Answering Recent Questions and Information  

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
3114 posts
7/6/2005 5:27 pm

Last Read:
7/14/2008 5:14 pm

Answering Recent Questions and Information

Lately I have gotten several emails from people asking me for a good starting point on studying the tantric arts. The tantric arts are more about “mindfulness” (awareness). No matter how hard most people try or study, they are not going to understand the true concepts of the tantric arts. The reason a lot of monks or holy men wrote the tantric arts is because they study philosophy and practice mindfulness all the time. It is not something that can be learned in a mere matter of a few days or even a few years. It takes dedication in order to even begin to grasp the tantric philosophies and pure dedication in order to master them.

A good lover is a mindful lover, and most people are not mindful. They care primarily about themselves and have a “go to he**” attitude for anyone that is not related to them or friends with them. Most people not only have a poor attitude towards themselves, but have a seriously poor attitude towards others.

Take cunnilingus for example…

A lot of men know the clitoris is the center of a woman’s pleasure, especially when it comes to oral activities. What they do not often think about however is that the perineum and labia can provide very powerful sensations and general pleasure as well. Playing with the urethra can be very pleasurable for some women. A mindful person is one who thinks the way I am talking about… they think “outside the box” and are not clouded by specific thoughts, actions and desires.

Tantric sex is the true form of making love. It is nothing like fu**ing at all! Fu**ing puts your focus and energy into the fast penetration and removes the erotic touching and stroking. It is very hard to gently massage a woman’s breast while you are fu**ing her really hard (like many people do in fact do). You normally use your hands to brace yourself or you have to just use your hands to stop a woman’s breasts from bouncing. If two people are really fu**ing, then her breasts would be bouncing like crazy (even smaller ones). Fu**ing is a genital mashing where as tantric love is a very slow and gentle massage. The primary focus is on kissing and breathing together while the penis very gently and very slowly slides in and out of her vagina. The penis is not supposed to be removed from the vagina at all once union begins and thus couples must practice sliding in and out of different positions without disrupting the flow of penetration. If the penis is removed at any point in time, it is considered a break within the union and it is no longer “making love”.

Your object is to become “one” with your partner in all aspects possible (mind, body, and soul).

Furthermore, if your penis is larger then the vagina, you technically can not “make love”. Making love is for deep penetration and that does not mean being able to touch the very back of a woman’s vagina with the head of your penis. As a matter of fact, it is the total opposite. Deep penetration is defined by being able to put your entire penis into the woman’s body and grind against her. It offers the ability for complete connection and then you can not only be penetrating her but grind against her and massage her vulva as well as her vagina.

One of the partners should be massaging the other at “all” times. The man or woman should be kissing or massaging one another’s body during the entire union. Truly making love to someone is like a very long embrace… warm and tender.

Neither partners focuses on their personal pleasure, they give themselves to their partner and trust they will each know what the other desires. You must totally and literally give yourself to the person you are in bed with, obviously you need to know and trust someone in order to fully do this. This is exactly why nearly every sex therapist in the world tells people in books “not” to “every” make love the first few times that you have sex. If you have taken awhile to get to know each other then it is possible to truly make love, but most people who sleep around are not able to give themselves to the other the way it is supposed to be done.

Most of the men, women, and couples profiles that I have viewed after they emailed me or winked at me admit that they want to sleep around or that they do sleep around. I do not associate with such people, as I believe in love and romance. Obviously you do not truly believe in love and romance like I do if you are willing to be sexually active with virtually anyone you meet. Those who have asked me for advice with such a profile have not gotten a response and I can assure you that you will not be getting one at all. If you want to violate your body and disrespect it, then go ahead and do it, but do not get me involved in your distasteful activities.

I study because I care about someday giving my wife the greatest amount of pleasure and passion she can imagine. That is my goal in life… and as I said, that is why I study what I do. If you were like me, you would also be studying on your own. Asking someone for advice is not a passionate thing, studying on your own, is a passionate thing. Studying under a professor is pretty easy because they will tell you if you are right or wrong, you do not have such a thing when studying on your own though. It is a great deal more risky because you are either going to be able to do it or you won’t be able to do it. There will not be another educated person to help you; thus it will test just how truly intelligent you actually are.

