Sleeping Around...  

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
3114 posts
4/24/2005 6:01 am

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Sleeping Around...

I do write a lot of opinion pieces, however I always do my homework before I go off and write them. Today I would like to strictly ask what some of you others think about… The topic is “numbers”.

Is it just me or does a lot of people in today’s society think that sexual knowledge and sexual experience is only gained strictly through having sex with “numerous” people?

I know you can gain a great deal of knowledge and experience from just masturbating if you use it to experiment. I know a lot of people only use it to strictly orgasm and often do it quickly therefore it does not teach them what it actually could?

I have mentioned several other times some very specific and mature details that can only be achieved through relationships. I am obviously not going to get into them again; I just want to hear some other people’s opinion on this. I am not questioning or bashing people who sleep around, I would not make such a judgement! I am just curious strictly as to how much sexual knowledge and experience you are really gaining in the process?

I know that the only real problem a virgin faces is fast orgasms for men and no or few orgasms for women. These results change as a virgin ages though, younger virgins (males) will go limp after they ejaculate, from what I hear this is not the case for older ones. I have heard stories from women who do like virgins about some of them they were with ejaculated 7 to 10 times throughout the night their first times. They didn’t get much pleasure, but got a very big thrill from how much pleasure the guy was getting. There are some women who love to see a guy at an unusual level of arousal and virgins seem to achieve that with ease.

How does the rest of it fair?

So again, why is it people claim you only gain real experience and knowledge from sleeping around? Do people really think that to be the only way? Or are people who sleep around just trying to get others to do it to by making think they might gain more then they actually will?

thkch1k 36F
1 post
4/29/2005 1:59 pm

I have to agree with the last 2 ladies. One night stands are great but sex is truly better with someone you care about. I also feel that for men and women (mostly women) you need to experiment with your self first. You need to learn what you like and dont like. then get into experimenting with your partner I thinks thats the best way to gain the knowledge of what you really like need and want when it comes to sex!!!!

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
4/25/2005 5:31 am

Thank you ladies for your responses. I have posted almost identical advice in previous blogs but no one agreed very much. I posted literally the exact adivce that Konkali just gave and I got crapped on for it lol. I notice that mainly it is only women that see my point of view where as the men just want to fu**.

konkali 40F

4/24/2005 6:45 pm

have to agree with the previous poster. . Most experience is really gained with a single partner, often time, I find that single partner illicits a certain level of trust, leading to more experience and exploration. This works better even so when the two parties are lovingach other as it opens up both the rough and the sensual side of a sexual encounter. I don't know about others out there, but the truly intense sexual experiences I have had always revolved around points in my life where love and trust were dominant emotions.

rm_amhcutie 38F

4/24/2005 6:27 pm

well you know what they say practice makes perfect but i think if that practice is just a bunch of one night stands no one is going to learn anything in my experience i learned alot more from being with the same person for a long period of time the few one night stands that i've had don't even compare sex is so much better when you care about the person and not just the sex

rm_lkndllsgrl 37F
67 posts
4/24/2005 11:36 am

I would have to say in my opinion that most of my experience was gained through being with the same partner for a length of time. In most one night stand situations, it is just that, a one night stand. No getting to know what turns a person on, or learning about sensuality. Just wham bam and thank you mam. Lengthy realtionships provide time to learn from and about each other.


queenoftheboys 53F

4/24/2005 8:24 am

I think you can learn more when you take the time to build comfort with a person and are willing to try new things. Yes it is fun when you find a new person that has skills in one kink or another but for the most part most dogs have the know old tricks.
Sometimes you can learn more by joining a site that has a kink that interest you then trying it out with your regular partner.

nightstogether 56M

4/24/2005 7:40 am

Now, are you thinking about personal experience of your own body, or experience of actually having one-on-one (or more) sex with a partner? To me, learning the ways and means of your own body is an experience - a knowledge base - of prime importance; especially for women. Learning how other people handle your body is a different kind of knowledge, a different numbers game.

Do virgins achieve this sense of satisfaction at seeing their partner ejaculate so many times because they wish to, or because, being virgins, they do not yet know the pleasure they are (possibly) missing out on?

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