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My Opinion on "What Love Is ... "
My Opinion on "What Love Is ... "
Last Sunday, I was watching "My Bestfriend's Wedding". I don't know how many times I've watched that show. I've watched a lot of different couples exchange vows in a lot of different ways. I've seen many different wedding dresses and listened to how many different couples met. I've sat with my friends and discussed how couples look right or wrong together. We've analyzed how devoted they will be to one another by how their eyes dart or stay fixed during their vows, how they hold hands, the duration and intensity of their kiss, and whether or not they get tears in their eyes. Sometimes we almost cry, too. Oh Jeng and I did once ... it was during Cynthia's wedding ... hehehe! My friends and I would sometimes discuss how our wedding will be; the colors, the location, our dress, our bridesmaids, the ceremony, and the most and important of all, our groom. We talk about how much he'll love us and how nervous we'll be walking down the aisle to him.
I wonder if I enjoy living these dream weddings everyday more than I'll enjoy my own. I can imagine myself in the "perfect" wedding with the "perfect" guy. Nothing can go wrong in my dreams. No hard times to deal with ... only "perfect" bliss. My friends often talk about love and being romantic, as if that's the only thing that matters. They think it's all a magic fairy tale.
I guess I've reached the point in my life now where I can no longer fantasize about my ideal life nor my ideal wedding. Some may see me as a pessimistic, and maybe since I've never been really "in-love", I can't possibly understand or romanticize love as they can.
I think "in-love" is just a made-up fantasy to give people dreams. "In-love" as we call it, is an infatuation. TRUE LOVE, however, is putting up with a person day after day and learning not to be bothered by the little things that annoy you. Love is staying with a person because you committed to doing so forever. Love is realizing that you care about the other person more than you care about yourself. Love is committment.
I think very few people today know how to love. Love is looked at as a thing given to you, not as a thing given away. Love has to be given. But love is not hugging, kissing, holding, sending flowers/cards or anything of that sort. I know so many women that get caught up in how romantic a guy is. Sometimes, I'm almost afraid to voice my opinions to the other girls. I don't want a guy to always be doing romantic stuff for me. I won't love a person because of what they do for me. I'll love a person for who they are!
If I am to get married, I pray God has a special guy picked out for me. One who is real and admits when they're just as lost about things as I am. He doesn't have to admit it to the whole world but I want him to be honest with me. I'm not looking for someone perfect ... I want someone who is just right for me.
Many people say that all guys are jerks and there are no good ones to be found. But I beg to disagree. I know and I believe that I'll find a good guy. If I don't then I won't get married. I've never felt that I had to get married. I'm doing just fine being single. I know that it'll be hard if ever that happens, but I'm tough and I can handle it.