That is also why I study martial arts and swordsmanship on my own. My abilities are solely my doing based off my interpretations and understandings of the medieval texts. If I fail, it is my fault and no one else’s! If I succeed, it shows me I had a natural talent for being a true master. A true master has the ability to study former techniques and then invent their own. You can not invent your own techniques very well unless you can study and understand various studies. Any time I must fight, I fight using the help of absolutely no one other then myself.

I allow my natural talents to take their form. Instead of only studying what I know I am very good at, I study that in which I am not as good at. If all I do is strictly study that in which I am good at, then I will only ever be good at one thing or maybe two or three things. Studying that, in which you are not good at, will add new abilities to what you are already naturally good at. This means that you could end up with hundreds of powerful talents opposed to just a few like those who study so little.

A master guides their students, they do not teach them. It may seem identical but it is not at all. As well as… not master ever reveals all of their tricks!

Wisdom is to be shared, while intelligence is not.

The only true tip I will offer about the tantric arts is that you need to study philosophy more then you do actual tantric manuals. Modern manuals are beyond crap, and if you study them… do so on your own because they are great insults to the originals. They are set up with easy answers where as the originals were not. Anyone could read the originals; few could truly understand them though. Even a kid could read and understand the modern ones though and therefore those who read the modern ones do not prove their knowledge at all. One, who studies and understands the actual originals, shows how knowledgeable and wise they really are.

The modern ones only focus on sex as well, where as the originals did not just focus on sex, they focused on marriage and romance as well. They taught about manners and passion where as the modern ones... once again do not even “briefly” (let alone in detail) mention such things.

I do often post blogs on my studies…

Sorry to say…

It is not to help people. I do it as an educational means for myself to help me see how much I am and am not really learning. I do not have a professor and nor do I want one. I write to see if other people can understand what I am capable of understanding. Most of the time no one knows what I am talking about… there is a very select few though who regularly are capable of communicating on my level. I seem to think pretty far “outside” the box, and so do the ones who I relate with.

This shall be the last list I post for a good while…

For those looking for some decent books that are not too expensive…

Here are a few good titles. Remember that I study the ancient texts and not the modern ones… this list will not help you if you have trouble understanding things. Many of my books read very similar to the King James Version of the Holy bible. Not all of them do, but all of my favorite ones are in fact written in very old languages.

Titles and Authors

(Not all of these are tantric manuals; they are just a variety of general tantric and sex manuals).

The Complete Illustrated Kama Sutra - by: Lance Dane

The Bedside Kama Sutra
- by: Linda Sonntag

The Perfumed garden
- by: Philip Dunn

Illustrated Guide to Extended Massive Orgasm
- by: Steve & Vera Bodansky

Sexology Uncensored
- by: Lucy Bland & Laura Doan

O: The Intimate History of the Orgasm
- by: Jonathan Margolis

She Comes First
- by: Ian Kerner

Tantric Orgasm for Women
- by: Diana Richardson

The Complete Kama Sutra
- by: Alain Danielou

Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot
‒ by: Deborah Sundahl

The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus
‒ by: Violet Blue

Ultimate Sex
‒ by: Anne Hooper

Erotic Massage
‒ by: Anne Hooper

Kama Sutra for 21st Century Lovers
‒ by: Anne Hooper

Sexology 101
‒ by: Anne Hooper

How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure
‒ by: Lou Paget

The Big O
‒ by: Lou Paget

Sex for Dummies
‒ by: Dr. Ruth

‒ by: Anne Hooper

KISS Guide to Sex
‒ by: Anne Hooper

Great Sex
‒ by: Anne Hooper

Kama Sutra
‒ by: Anne Hooper

The Art of Kissing
‒ by: William Cane

Idiot’s Guide to Oral Sex
‒ by: Ava Cadell

Sex Games
‒ by: Anne Hooper

Sex Games
‒ by: Linda Sonntag

Is Size Important
‒ by: Donald Templer

A Mind of Its Own
‒ by: David Friedman

‒ by: Caroline Aldred

Sexual Ecstasy
‒ by: Margot Anand

The Lowdown on Going Down
‒ by: Marcy Michaels

The Kama Sutra Illuminated
‒ by: Andrea Marion Pinkney

These are a select few from my collection. I am not listing any of my massage books as I am sure most people do not incorporate sex and massage. It is what tantric sex really is, but people will have to learn that through trial and error I imagine. The Kama Sutra is not tantric sex; it is however a very good starting point before you begin studying the complex tantric sex manuals. They work wonderfully together, or they can be used alone.

