What would you give up for someone you love?  

LovableAscending 59F
13 posts
7/24/2006 3:39 pm

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7/25/2006 6:15 pm

What would you give up for someone you love?

I think I have just discovered why I will never be truly happy. I hate to admit it, but evidently I am a romantic. Ugh. That sounds so flowery. I hate flowery.
When I give myself completely I expect to sacrifice. Some things are more difficult than others to give up. My private time/down time/veg time or whatever you prefer to call it - that is a tough one. But I have learned to rely less upon me time and more on couples time. Not to say it hasn't been painful on occasion - but I felt it was worth it.
I have given up going out with former friends without my significant other. I've missed more than a few girls' nights, but I've enjoyed the company of the one I love, so it all worked out well. But I have given up so much more than just the selfish stuff.
I have given up family time, and at one point I had totally given up the respect of my loved ones. Slowly, my family has welcomed me back into their favor, but it has been a very painful process. And it isn't completely resolved, yet.
I have also given up financial security, and at my age that is incredibly frightening. I followed my heart, but I can't seem to cover the rent some months. I tell myself it is worth it because of the joy I get from being with someone I love so deeply. Yes, the joy is overwhelming at times, but the rent is still late.
I have given up a lot. And I guess I'd do it all over again. But I wonder, what is too much to give?
Your family? Your friends? Your financial well being? A night on the town?
In the end, who is going to be there for you? I mean really be there for you?


__poet__ 45M
3583 posts
7/24/2006 5:01 pm

The only one that has ever been there for me is me. I know that sounds cold, but it is what it is.

There is nothing wrong with being a romantic and I know how hard it is, you just have to realize that being true to you is the most important thing.


"There are no shortcuts to life's greatest achievements; therefore we take these risks not to escape life but to prevent life from escaping us!"poet
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LovableAscending 59F

7/24/2006 6:09 pm

Thank you poet. It takes a little bit of the sting away...honest.

redheadedangel33 48F

7/24/2006 8:33 pm

You are one of the sweetest, funniest, well rounded people I know. Never give up your true beliefs and values they are what make you who you are and what makes you so wonderful. Things will work out the way they are suppose to


LovableAscending 59F

7/24/2006 9:49 pm

Thank you Jamie. Sometimes it's hard to believe things will work out for the best, but I think they usually do.

LookandWink 63M

7/25/2006 3:23 pm

If you really care for someone, you must willing to give up things to make them happy and they should do the same for you. It doesn't matter if it's sex, friendships or even family ... everything in a relationship is a compromise. If I do whatever it takes to please you sexually and you do what it takes to please me, then both of us can be deliriously happy. So it is for everything else in a relationship. I hope you find that special person who will give you a never ending smile!

LovableAscending 59F

7/25/2006 6:00 pm

LooknWink - It only works if both partners sacrifice. I asked him to miss the Pimps and Ho's Ball since I cannot attend with him. I do not have the luxury of self- or unemployment. I have to be at work early Thursday morning. I did not feel comfortable with him going to this function without me for several reasons - not just because I don't get to go out and play.
He has a ride with/will be going with 2 of our female friends - against my wishes. By going against my wishes I feel all of them are disregarding my feelings.
He calls my reaction "drama". Maybe he's right. I don't mean for it to be, but I cannot help but feel what I feel.

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