Uncharacteristic Rant!!!!  

LondonDerriere 36F
1281 posts
11/5/2005 7:28 am

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5/23/2006 2:42 pm

Uncharacteristic Rant!!!!

OK, so why is it that so many guys on this site (present company excepted) seem to have a problem with the fact that women, and in particular, we younger ones, not only enjoy sex but enjoy it on our own terms?

Two examples.

First, one of my contacts on here, Karin (aka BallymenaBabe) removes her profile. Why? Because she gets fed up with men mailing her who can't accept that she is only looking to meet girls and doesn't want to meet guys because she is in a perfectly happy relationship with a guy she loves and just wants to explore her sexuality to the full. Apparently, prickteaser is one of the milder names that some men have called her. On the plus side, we are still meeting up later tonight so hopefully I'll cheer her up .

Second, I've never met or spoken to her but xschoolgirlslutx is an 18 year old woman from Edinburgh who, as her name suggests, is still at school. Nothing wrong with that, I was sexually active when I was at school and so are many other girls and, besides which, the age of consent in Scotland is 16 so it's perfectly legal. But, apparently, she gets bombarded with insults and is called names and so, she too, is thinking of removing her profile.

OK, so what is it with people? Waken up guys. This is the 21st century and you can't keep us chained, barefoot, to the sink any more. My orgasm is just as precious to me as yours is to you (possibly even more so as some of you can't wait to let me have mine and I'm not one of these women that takes for ever, if I'm properly turned on, I can cum almost as quickly as you can).

So some tips and pointers.

1) Don't assume that because we call ourselves 'slut' or 'whore' or 'slapper' in our handles that we actually want to be called that. OK, in the heat of passion, I might like it now and again, but I wouldn't want a complete stranger to call me that by way of introduction.

2) Read our profiles. OK, I know some are a bit sparse but a few simple rules are, if it says no cock pics then, surprise surprise, it means we don't want cock pics. IF it says no men, that means, no men. Why even waste your time or hers contacting her? If a woman says no, doe it surprise you that what she actually means is, 'NO'? It's a simple word, it's only got two letters, which bit of it don't you understand?

3) Treat us with respect. Do that and, not only will we be inclined to treat you the same way, but it might even increase your chances of a favourable response.

4) Women don't have to be grateful for sex. OK, take the time and effort to treat us properly and we will be and we will, no doubt, find a suitable way of repaying the compliment but don't expect us to swoon with thankfulness if all you 'treat' us to is a wham, bam, thank you ma'am because, believe me, it isn't going to happen

5) Finally, and perhaps most importantly, if you're having a lack of success on this site, don't blame us for it. I know there are timewasters and women are as guilty of it as men but if we don't respond, given the number of e-mails we get, it's not a deliberate attempt to belittle you, it's simply that there just aren't enough hours in the day to reply to everyone and the chances are, if your message was along the lines of, 'I've got X number of hard inches that I want to fuck your sweet pussy with' or other such gems, or if you show that you haven't paid any attention to what we've written (eg cock pics when we say we will ignore them), then the chances are you've only yourselves to blame when we do just that.

With that, enjoy your weekend.

rm_thedonkey05 41M

11/5/2005 9:44 am

An incisive comment, but i must say quite relevant and true and i must commend yu for bringing it up. well guess , just like everything in life yu would have all sorts here just like yu have in the real world, and many would hide under the annonymity of the net to insult pretty young women,,,, and men who are only here for a bit of fun and spark in their lives on there on terms
i d rather ask people not to bow to such people but rather block them out quickly from yur mailing list rather than succumb to their insults and allow them wn by turning your profiles off

Loosetooth 41M
1146 posts
11/5/2005 11:17 am

Hold on........women don't have to be grateful for sex? no means no? No-one wants a picture of my cock? What is she saying? Someone make her stop ,puuuurlease!!!!!!!!!!!! Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah

Loosetooth 41M
1146 posts
11/5/2005 11:18 am

Hold on........women don't have to be grateful for sex? no means no? No-one wants a picture of my cock? What is she saying? Someone make her stop ,puuuurlease!!!!!!!!!!!!

