which I don’t feel I need to offer.

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
4/8/2006 3:32 pm

It took a very long time, but thankfully I am begining to meet people who are mature and know what you are talking about. Given how complicated a human can be, I would consider someone who judges a person on physical attributes to be an immature person.


rm_metalmama69 42F
3878 posts
4/8/2006 1:29 pm

It just amazes me how some people cannot get beyond looks!!! Being a so called "hottie" myself, I've had similar experiences. Some of the best friends or lovers I ever had were 'nerds' and I do not regret a moment of it. Society shoves it's notion of the "perfect" body down our throats on a daily basis. The trick is to be comfortable in your own skin, for those who are not just about looks will see that about you.


LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
4/6/2006 12:03 pm

That is very true...

Welcome to my network BTW


demonicsexkitten 41F
10671 posts
4/6/2006 7:55 am

A fun book to read... "Seductress: Women Who Ravished the World and Their Lost Art of Love".

Many of the great "seductresses" of world history were NOT what society would consider "beautiful" or "perfect".


LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
4/6/2006 6:11 am

Demonic, I feel the same way you do. I titled the blog the way people talk to me about it. All the guy's I talk to refer to a goddess as the beautiful, skinny, sexy gal.

That is why I addressed her personal qualities and not really her physical ones. There are a number of things involved with what makes a person beautiful, physical appearance is not what I consider a large factor. Sadly enough, a lot of men only care about a woman's physical appearance.


demonicsexkitten 41F
10671 posts
4/5/2006 10:18 pm

and who on earth designated what "goddess" stands for? the original goddess figure is, by modern (or any!) standards, overweight. i actually was startign to thing goddess = a bit overweight, bcuz i seem to have been called that a bit lately.

and what the hell difference does it make to anybody else whether you chose to be with a stick figure or a more rounded one??? unless you used to ridicule overweight women and then suddenly chose to be with one... in which case i could understand their confusion.

there's also the entire bit about beauty being in the eye of the beholder. if you feel she's less than drop dead gorgeous, that's you're problem, not hers, not theirs.

i'm afraid i took offense at the title and first paragraph though of course that's my problem, not yours.


LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
4/5/2006 6:02 pm

We just differ in opinion. It's people's "free-thinking" that creates your point of view which is different from mine.

When I screw up, it affects us both. If she screws up it affects us both. Because of this, I say a couple is "one" and not two or three.

People consider themselves individuals as a way to escape from problems that involve them. They think that if their partner messes up they can leave them or divorce them and it removes all responsibility from their shoulders. I disagree with this mentality.

The credit system does as well.


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