Nothing is really black and white  

LovelyLadyLumpz2 40F
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7/3/2006 10:34 am

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7/24/2006 6:35 pm

Nothing is really black and white

What is Polyamory?

Polyamory is a relationship style that involves an openness to be being involved with more than one person at the same time. Polyamory is about responsible non-monogamy. Polyamory is not about cheating, or dishonesty. Polyamory pre-supposes that all people involved consent to this arrangement, and are honest about what is going on.

Polyamory is NOT swinging

There is a major distinction to be made between what is called "Swinging" and Polyamory. In swinging, the intent is to engage in non-monogamous sexual behavior without the development of love, affection or personal intimacy between oneself and the secondary partners. Swingers generally seek to engage in recreational sex without emotional intimacy. With polyamory, there is no such restriction, and the intent IS to allow such emotional intimacy to exist, develop, and grow between the people involved.

I know that there are lines that are suppose to be drawn between the two, but don't people really find it hard to just fuck without feeling? Why are we all on here looking for people who we "Click" with if emotion and feelings don't matter in this lifestyle. I know to a degree I am a bit polyamory, I am not looking for love, but I like a connection and I like emotion. Do people not feel a little more attached to people after they have taken some time to get to know them. I know there are some people that I would not have done things with unless I have taken some time to get to know them and developed some feelings for and decided hey this guy is really cool.

Okay this might just be me, but bear with me. Some people in this lifestyle are really not that attractive (I know not everyone likes me, not everyone likes bigger girls), but yet these people have partners and they are out to have sex with other people. Well the partners of these not so attractive people have probably had years to get to know them and absolutely love them. It might not be for their physical appearance, so if we base everything here on physical attraction as opposed to mental and emotional attraction, these people are not going to be very successful in the lifestyle. So I truely think that everyone has to include some polyamory into swinging and that it can't be defined as black and white unless you really do only want hot people with no personality.

I know I am going to get so in trouble for writing this from some of you. But its just my opinion ok I am not saying everyone thinks this way.

lovefrindship 34F
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7/5/2006 3:17 pm

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