A SPECIAL HAPPY FATHER'S DAY to all the single moms doing it all  

Lookng4RealMan 65F
2355 posts
6/18/2006 1:43 pm
A SPECIAL HAPPY FATHER'S DAY to all the single moms doing it all

My son (the 23 yo) gave me a huge hug and kiss this morning before making me breakfast and wishing me a Happy Father's Day. His father left before he was born and I have been both mother and father to him his whole life. Not always doing the best job, but the best I could.

HAPPY FATHER'S DAY to all the other single mom's out there doing the same thing.

Just know that you are not alone. we do the best we can for our children. And depending on the father, sometimes they are actually better off. Mine was an angry man that cause us to live in fear in a battered women's shelter for a year after he beat me up and hit my one year old. My son does not feel like he had a father at all and while that's a sad thought, because I had a very happy childhood with a terrific dad, it's the way things happened.

Keep up your spirits an do what you can. HAPPY DAY!


6/18/2006 2:28 pm

Right back at ya darlin'. Wish you and your son the best of luck and happiness.

JuicyBBW1001 54F

6/18/2006 2:31 pm

Thanks and back at ya.


rm_nodickdiet 44F
33 posts
6/18/2006 3:06 pm

I'd like 2 say thanks. I hope you and yours have a wonderful day together!! I dont know about u, but mine..seems to always know when i'm havin a hard day. Then he will give me a hug...n nothing seem to matter as much anymore. I wish u the same!! ENJOY 'em, they are the most important (well, they are tryin 2 be have today, it is sooo hard 2 be good though!!). LOL have a great day together!!!

Lookng4RealMan replies on 6/18/2006 3:32 pm:
Sometimes it's hard for all of us to behave. Have a great day.

bluegirl39 50F

6/18/2006 3:11 pm

ty so much...my kids said something about that today..mom your really a dad too. I asked my oldest if she was going to send her dad a card..she said yeah like he does for us...so needles to say shes not sending anything. sometimes its hard being both mother and father. Also men out there are doing the double duty as well..playing the role of both parents...Why couldn't we just have one parent day instead? that way regardless of the child being raised by mom, dad, or both parents can really enjoy the hoilday?...

Lookng4RealMan replies on 6/18/2006 3:29 pm:
I was thinking the same thing. All Parents day. So many familes are single parents these days.

DancesWithCocks 48F
6 posts
6/18/2006 3:12 pm

I second that motion sister. Thanks, and Happy Day to you too!!! And to the single dads doing it all too!! (I know a few)

I have always felt the same way about single monms getting special attention for Fathers Day also, or single dads on Mothers Day. Or maybe there should be a special day for those parents that have been both mother and father. I have done it all by myself for 14 years. Good for you that you did what was right for you and your child. I would rather be alone than to be unhappy or make my son unhappy. I tell my brother and some of my friends that are in abusive relationships that all the time. My sons "sperm donor" (that's what I call him because he has chosen to not be involved)has been mad ever since I wouldn't have an abortion. I have worked my ass off, held down two jobs at times and get no child support and he knows where we are, in fact our families are friends, but he has never made an attempt to have anything to do with my son....until recently...now that I have raised an awesome kid and he is 14, the "sd" wants to take him fishing and be "Mr Cool Dad" now that I have done all the hard stuff.

Anyway, didn't mean to babble. Have a good one!!

Lookng4RealMan replies on 6/18/2006 3:38 pm:
I work with a lady who refers to her ex as "the donor" also. Funny how they pop up when all the hard work is done. I'm glad mine didn't have the nerve to. If he came to the door now, my son would have a big surprise for him and then we would (maybe) call him an ambulance!

By theay we now have atleast 3 votes for "Parents day" to replace the othe two days. Thanks for commenting and have a great day.

rm_george45333 53M

6/19/2006 6:50 am

I'm a full time single father of two and i agree with you glad your son is understanding and gave you a special day best of luck to you!!!

Lookng4RealMan replies on 6/19/2006 3:17 pm:
In many ways I think it is easier for a single mother than a single father. Not that either is easy, but often nurturing the children comes easier for women than men. I applaud your single fatherhood, George. I hope you had a great Father's Day.

OkrasTransLamps 60M
12 posts
6/20/2006 3:11 pm

As an about to be single father of 32 years and having my almost exwife turn my two step sons against me by telling them I beat her when she knows that I never hit, punched or slapped her in 32+ years it hurts for it to end this way. I will miss my granddaughters the most because even though they are not blood they are my grandchildren as close to me as my blood grandchildren.
I salute all father's who raise their children and become an active part in their raising. I may be 10 years but it is only 120 months from the time they are 4 years old until they are 14 years old. If you do not have a relationship with them by the time they are 14 years old - YOU MISSED IT. I was there for my all four of my sons, 2 step and 2 blood. But now 1 lie has turned 32 years of work around.
I salute all working mom's I don't know how you do it and I double salute and sing the praises of all work mom/dad single parent families. GOD BLESS YOU and may he save you a special space in heaven. slowhands269

Lookng4RealMan replies on 6/20/2006 5:24 pm:
Sounds like you are having a rough time. I'm sorry that some spouse feel the need to turn their children against the other parent. It can not be good for the children and hurts everyone involved.

I can only think that it begins with gross insecurity on her part. Hopefully your kids will realize the truth in time.

Best of luck to you. I hope everything works out so that you can have a MUCH happier fathers day next year.

DancesWithCocks 48F
6 posts
7/12/2006 2:22 pm

Heck no we don't need a replacement for the two days. LOL We deserve a "Mothers Day, a Fathers Day and a Parents Day" all three.

slowhands, Sorry about your situation. I know that is hard to deal with vindictive people, but have faith that your kids will see you for the loving father that you were to them for all those years soon. Keep trying.

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