Do all Women act in such a Manner? (This is rediculous!)  

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
3114 posts
9/20/2005 6:52 pm

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Do all Women act in such a Manner? (This is rediculous!)

If this is what I have to put up with in order to have sex then I would rather not have sex at all…

This girl I am dating called my house 15 times tonight in the matter of 2 hours. I was asleep because I have to work tonight and woke up to the phone ringing and ringing. She knows I don’t get out of bed until 9pm because we have talked about it several times.

On average over the past two weeks she has been literally calling my house 10 to 30 times a day since the night we had sex…

I always call her first thing when I wake up…

I am very disturbed by this behavior…

She likes the knowledge that I have and yet does not allow me even 5 minutes of free-time in order to continue to keep studying…

I hope that not all women act like this or I don’t picture ever dating or having sex again…

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
9/22/2005 6:19 pm

Well noted DC and thank you...

I will wait a few days and see how she is acting. If the behavior continues then I will indeed talk to her again. If the conversation seems to be needed on a weekly basis then that to me is a sign to stop dating all together.

1586 posts
9/22/2005 5:48 pm

Sex makes people do some crazy stuff, huh?

On one hand, it's kind of a compliment when someone wants you so much that she can't stop calling...and calling...and calling...

On the other hand, she's not respecting your wishes (i.e. uninterrupted study time) and causing friction between you and your roommates.

Sex is important, but you can't have it impacting all other aspects of your life - like your education and a place to live. (I've had friends who have ended up having to move out of places because of the boyfriend or girlfriend making things difficult.)

I just read your comment that you had a discussion with your lady friend, but you may need to repeat what you've said until it's truly understood.

If the super-possessive behavior continues after you've stated your case, you might want to be careful about getting more involved than you already are.

Take good care.

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
9/22/2005 12:57 pm

I agree your...

There are still more men than women though that do not understand proper ways of dating.

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
9/22/2005 12:56 pm

I totally agree with you there princess.

We did have a discussion yesterday...

I was right there and yet I can not say for sure how much of an impact it actually had. Only time will tell in this kind of a situation.

PrincessKarma 43F
6188 posts
9/22/2005 11:01 am

If she was chated on before it explains why she's now a control freak. Still, you shoud sit down with her and explain your situation. If she insists on her behavior, I suggest she get therapy.

The Big Bang was the mother of all orgasms.PrincessKarma

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
9/22/2005 5:31 am

She is 19 cudely...

I know her two previous boyfriends both cheated on her and that is not helping the situation at all...

cuddlykittenn 42F

9/21/2005 1:38 pm

looks like it's time for the two of you to have a little "talk" about what is acceptable and unacceptable behavior in this relationship. she is obviously unclear and a little to wrapped up. If you explain to her how you feel (nicely) then maybe she will understand your need for privacy and cool her jets some. i don't know how old she is.... age may have something to do with it. good luck.

cocodiva247 41F

9/21/2005 7:38 am

since having sex..... she is hooked and does not know how to deal with emotions she is feeling. perhaps you gave to much of a good thing all at once and she does not know how to deal with things. giggle giggle. most phone companies have blocker features. You may want to call you local provider. if that is something that you may not want to do. Tell that her, she can call just not passed or before a particular time. good luck.

your_gypsy 51F

9/21/2005 7:33 am

after women get some, in many their hormones cause them to crave more. some women don't know anything about dating etiquette either and need to be taught. hopefully you will do it the right way and TELL HER to let you call her in the morning, and maybe sometime later in the day, if that's what you want. decide if you want her to be able to call you above and beyond that and how many times and TELL HER how many times she's welcome to call you. to me, calling her every morning -- my god she should be grateful. she is obviously very insecure so you can do your part by making it very clear to her when she can call and how many times, and if she doesn't abide by that you must take other drastic measures, such as changing your number or just not taking or answering her calls. she couldn't be THAT good a lay or the only one around that you would put up with that. and this is coming from a woman, gee wiz...

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
9/21/2005 5:29 am

I have read and heard about women doing this kind of thing on several occassions...

I have seen my sister do this several times with different guys she dated in the past...

I guess I just dismissed it though and figured it wasn't something that very many women do...

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
9/21/2005 5:28 am

I won't end them, thank you Header...

It does not bother me as much as it bothers my roommates...

I can live with it but when the phone keeps ringing it often keeps the baby awake.

header1979 37M
507 posts
9/20/2005 11:06 pm

Hey dude, she likes you. It will taper off after a while. But just accept it as a compliment. All relationships go through a phase like that. It is too late to go back being a virgin again. It looks like you are learning something about women that you haven't read about yet. As the old saying goes, "Women. You can't live with them. You can't live without them."

I hope you don't think I am making light of your situation. Guys who have been married have been through this phase. It is sort of deja vu seeing you go through this for the first time. Just don't end things over something like this.

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