Sex Therapists... Do you have to have sex to learn about it?  

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
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7/2/2005 1:10 pm

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Sex Therapists... Do you have to have sex to learn about it?

Another member pointed out awhile back in one of my blogs…

There is a female author/teacher named Lou Paget…

She happens to currently be one of the most well known women in the USA right now for her numerous best-selling books and sexuality seminars.

The interesting thing is…

She is not actually a sex therapist!

According to the BIO I have read from different places on Lou Paget…

She began becoming curious about sex 100% identically to me. She began reading every sexual manual she could get her hands on and read every sexual report that had been published by various companies.

She was not satisfied with what she was reading/finding. At this time though, sex was a forbidden subject still to many people. She began asking her friends about their sexual ideas and practices. She learned fast that not many women really knew much either!

She then began a small group, all of which were women. In the group they discussed sex and their marriages.

Overtime she became popular and then started sexuality seminars on a regular basis. For numerous years she only taught classes on how women could better please their husbands. She also taught women how to properly masturbate because she found that most women did not know how to pleasure themselves.

Later on…

She began teaching classes for men as well…

In these classes…

She will get out a bunch of dildos and put them in front of the women. Each woman will grab one and she will teach them the proper techniques for giving a man a blowjob or handjob.

With the men, she uses vaginas that are modeled after pornstars. She teaches them were everything is and has them practice numerous techniques on the rubber/plastic vaginas.

Lou Paget teaches a lot of techniques that she has admitted too not actually ever using herself. Instead of testing them all herself… she asks other people how they use them. When she writes her books, she writes them the same way I write many of my articles. We both write from the heart and discuss sexual possibilities and do not focus on sexual facts or personal sexual experiences.

I have been following in her footsteps and never actually knew it. She was in her mid 30’s when she began teaching seminars. At the rate I am going… I will be doing probably the same as well. She is rich as he** now, and people still flood her with needing advice. She does her own research now and publishes much of the research within the books that she writes.

I find this funny because she has admitted that she does not practice what she teaches…

Yet many people here have told me that unless I practice what I teach then what I teach is worthless. Funny how Lou Paget has become famous for the very thing in which everyone else here keeps telling me is impossible!

From what I have read though… Lou Paget has not ever studied the sex manuals that I have. She has not taken the time to read the oriental sexual arts.


Many of the worlds sex therapists and doctors…

Have proven that more can be learned through masturbation then through actual sex. Their research has proven that most people who have sex in today’s society do so by fu**ing and do not ever learn the real emotional connections involved. Thus, many books written by some world famous women include large sections/chapters that are dedicated to teaching both men and women how to masturbate as well as what to think about when masturbating.

They teach about erotic massage because many people do not actually massage or kiss one another due to the fact they spend so much time fu**ing each other.

Unless someone has taken the time to read these books though they can not debate what I claim they talk about. If I have no right to give people sexual advice then people have no right to debate what my studies have taught me because they have no studied what I have studied.

I have a right to talk about that in which I study. Other people only have a right to talk about what they have personally experienced.

I feel that anyone has a right to talk about whatever they want… but many people here have told me that we are not allowed to voice our opinions.

The real point is… I probably have read about more different sexual aspects then most people have actually ever personally experienced. The only way a man or woman could actually experience the things I have studied over the last 15 years is if they are total and complete who*es.

People just like to make excuses to allow them to fu** every single man and women they possibly can.

Many are very mad at my knowledge considering I am a virgin. Those are their problems and not mine. If they wanted to know what I know, they would shut their legs and read some sex books! Or a man would keep it in his pants and read some sex books. Lou Paget does not sleep with the people she interviews… most people here would not be able to talk about sex in the detail I can without having to fu** the person afterwards!

The point being…

The most famous sex therapists in the world have not actually had sex with a whole lot of people. Probably 1 or 2 people only! The highest number I have heard a sex therapist say she slept with was 7 different men or women! Those women who said that are in their 40’s and 50’s now.

wyvernrose 38F
3895 posts
7/4/2005 8:36 am

opps sorry misread the word...straight forward is what you stated.

doesn't change my response though...


wyvernrose 38F
3895 posts
7/4/2005 8:35 am

within the content of this blog? and you state that you ask straight faced......?

no Mystic you do ask over shadowed by your judgemental attitudes....


LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
7/4/2005 4:34 am

I ask straight forward, and do not include opinion or anything. Just a simple question... done without barking at anyone or anything.

wyvernrose 38F
3895 posts
7/3/2005 3:28 am

ever thought Mystic it is perhaps the way you ask, and the distain you show towards people of experience....


LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
7/2/2005 5:15 pm

I do ask a lot of sexual questions. It is not my fault that no one likes to answer any of them.

I have no other choice but to go by my own opinion as well as the opinions from the authors of the books that I read.

wyvernrose 38F
3895 posts
7/2/2005 4:43 pm

and even lou required input from experienced people,

knowledge isn't accumulated without experience of application, wether acquired second hand or otherwise....


LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
7/2/2005 4:31 pm

Star, you just bashed me for quoting sources.

A few times I have offered more then 20 quotes from 20 different sex therapists in numerous articles i have written.

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