Ok best friend lets have sex.  

LovelyLadyLumpzz 40F
319 posts
1/27/2006 3:17 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Ok best friend lets have sex.

well, I have a question. Do you think it is more important to really like a person mentally on here before you can engage in sex, or is it more important to be attracted to the person physically? I guess I can see why the single people might be more interested in the personality of the person because dating and a relationship could become a factor. But for us swingers who are already attached, I think I base things more on appearance. But don't get me wrong either, I am not going to meet an ass and do anything with him if he is rude and has no respect. So what are your thoughts on this?

TorontoGuy55 36M

1/28/2006 12:48 pm

I thought you post was GREAT. I've thought the EXACT same thing. I have tried to make the same point in another post.

On this site, I am looking for a sex partner to have a good time, but it would be GREAT if that person could be a friend too. I'm not looking for anyone to replace Ms.TorontoGuy55, but finding a nice woman who is interesting, thoughtful, and *SEXUALLY EXPLOSIVE* is the REAL GOAL.

So, to answer your question, I say YES - you should get along with the person emotionally and intellectually - it will lead to carefree enjoyable sex!!! Being a horny guy who likes a good body, I still have to say that a woman's attitude is more important - a personality can be SO SEXY!

Good luck Lumpzz ... all that ass inside those jeans...yeah baby!

smackyman 46M
3845 posts
1/29/2006 9:56 pm

Physical attraction is a big deal. It is usually the initial quality that draws me to someone. Personality comes a close second. Any good pairing of the two is a winner. Anyone who is all of one and none of the other really just isn't going to appeal to me overall. I've found that things just won't happen for me if there isn't that 'happy medium' situation going on. After all - isn't it all good when you have have a good conversation/laugh inbetween sessions?

Anyone who is rude and doesn't respect you should be kicked to the curb...but I have a sneaking suspicion that you don't take that kind of crap from anyone...*grin*

rm_Sgtrha 47M

2/1/2006 12:18 pm

Physical attraction is important, but sometimes its a huge turn off when the person may look great but is smart as a sack of wood. It can be alot of fun to have the mental side of the sex life rolling too...

But I do agree with you its important to have that physicality too.

rm_bound2serveU 57M

2/2/2006 10:31 pm

When I was quite a few years longer and spraying my seeds like a run away machine gun, I must admit that the physical attraction was the biggest part, particularly when meeting people in bars. And I am sure that it is much the same for kids today. This was fruitful at the time and I guess did fulfill the requirements of evolution, but I have to say that all of my long time “friends”, I met, and got to know quite well before any sexual benefits came about. And sex was usually not the reason for meeting them in the first place.

I think that an expectation of meeting Mr. or Mrs. Right based on nothing but physical attraction is not going to get you very far. OK for a short time, maybe. We all know someone that always goes for the same type and it always goes the same crappy way for him or her. Physical attractions are a trap but some of us like to be caught in a trap, and if your fortunate the physical features you are attracted to coincide with a personality that compliments your own.

So I have to agree that for singles doing the mating dance, the connection or mental compatibility is a big factor. This is probably a problem for a younger the female looking for Mr. Right because young Mr. Right has his machine gun loaded and is not going to grow up for a couple of years, OK, decades.

Well, for me, some of those years have gone by now (shit, it makes it sound like I’m old). So now sexy attractive girls gets the blood pumping to the right organ and I will honorably salute all that come by, but for sex there has to be a mental connection for without that there can not be true intimacy and passion.
Tequila works sometimes

Thanks LovelyLadyLumpzz, I think I just had an epiphany.

I think I might be one of those romantic freaks now.
Dam it!
I’m one of those guys that wants a double order of wild explosive sex that sets my boat rocking and a side order of intimacy.

Thanks, now you screwed up my delusions.

Cheers &Bottoms Up.

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