Perhaps I Should be Looking for Men and NOT Women?  

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
3114 posts
8/13/2005 5:38 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Perhaps I Should be Looking for Men and NOT Women?

Apart of me wonders if I am looking in the wrong areas…

I like a lot of things that women like and perhaps that is why none of them care to speak to me.

Maybe I should be looking at guys and not girls?

A lot of people prefer someone who is the opposite of them and it is not going to be easy for me to find a woman who is the opposite of me. A nice young and wild party girl would never want anything to do with a guy like me.

A nice wild party guy would probably love a guy like me though. I am the total opposite and I am sure that would be a big plus.

I guess I have some thinking to do…

I love women but as I am a 24 year old virgin, it is safe to say they have no interest in me.

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
8/14/2005 5:42 pm


I know there are a lot of people in this world who think like you do, however most of the people I encounter on this site do not. You have no idea how many insults I get from both men and women who proclaim us virgins are the most useless thing in the world.

People forget that we all start somewhere and they also forget that not all of us care strictly about sex.

uhhh20 32F
21 posts
8/13/2005 11:49 pm

All I have to say is I tottally dig you! and if we were to have lived closer I'd deffinately meet up with you (if you had wanted) and even if we were to have only been friends I would help you find the type of girl who you would most likely be happy with, I'm not much of a match maker since I am single myself but I get into other peoples heads and if I like what I see I do my best to find others who are like minded to that person.. However if things were different I'd deffinately try to get your for myself!

FutureLaw81 35M
17 posts
8/13/2005 10:25 pm

hey buddy..i hope you get a chance to read this comment. as a 23 yr. old virgin I understand what you are going through, but as far as you thinking about being bi or not..well thats just somthing that your going to have to figure out for yourself. I myself am definatly a straight man but im not the typical guy that bases my masculinity on how many woman i can mistreat by sleeping with them straight from the bar when they are so drunk they do not know what is happening. now im not saying that all guys do that but some do. well ne way as corney as it sounds i would have to agree with the advice that these lovly ladies have given are still young and sex is not the only thing to look foward to in life... so just stay positive and keep looking for mrs right...good luck buddy

lifeisablast333 53M

8/13/2005 8:47 pm

no hurries, it will happen, sex is super cool, but it is not the only thing in life. take this time to educate yourself, so that when the time comes, you will have a head start.

passion8_lady 57F

8/13/2005 8:44 pm


I haven't read much of your blog, but it seems that you want to be sexually aware, reading the Kama Sutra, etc. There are tons of men with tons of "experience" who haven't got the first clue in the bedroom. You are a virgin now, but I am pretty sure that when you get started you will be an excellent lover. It's 99% mental, you know.

Of course, you are WAYYYY too young for me, but if I was 24 again, I would love to find someone like you.

1586 posts
8/13/2005 6:45 pm

I hope I'm not going to sound like I'm lecturing you, but you have plenty of time!

I'm sure that there have been women that were interested in you, but you haven't picked up the cues. I'm not blaming you for that because back when I was a youngun I liked plenty of guys but never said anything because I was petrified of being rejected. Ah, the joy of human relations...

Like you, I thought that I should maybe pursue the same sex thing, but nothing ever came of that.

I was the last in my group of friends to lose my virginity (I was 21) and I regret the way I did it. I kind of wanted to "get it over with" and that was a huge mistake that bothers me to this day.

Take your time, go with your heart and never do anything "just because".

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