Oral Sex & Sex Advice (Things to consider when eating a woman out or sucking on a man's penis)  

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
3114 posts
4/8/2006 12:14 pm

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Oral Sex & Sex Advice (Things to consider when eating a woman out or sucking on a man's penis)

I was asked an interesting question last night by someone who knows me rather well from reading my blog for a long time. Despite my time away, she still remembers a post I made back in May or June of last year.

The advice asked was if I had any useful input in the subject of a woman giving a man a blowjob. This woman knew well to ask since my penis is significantly more sensitive than a lot of other men’s.

Now I know the first question that will cross any new readers mind is why I have such a sensitive penis compared to other men…

When I was seventeen, I had to have some of the foreskin on my penis removed because the foreskin had tightened so much that it would not slide back and allow the head of my penis to be exposed.

The end result being that the head of my penis never had any kind of exposure to anything until I was seventeen (almost eighteen). For the first several years, anything that touched my penis caused a rather tremendous amount of pain. Even now, about 6 years later, the head can be bruised very easily.

The greatest reason I have experienced so much pain from women trying to give me a blowjob is because they are a little hypocritical. A lot of women claim they like a man to be gentle with them when they first begin massaging their clitoris. Most women do not follow this rule when sucking on a man’s penis though.

Every woman I have allowed to touch me has just shoved the tip of my penis into their mouth and began sucking hard. They didn’t start out gently and slowly increase the suction; they just sucked like a vacuum cleaner on hi power. I can assure you, when your penis is really sensitive, this is not uncomfortable, and it is so painful that it can bring tears to any man’s eyes very quickly.

Now I won’t sit here and go into blowjob techniques. The reason I am not doing this is because cunnilingus and fellatio have a lot in common and I have written several previous blogs on both subjects. Many of the techniques a man uses to eat a woman out (cunnilingus) are the same techniques that a woman should use to perform fellatio on a man (give him a blowjob).

What works for me personally is when my girlfriend starts out by putting the head of my penis in her mouth and doesn’t close her mouth. She closes it almost all the way but leaves it loose enough so that her saliva will drip down my shaft. This allows the tip of my penis to get used to the texture of her lips and tongue as well as allow my penis to become comfortable with the new environment that it has just entered.

I also believe that this is why I never ejaculated quickly the first time I actually had sex. My girlfriend was very patient and very caring and allowed my penis to get used to what she was doing little by little. I think part of the reasoning behind premature and early ejaculation is due to people wanting to always rush into sexual activities. Women can’t wait to have a man’s penis in them and a man can not wait to get his penis in a woman. When the man is already anxious, it drastically increases the possibility of him quickly ejaculating.

In the same, forcing a penis into a mouth or vagina without allowing it 10 to 20 seconds to become aware of where it is; this can spark a very quick ejaculatory spurt.

If my penis goes inside my girlfriend’s vagina before she sucks on it, she doesn’t need to be gentle. In this case, the head of my penis has toughened up because of rubbing on her vaginal walls and she can be very aggressive when giving me a blowjob.

The only other way to start oral with a guy like me is to very gently lick around the tip and the base of the tip. The breathing matters the most, if you can breathe at a consistent pace and still lick, it will get my penis use to the increase in heat and general environment change.

Although this is poorly written, I am out of time for the moment. Just remember that the clitoris and the penis have a great deal in common. The clitoral hood and the foreskin of the penis are virtually identical. If you suck a man’s penis similar to how you would have him eat you out than you will have no problems. You may need to be softer or more aggressive (depending on the man). These are one of the drawbacks of having sex with multiple partners.

When you have sex with the same person over and over, you get to know them in numerous ways. Sex normally just gets better and better…

When you sleep with people you do not know, there is no guarantee that either of you will experience any kind of pleasure. You may get a rush from the encounter and that rush is medically proven to provide a false sense of orgasm (some women orgasm from the psychological thrill and do not actually have a real genital orgasm). Every person is different, and the only way to be good in bed is by learning to communicate and learning to sense people’s feelings and desires. You can read any book you want, study all of the techniques you want… none of those techniques will be of any use if you can’t sense the needs of “any” and “every” person that you have sex with.


LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
4/8/2006 4:14 pm

Who is to cute and why?


LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
4/8/2006 3:30 pm

Demonic...

I think a lot of pictures here are fake. I don't trust any third party pictures that I see unless they have a touch of "at home" kind of feel.

I highly doubt women would pay professional photographers to take their profile pictures and many of the women here have pictures that look professionaly done.

Take Allsleeky for instance... her pictures might seem fake to someone who has not seen her various pictures. Once you compare them though, they are highly erotic and done by her or someone close to her.

I wouldn't suggest doing 99.9% of what you see being done in a lot of pictures here.


LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
4/8/2006 3:26 pm

I totally agree Lizzy...


lizzyborden222 66F

4/8/2006 2:38 pm

I'm a bit older than most in here....I've had my share of poor lovers (who I can't wait to forget) and a couple of fantastic lovers who can bring a smile to my face years after I've seen them last. A fantastic lover cares just as much about his partner as he does about himself. Don't rush the experience.....enjoy it like an expensive piece of chocolate or a wonderful glass of wine.


rm_PurryKitty2 48M/49F
9753 posts
4/8/2006 2:20 pm

You are too cute.

Purry {=}

Purry


rm_metalmama69 42F
3878 posts
4/8/2006 1:22 pm

OK! That's it, I'm adding you to my most watched list


demonicsexkitten 41F
10671 posts
4/8/2006 1:17 pm

hey thank you. hopefully this didn't seem dumb to ask. but having read what you wrote... i'll stop worrying
Just seeing the pics of women with their partner on here... it just made me wonder "am i doing things wrong?" lol. by your description i must be ok


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