Ladies... Today is "your" day!  

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
3114 posts
4/5/2005 8:47 am

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Ladies... Today is "your" day!


I have spent a lot of time mentioning to guys about how and why they should treat you with more respect. Today it is your turn to tell them what you feel in your heart…

In relationships… what area do you think “us” guys need to work on?

In the bedroom… what areas do you think “us” guys need to work on?

These questions are for both your current status as well as what you may or may not have had or experienced in previous relationships and sexual encounters.

Feel free to say anything you desire, if any guys post nasty remarks I will remove them ASAP! This is your chance to get your frustrations off your chest without them being able to comment.

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
4/6/2005 5:24 pm

Thank you ladies, your feedback is appreciated! I am also glad that the gentlemen did not post any comments as I asked them not to.

rm_lickeetung 57F

4/6/2005 5:09 pm

I'll keep this simple:
In relationships: guys need to work on communicating feelings and emotions.
In the bedroom: guys need to work on not fall asleep the instant you are satisfied, do not get up and leave for any reason......hold your beautiful lover, caress her, talk to her, touch her.

fyr_drgn 43F

4/6/2005 12:58 pm

I hate it when a guy tries to cram his hard pointy tounge down my throat. I had a different profile for a year and got to where I would say I don't like to kiss just to avoid possible sword tounge. Maybe try little kisses with just your lips and let her take your lead from there......
Something that I thrive on is crazy ideas and thoughts.Kinky, freaky, whatever you wanna call it. Not only do I love it to be nurturing when I'm down or slow and deep breaking into a full gallop when insatiable. I need kink. I find too often that men just need to get focused on who they are with so they can feed into the fantacies we all seem to have in common. Creativity. Shared Creativity is huge if not one of the biggest deciding factors when I stay or leave a friendship/relationship.

angelcoed1980 36F

4/5/2005 8:41 pm

Thank you so much for opening this topic for discussion. First of all I am going to strongly stress all the comments that LustGoddess made. All too often there are men out there that feel they have to tell us (women) that we shouldn't get too attached or stress the fact that a meeting is just physical so do not ask or expect more. Bottom line boys WE ARE BIG GIRLS WE HAVE PHYSICAL NEEDS AS WELL sometimes all we want is a dick, sometimes more we will let you know. Do not try to swallow our face as you are kissing us. Do not fuck us withy your tongue and think that constitutes oral sex. When we happen to be giving you head do not grab the back of our head and force us to deep throat it, in the next second you may see our supper in your lap.

Just have fun and relax is the best advice I can give.

LustGoddess2469 50F  
2453 posts
4/5/2005 11:19 am

Thank you, MW, for this opportunity.

1. First and foremost, be honest with yourself and with the woman you are dealing with. Liars suck. If you're not interested in seeing her again, just tell her! Don't avoid her, don't lead her on - just tell her. And for goodness sake, if you ARE interested in seeing her again, tell her that, too!

2. It is NOT acceptable to jump up immediately after having sex - not for a cigarette, not to "clean up", and definitely not to "get going". Hold her for a while, play with her hair, caress her face or her back.

3. Just because a woman sends you an email to thank you for a date it does not mean she has fallen in love with you in the brief amount of time you spent together. You're not THAT good, so get over yourself. She's just being courteous and if you don't respond appropriately, then you're being an ass.

4. An email or an IM between dates with just a little "Hi" goes a long, long way.

5. Don't talk about your ex-wife, ex-girlfriend or other encounters you've had through the website, unless she asks you about them.

6. Do hold open the door, open the car door, pull out her chair for her. These little things show an incredible amount of respect and I don't know of any woman out there that wouldn't appreciate it.

7. Not all women want to have fast, hard, pounding sex ALL the time. Sometimes they want it slow and sensual, passionate and gentle. Pay attention to the signals she is giving you either way.

8. Be clean! Take a good hot shower and make sure all of your bits and pieces are clean and smelling good before you meet her.

9. Make and maintain eye contact as much as possible. There is nothing worse than having a conversation with someone and they're looking at everything else around them but you.

10. If you make plans with someone, stick with them! Don't stand her up. Don't blow her off last minute. Now, I know sometimes shit happens and you may have a truly legitate and unavoidable circumstance that interferes with your plans - that happens to all of us. BUT, some people on here (especially single parents) have to make a lot of arrangements to make themselves available for a date. So, unless your house is on fire, your child is bleeding or you've just been t-boned at an intersection, you had better show up.

So, basically be honest, sincere, genuine, respectful and COMMUNICATE. It's really not a lot to ask for.

Just my two cents' worth.


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