Sometimes, forgetting can be a very bad thing...  

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
3114 posts
5/20/2005 5:47 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Sometimes, forgetting can be a very bad thing...

Isn’t it amazing at how many people live life with the attitude of forgetting the mistakes they have made? They push themselves to forget about the things in which have hurt them as well.

I have found that if all you do is forget then there is nothing to stop you from experiencing that mistake or pain again.

One must seek a balance of the two. Remind yourself daily of that in which has hurt you, but do not dwell upon it. If you dwell upon it then it will lead to depression or goodness only knows what else.

My mother has grown victim to this all her life. She constantly remembers and dwells upon every bad thing that has ever happened to her. As a result she has been suffering from clinical depression for the last 12 years and is in and out of the hospital rather frequently. I do what I can to remind her that you must remember, and yet also move on. Perhaps some day she will understand my understanding and wisdom in the matter. I fear that day may never come though.

Of course, modern society thinks they can solve the personal issues that one might have by the use of medications. While medications may solve a chemical imbalance they will not help you resolve the more personal psychological ones. Someday I hope more people in the current world will realize this.

Crimson959 57F

5/21/2005 4:15 pm

It's accepting what happened in the past...whatever that might be...that helps us live and learn from our mistakes...if we don't accept them....we cannot move on.


LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
5/20/2005 7:55 pm

That is the best and proper way of looking at and using such things.

Mr_sweetness 44M
2599 posts
5/20/2005 7:01 pm

I never forget my mistakes or the things that have hurt i have just used them to motivate myself into being a better person and a better person to all.....Peeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeace

Peace, cause there is to much violence and blood shed in the world!!

Love, cause there is to much hate in the world!!

Happiness, cause it feels good and life is to short to be mean and unhappy all the time!!

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