Sex and the single girl  

LondonDerriere 36F
1281 posts
5/15/2006 12:11 pm

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Sex and the single girl


Appreciate that I've touched on this subject before but I've had a few experiences recently that would appear that the previous message has been lost on some. Repeating my views seems like an exercise in futility but, hey ho, I live in hope.

Right, let's get on with this this rant.

Firstly, I'm a grown adult and have as much right to post a profile on here as anyone else.

Secondly, just because I have a profile on here does not mean that I'm going to contact/meet/fuck everyone that contacts me.

Thirdly, given the number of messages I get on here, I can't possibly hope to respond to every single one, there are only so many hours in the day and there is this little matter of having a real life.

Fourthly, just because I'm not interested in a particular person when they approach me does not make me a cock teaser or a fake. Having a profile does not deprive me of my right to be choosy and to only follow up leads that genuinely interest me.

Fifthly (I think I may be making these up now), just because I have a profile on here does not mean I'm 'easy' or that I jump into bed with just anyone.

OK, so that's got that out of the way.

It seems there are some people on this site who can't cope with the fact that women can be in touch with their sexual needs/wants/appetites. I joined this site because I enjoy sex (if you've read any of what I've written before, you will know this to be the case). I HAVE met people off this site and I HAVE had sex with some of them. I don't have a problem with that. I don't feel that I've cheapened myself as a result and I certainly don't think that my morals should be called into question in any way. I could just about accept those sort of comments from people who don't frequent this site but to get disparaging comments of this nature from people who are on here does make me wonder. Why is it right for you to be on here doing what you do but it isn't for me? If you question my right to be here then what the hell are you doing on this site? People who use this site for the purpose for which it is intended have no right to preach about the so-called morals of other users/members.

Does the word hypocrite spring to mind at all?

I'm single and, shock horror, I enjoy sex. I'm not cheating on anyone, which is more than can be said for a lot of people on this site, some of whom I've met and had sex with but that's their concern, not mine. I'm not going to judge someone because they want/need something more than they can get at home. Nor is it my intention to 'steal' someone's partner as I've stated on numerous occasions that I am NOT looking for a relationship and while I may be prepared to have sex with them,I'm definitely not going to have a relationship with someone who is already in one.

Some of you may think that I'm practicing my own brand of hypocrisy here since I've admitted that I've not exactly been renowned for my own fidelity in my past 'relationships' and have openly admitted that I've 'cheated' on 'boyfriends' when I was younger. Well, maybe that's true but I'm not altogether certain that a hormone induced teenage fling that would probably only have lasted a few weeks at the most is on a par with with a long term committed relationship/marriage. Remember, if you're married, you publicly proclaimed to foreswear all others, I certainly never did that. That may be a technicality in the eyes of some but I can live with it and, as I've pointed out in a previous post, I haven't been in any sort of relationship for over 6 years. Someday, I may meet that special someone and settle down but that's not a stage I'm ready for yet and don't see it happening any time soon.

So girls (and possibly guys), if you've recently discovered that your partner has been having sex with me, you don't need to worry, I'm not going to try and prise them away from you. What the other people that they are having sex with behind your back want is quite possibly a different matter.

Perhaps it's somewhat telling that the 'involved' women I've been with seem to have the blessing of their partner where the 'involved' men want something discreet and secret but, as I said, it's not my place to judge and each to their own.

Does my coming on here looking for (and finding) sex make me a slut? If it does, then what does that make you? As it is, if I am a slut, then I'm an extremely happy and satisfied slut and I'm not going to change just because of some outdated double standard that has no place in today's society and certainly not on a site like this.

If I've touched a nerve of anyone reading this, too bad. Deal with it, I'm not going to waste any time on you.

Oh, and one final thing; I've said it before and I'll say it again because it's obvious that the message isn't getting through; if you want me to even consider you, send me something other than just a cock pic. I've seen enough of them that I know what they like and, at the risk of shattering some fragile male egos, actually, they're not really that attractive to look at. I have NEVER looked at a picture of a cock and thought, 'WOW!!! I MUST have that inside me!' Whilst I'm not fixated on looks, there has to be something to spark an interest and, I'm sorry to be blunt, but a close-up of a penis won't do it on its own. I appreciate that the cock pic on your profile is used to give you a sense of anonymity but it isn't too difficult to attach a face/body pic to an e-mail. And just to spell it out so that there can be no ambiguity, e-mails that are adorned only with images of genitalia, no matter how tasteful (sic) are almost always deleted unread.

So there you go, now you know. Anything in this post that you can't deal with is your own problem and I'm not going to lose any sleep over it.

BDVE 50M
5 posts
5/15/2006 3:47 pm

So shelly, to sum up, there are lots of assholes on here who can't accept rejection or live & let live.


Loosetooth 41M
1146 posts
5/16/2006 4:37 am

Ahhhh the pleasures of AdultFriendFinder. The gentle sound of leather on willow, jumpers for goalpoasts, women haranged by immature ass-holes and sexually frustrated men who cannot see beyond their very small penis pics. That is right spring is in the air and it is giving us all hay-fever. Well snort up the bile my friends because it might run dry tomorrow.

Now Shelley if I promise to send you a grammatically incorrect overtly macho e-mail, will you promise not to reply so that I may get affronted. After all at least then we will be having the archetypal AdultFriendFinder romance, I the ever sexually frustrated meat-head Rhino that you know and love and you the harangued damsil in distress, oh I cannot wait. Stick to your buns girl x.


black4740 43M/F
2 posts
5/16/2006 8:27 am

"Confusing monogamy with morality has done more to destroy the conscience of the human race than any other error." George Bernard Shaw

Thought you might appreciate this quote.