Loosetooth 41M
1146 posts
11/5/2005 11:19 am

Oh no, AdultFriendFinder did that annoying thing. No I look like a wally. I'll get me coat.

donnie157 59M

11/5/2005 12:09 pm

First of all I love a good rant & Shelly I'm sure you have had your share of them. Nothing wrong with that, girlfriend! Nothing like a passoniate, fired up woman, I say.

Second, don't punish the rest of us just because some SHITHEADS, LOSERS and MISFITS can't handle or accept your activities or lifestlye. Delete, delete, delete, ignore, ignore, ignore I say. That is ONE of the advantages of this arena. Besides, these guys are probably still living in their parent's basements & couldn't get a date in real life unless they forked over a couple of hundred bucks! Sorry, I don't know what that is in Pounds or Euros or whatever it is you have there.

Three, and I feel this is very important. Any one who is frustrated sexually or otherwise about an internet activity or exchange(ESPECIALLY an AAF type site) to the extent that you have described, should be hunted down by the authorities and locked away in an insane asylum! I deem these people a danger to themselves and society at large.

Did I just rant here?

LondonDerriere 36F
157 posts
11/5/2005 1:18 pm

    Quoting Loosetooth:
    Oh no, AdultFriendFinder did that annoying thing. No I look like a wally. I'll get me coat.
I've tried to help you out but, I think I've just possibly made you look worse.

Can you ever forgive me?

Karin says hi!

5 posts
11/5/2005 2:58 pm

Hi Shelley & Karin, I hope you are both having fun watching this all unfold. Something tells me you'll both find something a lot more interesting to amuse pretty soon!
I don't know how effective or reactive AdultFriendFinder is but they do have a system for reporting abuse. It should certainly be a banning offense.
I will admit, when I first joined, I was prone to sending several mails as I somehow came to the conclusion that since I hadn't recieved a reply the lady in question obviously had missed my so interesting message. But fortunately i'm older & wiser now - i limit myself to no more than 10 . Seriously though, I doubt if we guys are all capable of behaving ourselves which is a shame for anyone at the recieving end &, lets face it, spoiling the experience for all. Maybe AdultFriendFinder should set up filtering for invites too??

drnick20054 28M

11/5/2005 4:55 pm

those jerks give me a bad name

Loosetooth 41M
1146 posts
11/5/2005 5:51 pm

Jesus Derriere what are you doing? If I did not look like a plonker before I do now! What must everyone be thinking? I can forgive but I can never forget........ listen you have one one more chance, do not mess it up!

Anyway say hello to Karin, hope youse two had a good night. I liked her blog so it is a pity she has gone. Now you have that thing on your profile that means anyone outside of Ireland cannot reply to you, cannot Karin do a similar thing with men?

charleslamb4077 37M
90 posts
11/5/2005 10:23 pm

No Americans!

rm_gagging4it68 48M
1 post
11/6/2005 4:05 pm

You can't make it any clearer and straight to the point. Fantastic....I hope you both have a seriously great night (Wish I was there) and keep the good work up !! XX

rm_Marantz1972 44M

11/6/2005 9:43 pm

Hi Shelly. Just adding my three pence - yeah it is bullshit, there's a lot of work out there for any buding psychologists who are into 'fixing' mummy's boys. Most of these sad dudes who've been giving out the abuse would give their right ear to sniff your pants, only to call you a whore in the morning.

You shouldn't have to take the fight too them, I mean this site is potentially like heaven for singles and swingers - why ruin it lads?

As always, more power to your elbows. Sorry to hear about Ballymenababe, that's pretty fucked alright.