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
7/25/2005 5:16 pm

I doubt that they will. Men and women seem to be changing roles in the fact that more men desire softer more loving sex and women are begining to desire rougher anmd harder sex.

rm_Screw696969 41M/37F

7/25/2005 11:58 am

Wow. That blog just blew me away. I have to be honest and say that i never have studied Tantra and know pretty much nothing about it HOWEVER, find it extremely strange that the way you described it in this blog is exactly how I feel love making should be. Sex has always been extremely frutrating for me. It additionally is a very alienating feeling that none of the men in any of the relationships that I have had (not even my current on in which I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years) can understand what I feel true love making is. I believe that in order to truly make love you must be in love with the person that you are with. Perhaps that could be part of the problem (a big part). Although I will say that the lack of understanding from the men I have been with about what making love is, is equal to the lack of understanding that I have had about why all of them have felt the need to just f***. I often if wonder if the sexes will ever come to commonground when it comes to love making. I think a lot of the problem lies in not opening ones self up as love making truly is more then just a physical act. Anyway, just wanted to say thanks for the blog. It is a releaving feeling to know that my views are not only just my own but in fact have been around a lot longer then I have. lol This Tantra interests me and I think I'll look into it to learn and hopefully relate more to it.

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
7/10/2005 10:05 am

I try not to, but let's face it, sometimes that can be a hard thing to do

Thank you on the happy B-Day

demonicsexkitten 41F
10671 posts
7/10/2005 9:30 am

Happy Birthday!! (late, but it's happened since my last post).
I appreciate your book list. some i've owned for years, others i've read thru. i will be adding to my collection thanks to your list.

it's surprising how venomous some people seem towards you and your writings!! i trust you don't let them get to you.

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
7/8/2005 11:30 am

All of the content in my articles are written by me

My quotes are small... and everything but the quotes are written by me.

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
7/8/2005 11:24 am

I guess they should not pay heed to modern society then. That just goes to show that we are less advanced then most modern day people proclaim!

wyvernrose 38F
3895 posts
7/7/2005 7:33 pm

Mystic the reason the quality of sex has diminished so much is the general populations inability to communicate well, with computers television and various forms of media, personnal interaction is vastly reduced along with individuals abilities to do so,

this is where the problem lies......

there isn't the fuck fuck fuck attitude prolific in our society as you suggest.....just a bunch of people who don't know how to communicate what they want and enjoy....


wyvernrose 38F
3895 posts
7/7/2005 7:29 pm

lol raptor.

mystic your other articles being as majority of the content isn't written by you and doesn't slag everyone else on the earth is why I don't comment on it.

you need to learn just what respect is boy.

deprived is the last thing I am mystic

sweetpea work on your communication skills you find the better they are, the more mindful your lovers are able to be


LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
7/7/2005 3:01 pm

Thank you sweet...

Wyvernrose is one of maybe only 10 women here who share her opinion. She never comments on most of my well written stuff. Only my fast written work because she can not defend against my quotes in my researched blogs.

She is a deprived woman that is trying to make everyone else feel her misery.

Sweetpea61683 33F

7/7/2005 12:27 pm

My word... it's a rarity to find someone with your dedication to pleasure. There aren't too many of us left in the world. -smiles- I adore your blog and your views on how to become a more sexually fulfilled person. You are one in a million, Mystic. The world could do better with more men like you.

wyvernrose 38F
3895 posts
7/7/2005 5:52 am

would be interesting to see just how far outside the box you do actually think Mystic, because Honestly I don't think you could even come close to Boney and a few of my playmates with technique or skill even should you apply all you have studied, and no they aren't "fuckers" none of my regular playmates are.....


wyvernrose 38F
3895 posts
7/7/2005 5:47 am

"A good lover is a mindful lover, and most people are not mindful. They care primarily about themselves and have a “go to he**” attitude for anyone that is not related to them or friends with them. Most people not only have a poor attitude towards themselves, but have a seriously poor attitude towards others."

So you have shown us Mystic,

Just curious here, how many men have fucked you that you know that all the majority of men focus on is "fu**ing...... Fu**ing puts your focus and energy into the fast penetration and removes the erotic touching and stroking."


Become a member to create a blog