Superficiality Sucks  

LonelyArtist_35 46M
35 posts
12/5/2005 1:23 pm

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Superficiality Sucks

I've met a wonderful lady (online) She seems to be a great catch based on our chats over the past few nights anyway.

I'm as guilty as the next guy when it comes to being superficial about the girls I'm drawn to. If they don't fit my opinion of beautiful they fly right under my radar!

For Example
While attending the Art Institute of Pittsburgh I met a wonderful young lady. Wouldn't have even noticed her but she struck up a conversation with me about my art.
We started hanging out and discussing things about ourselves and our lives. It was becoming a true friendshp. One thing led to another and I started developing feelings for her... Feeligs she didn't share for me! (Even started to think of her as attractive)
Anyway, the point is: I think I was in love with someone who might have otherwise passed me by without me even noticing her in the first place!

It's for this reason I've been a lonely artist all these years. I've never paid attention if the girl isn't what I consider beautiful. In return the ones I think of as members of the pretty girls club never saw me as a blip on their radars.

I'm even noticing an irony as I get older. Being a non-smoker I don't want to be with someone who smells of cigarettes. What's ironic to me is all the girls I would otherwise be attracted to are lighting up!
Of course chances are the ones who are drop-dead gorgeous aren't so beautiful on the inside where it counts! NOTE: I'm sure there are some out there who are but chances are they're smokers! LOL

cherokeeangel5 41F
15 posts
12/5/2005 5:25 pm

I am sorry for the way that lady reacted toward you. I know that I can never take the pain that she caused you. I also know that I am not very slim. In fact, I am overweight, but I was always taught that beauty is only skin deep and a person shouldn't be judged by the cover of a book until he or she has read the pages. I do not smoke because I cannot stand the smell of that either. I know first hand on what it's like to get hurt; I have been there many times to know that it hurts. Sometimes living life and falling in love means taking a chance/risk, but that's the kind of risk that would be worth risking.

LonelyArtist_35 46M

12/5/2005 6:23 pm

I want to believe that. Finding someone special is so important. Far better than spending life alone.
Abot beauty only being skin deep: So far as the physical side of it that's true. By my experience with Mary in Pittsburgh true beauty lies on the inside.

cherokeeangel5 41F
15 posts
12/11/2005 8:59 am

I want to believe that there are men who look beyond the exterior of the woman, and yes, finding someone special is very important and is far better than spending life alone. True, I may have tried going with different men, but they were only interested in one thing. After they got a good look at me, they left and never came back. I apologize for sounding very cynical, but with me, trust is also a very huge issue with me.

LonelyArtist_35 46M

12/15/2005 3:08 am

After all you've disclosed to me about your life I can understand you having trust issues my Tigress. I have some of my own I suppose, but they probably don't run as deeply...
For me it's more a fear of commitment, and the possibility of heartbreak.

cherokeeangel5 41F
15 posts
12/15/2005 6:23 pm

I am afraid of commitment and the possibility of another heartbreak too,Mike, but I am willing to give things a chance. And maybe I'm afraid to express my feelings and put my feelings into words, but I am not afraid of taking risks. I apologize for talking like this, but, it had to be said, my Tiger. I love you.

LonelyArtist_35 46M

12/16/2005 7:04 pm

I love you too my Tigress. It just doesn't seem like you have any trouble expressing your thoughts and feelings Babydoll. Your honesty and openness is very refreshing baby. It's kinda sexy.

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