Depression... Why do some women allow that in which they do not desire?  

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
3114 posts
7/5/2005 11:59 am

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Depression... Why do some women allow that in which they do not desire?

I truly do not understand some women…

Some women are so lonely that all they want to do is kiss and cuddle and feel a man’s tenderness. Most men will not do that unless she has sex with them and therefore many of them have sex with them even though that is not really what they want.

Why would a woman do something she does not actually want to do?

Some women engage in one-night stands for this very reason, it is not sex that they want, it is the feeling of having someone care about them they actually desire.

This is also man’s fault as well…

For not caring enough to actually pay attention to what the woman truly desires most.

If a woman just wants to kiss and cuddle, then a man should be a man and spend an hour or two kissing and cuddling with her without trying to fu** her in the process.

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
7/14/2005 12:10 pm

The hard part is, sex is so spontaneous today that it causes havoc.

demonicsexkitten 41F
10672 posts
7/10/2005 12:14 pm

i think, if you draw the lines ahead of time, it can work. but you have to outright say "this is what i want. period". i, too, have heard the stereotype... but many men also want just to be held. of course... even with both parties "just wanting held"... things can spark out of control.
the other day i met a friend from here... just for coffee and talking, but somehow things went a bit further than that (not too far though). the great thing, though, was we spent many hours just lying in bed talking... hugging, kissing, and i played with his ears (he said it relaxes him). he was so comfortable and relaxed, he didn't want to leave. (though i've been depressed since bcuz i found him very attractive and liked him, both as a friend and as a guy, but... have not heard from him since!)

czyswt1 38F

7/8/2005 4:16 pm

Hmmm, I doubt I can really answer this, but I'll try, because I've been in those shoes. Yeah, I want to kissed and cuddle and don't have and desire to have sex. The situation starts out that way, but somewhere in the back of my mind, for some off the wall reason, I think the only way for me to continue to have it happen is if I do something more with the guy. Course, 9 times out of 10, the guy is horny any way, but I don't really pay attention to that, until it's gone to far. Usually, I feel like crap after having the sex and even more alone/depressed than I was when everything happened.

I've learned that if I just want to be held, I'll make sure that's the only thing that happens. If he wants more, I make them leave. I feel better afterwards and learn what type of guy he really was. It sucks, but I end up learning my lesson.

wyvernrose 38F
3895 posts
7/7/2005 11:20 pm

no you don't being as people don't use the term make love on this site, due solely to the emotional commitment it implies, when the majority of encounters do not imply commitment wether once off regular meeting or ongoing, there isn't the necessarily the implied emotional commitment on the level of say marriage or the like, and the degree of emotional relationship implied by making love is more than associated with a general friendship....

so you are saying basically that because people do not use a term due to emotional commitment that could be construed by such, that the only focus of sexual relationship which occur on this site are penetrative and the males focus on speed of thrust.....

you are wrong!


LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
7/7/2005 2:59 pm

I shall also say this Wyvernrose…

If men and women here write that they desire to “fu**” someone, then that means they want to “fu**” and not make love. If they desire to make love then they would not say they want to “fu**”. Most stuff I see written here is termed with “I wanna fu**”. Therefore I have every right to believe what they say.

rm_affbreak 46M
287 posts
7/6/2005 5:03 pm

@girltech47: nice one. And I bet it fits into the scenario of trying to increase the survival chance of offsprings.

wyvernrose 38F
3895 posts
7/6/2005 8:13 am

lol seriously mystic you don't know the majority....even judging by the men here your not looking at the majority......your perceptions are truely warped....

men indeed crave company and companionship....most don't express their need for such but merely enjoy it when they get it...

as society see's it as unmanly to do otherwise....blame society not the men....


LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
7/6/2005 5:36 am

Glad to hear it "I_Heart"

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
7/6/2005 5:35 am

I desire cuddling and such as well wyvern, it is not usual for men though. Most of the male population does not desire such things. I base my information on majority and not rare occassions.

wyvernrose 38F
3895 posts
7/5/2005 6:01 pm

that's a very narrow view, are you certain it is always the women wanting the snuggle and putting out for the sake of?

I have a small feeling that a snuggle and simply some company was all my playmate last night was looking for.....

you really do need to stop stereotyping the genders.....your really not all that accurate.....


rm_WickedFemale 62F
401 posts
7/5/2005 5:57 pm

depression knows no sex...and it is not something that can be cured over night....

rm_QuietEyez 46F

7/5/2005 5:18 pm

The differece is not in Can they, any man can, Its in wanting to, and not many men do.

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
7/5/2005 2:18 pm

Everyone has the ability to follow their heart. They just choose to ignore it. That is their own personal fault and has nothing to do with it being a perfect world or not.

I refuse to believe that I am so different. If I can keep my penis in my pants, so can any other man in the world.

papyrina 51F
21133 posts
7/5/2005 1:31 pm

its true but we don't live in a perfect World nor are any of us perfect

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