How to treat friends with benefits....  

LovelyGirl323 50F
91 posts
2/6/2006 8:17 pm

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How to treat friends with benefits....

I have recently had a few conversations with men from AdultFriendFinder that have left a bad taste in my mouth. Here is a general question I have. If one is looking for friends with benefits...or a long term sexual encounter with on person in does one differentiate between dating and/or something else?

Women, if you are having a friends with benefits relationship...or a long term sexual encounter with you want to be treated more to a show up and screw session? How do you like your man to treat you outside of the bedroom too?

I'm very interested to hear responses on this.


2/6/2006 10:10 pm

The Friend I have, It is never a show up and screw session. I get dinner, hand holding, romance, the whole thing, as if we are in a relationship. But this may be diff. since we have love for each other. Friend with benefits and love!! LOL

Kaliedascope61 41M
4084 posts
2/6/2006 10:17 pm

Hi lovelygirl,

Here's my take on it. Its a very tricky situation for men, It seems to me, that there is an unclear line between the activities of friends with beni's and being a couple. I think that where you might be having your problem, or the men you are talking to are having a problem. Anyway, sometimes I try to protect myself from affecionate moments simply because I don't want to cross that line between love and friends, especially since it is never a clear line, at least not to me it isn't. Sometimes its just waiting for something better to come along, and when it does somebody usually gets hurt, and thats why for me things might be a show up and screw session.


Searay54 56M

2/9/2006 7:46 am

I had afriends with benefits this last year untill she had to move to CA and for me it was meeting having some drinks soda, coffee or something harder and then we would do a movie or dinner and talk about anything it was great and then we would move on to sexual talk and so on untill we were very satisfied. There were a few times where we just cuddled in bed and talked, nothing more no pressure.
We would meet at least once a week and sometimes twice.
Thats what i call friends with benefits.


seadoo50021 55M

2/13/2006 10:19 pm

well friends w/benifits is it real, ya for some but not for long!! from exp. has to grow or dye

Handlethisone53 63M

4/13/2006 12:21 pm

It is always trouble when it is a friend with benifits, the choice is do you always want the friend...

rm_SurfSun007 63M

5/1/2006 5:20 pm

It's not an easy situation. It takes two individuals who are mature enough to know what they are wanting and getting into. Even then the emotional area has to be watched. Personally I have had two great experiences with the "friend w/benefits". We enjoyed each others company outside the bedroom and that's needed. Both ladies are still very good friends of mine altho each has moved on. Both decided that the time was over and they were looking for a LTR and they deserve that opportunity. All I can say is to be upfront and honest and communicate. If you have ANY trouble differing from the emotional aspect I would advise to stay away. Good luck!!!

LovelyGirl323 50F

5/1/2006 9:33 pm

Thank you all very much for your posts. It has definitely given me insight.

Supperflex 71M/64F

7/14/2006 7:48 am

I think a gentleman should show respect toward the ladies and show them the " OLD SCHOOL" with respect. I also think the ladies on the other hand should respect the men and show love and kindness toward them it doesn't matter what relation your in.

rm_RCPrime 44M
3 posts
3/9/2007 11:49 pm

The hardest part about friends with benefits is that eventually, if you'll excuse my saying so, one forms an attachment to the person on the other end of the dick. If both people can keep their heads, things can be ok for long streches, but it's the keeping your head that can be really tough.

Dantheman1070 46M
23 posts
7/18/2007 9:00 am

Here's my take,sometimes I feel like friends with benefits never work out completely because some women cannot seperate sex and love.
I have had a few of these where the woman would start to get controlling and jealous.
Once I was seeing someone I worked with who was engaged to a guy I went to HS with.We had marathon sex she was indeed a nympho,we even planned our days off together so we could fuck all day long.
When she introduced me to her cousin is was love at first site,I told her she was going to be my girl,not thinking that anything would result in our meeting sure enough we started dating but in her jealousy she became upset and said if I continued this relationship with her cousin we were through.
I was surprised eventhough she was planning to marry someone else she wanted the cake along with the frosting so to speak.
Well needless to say I continued to see her cousin and we became very close,when she found out about the affair her cousin and I had before so she immediately knew this was the resentment between the two.
I believe that a guy can screw from door to door but for a woman it's internal each man she sleeps with there's some sort of feeling involved.

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