In her honour I'm gonna dress up in a skirt, put on fake boobs and take away some of the heat from you hotties for the night.

I'll ask mum first if its okay though!


bobbydazzler69x 46M

11/7/2005 8:24 am

As for no cock pics, I'm wondering if that applies only to the silly dismbodied zero-eriticism cock shots, or also applies for example to my more recent Tom of Finland efforts in a long leather coat and beaver hat ( yes, I know, real beaver. I bought it in Berlin, it's an old Eastern bloc thing). I'm thinking about a tasteful and aesthetic Mapplethorpe thing next. Some of the gay guys do the cock shots thing really well, and that's coming from a straight guy.

rm_chowbox2005 43M

11/7/2005 11:54 am


Who would have thought that " Hit me back bicth if you wanna suck my balls you f**king whore" would not work as a pick up line?

I do feel for all of the ladies on this site, and the crap that they put up with. I can't imagine all of the things you must hear.

Hopefully some of the guys on this site will read this post and either realize the error of their ways, or simply shut-up!

Good Luck to You Shellz,



AlbertPrince 58M

11/8/2005 2:01 am

I'll tell you what. Why don't you e-mail me and show me how it should be done?

emm 46M

11/8/2005 3:34 am

even if i agree with you...wow ..how much AdultFriendFinder pays you..?I loved to apply 4 this kind of job...

rm_IrelandFun 38M
6 posts
11/11/2005 9:52 am

love the blog shelly - dont mind the abusive guys - keep doing what makes u happy



rm_funkwit 35M

11/15/2005 5:27 am

thought you had some damn good points in your rant, a lot of blokes on here do just think of women as flesh to poke and it really cracks me up when, in the chatrooms, ya see all the guys saying I'm 9"/10"/20" etc anyway don't let the bastards get ya down. and if ya ever come to the uk drop me a line. I'm john, 24 years old livin in the north west(lancashire).

anyway peace out and have fun!


rm_jcwhitingjr 46M

11/15/2005 5:46 pm

I hope that none of you ladies let these folks get to you. Don't remove your profiles. Don't give the folks the satisfaction of impacting YOUR life.

Ignore them. It's always easier said than done. By replying to them or removing your profile and such you are only confirming to them that they are doing exactly what they want. That is getting under your skin. Don't give them the satisfaction.

That's all probably been said in this thread already, but after reading your post, I had to say it, too!

JudeL5 46M
1550 posts
11/20/2005 5:08 pm

Your blog is definitely a common theme among women (bloggers) on this friendly site....
Think of it as natural selection at work! Ignore it like SPAM, hit the delete key as fast as you can, and throw them in the trash!

LondonDerriere 36F
157 posts
12/1/2005 9:16 am

    Quoting JudeL5:
    Your blog is definitely a common theme among women (bloggers) on this friendly site....
    Think of it as natural selection at work! Ignore it like SPAM, hit the delete key as fast as you can, and throw them in the trash!
Oh, I do. Believe me, I do!!!

However, for the amusement of most (and shame of some) I've started posting some of the choicest ones on here in my post: Some classic AFF e-mails.

Maybe people will take the hint, although somehow, I doubt it.

GB_Cple 66M/55F  
3044 posts
12/1/2005 9:34 am

brilliant post , well done .)

pistolpete98789 31M
41 posts
1/6/2008 5:21 pm

it is now 7 jan. 2008...do these rules still apply in these days of modernism?

TryAnything69069 36M
12 posts
3/14/2008 6:45 pm

You shouldnt have to put up with abuse from a bunch of sexually repressed wankers.Just try to ignore them!There just jealous that their painfully thought out pick up lines.Dont work on real women,like they do on there imaginary women.A lot of guys who use these lines online,are the guys who are socially inept with women in person.Even though a lot of these lines work in person.It isnt the line itself that works.But the body language,the confidence and the cocky humour that can make it work.Just be happy and proud to be young,sexy and living life how you want.

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