LondonDerriere 36F
157 posts
5/16/2006 10:42 am

    Quoting Loosetooth:
    Ahhhh the pleasures of AdultFriendFinder. The gentle sound of leather on willow, jumpers for goalpoasts, women haranged by immature ass-holes and sexually frustrated men who cannot see beyond their very small penis pics. That is right spring is in the air and it is giving us all hay-fever. Well snort up the bile my friends because it might run dry tomorrow.

    Now Shelley if I promise to send you a grammatically incorrect overtly macho e-mail, will you promise not to reply so that I may get affronted. After all at least then we will be having the archetypal AdultFriendFinder romance, I the ever sexually frustrated meat-head Rhino that you know and love and you the harangued damsil in distress, oh I cannot wait. Stick to your buns girl x.
For you, Rhino me old cherub, anything (within reason and afordability of student finances)


tolde999 46M
29 posts
5/17/2006 12:46 am

dear london i am really want to fuck but so far from here just only fantasy what i have but i feeled thats .......................oooohhhh
you make me ........................and now wait a moment i am comming
creeeeeeeettcreeeeeettttcreetttt.creett creetcreet aaaaahhh aaaahhhh honey its really nice.


Choozmi 50M

5/17/2006 11:09 am

God, you're so articulate.

I respect and agree with everything you said above, and I'm glad that you got it off your lovely chest, but you really didn't need to say it.

The people that need to hear your message will never listen to it. The people that are open to hearing it already agree with it.

Maybe you got through to one or two bozos, though, so I guess it was worth it.


LondonDerriere 36F
157 posts
5/17/2006 11:51 am

    Quoting tolde999:
    dear london i am really want to fuck but so far from here just only fantasy what i have but i feeled thats .......................oooohhhh
    you make me ........................and now wait a moment i am comming
    creeeeeeeettcreeeeeettttcreetttt.creett creetcreet aaaaahhh aaaahhhh honey its really nice.
I think this guy's post illustrates the point pretty well, don't you?


GB_Cple 66M/55F  
3046 posts
5/17/2006 12:11 pm

Hear hear


tolde999 46M
29 posts
5/17/2006 10:56 pm

ya i am really want to fuck you but you lived so far from here


LondonDerriere 36F
157 posts
5/18/2006 10:26 am

    Quoting tolde999:
    ya i am really want to fuck you but you lived so far from here
Well, thank fuck for small mercies then (whistling theme to 'The Great Escape' as she types)!!!!


gothicat1 46M/41F

5/18/2006 10:59 am

tolde999, I think i'm speaking for everyone when i say consider going to a monastery and join the brotherhood, as clearly chastity is the way forward for you... They will also help you learn how to read as clearly you can't!!!

Sorry to butt in LondonDerriere but knob-ends like that get right on my tits and felt compelled to to say something to the idiot...


LondonDerriere 36F
157 posts
5/18/2006 12:06 pm

    Quoting gothicat1:
    tolde999, I think i'm speaking for everyone when i say consider going to a monastery and join the brotherhood, as clearly chastity is the way forward for you... They will also help you learn how to read as clearly you can't!!!

    Sorry to butt in LondonDerriere but knob-ends like that get right on my tits and felt compelled to to say something to the idiot...
Goth, you're very welcome. I was going to suggest somewhere that does English classes too, although a monastery where there is a mandatory vow of silence is also a pretty good idea.


soupcat 46M

5/18/2006 3:31 pm

Let us peel back the foreskin of misconception, and apply the wire brush of enlightenment. Oh my head LD... what a rant! Why do you let the proposers... the illiterates, the cock pics.. and the denunciaters annoy you so? Life is about living it... and feck those who condemn you for living it as you so desire. You'll generally find that those who condemn are also those who are not in control of their own happenstance; product of frustration perhaps?

I applaud you for going out there and indulging in your pleasures.. you're fortunate that you're easy enough on the eye and articulate enough to carve out the regular gratification that others cannot. That said when a frustrated not so bright male, looks at a picture of a nice ass, reads stories of the owner of that same ass coddling with male, female and the plural thereof.... it is not difficult to comprehend why same individual engages their natural boorish neanderthal reflex.

To black4740 above... I'm such a Shaw fan... love your work!!

K


donnie157 59M

5/18/2006 10:53 pm

I love it when you come out swinging.

Hard to believe that even guys like tolde are "all God's creatures". Don't let them get to you Shel. Remember, as Mr. T so eloquently put it: "I pity the fool".


tolde999 46M
29 posts
5/20/2006 1:35 am

thank you for all my friends,what ever you said or your thinking about me,its ok.because i now i am from indonesia, maybe i am write something a mistake forgive me that,see you a letter maybe this not my place.


greekdub 43M

5/20/2006 4:17 am

Just ignore them, Shel! You are a wonderful woman-one of a kind!


rm_limerickcpl 36M/35F
16 posts
5/21/2006 1:42 am

Of all the sites we are members of, Adultfriendfiner is probably the worst offender for this. We attribute it to its high ranking in the search engines which are a blessing and curse. On the plus site you get lots of new and interesting members. On the minus, every tom, dick (quite literally) and harry with time on their hands and people to annoy. AdultFriendFinder is probably too big for its own good.

Some of the smaller sites we on have more a genuine 'core' and less annoying members. But then they don't have the same diversity you find on AdultFriendFinder. That being said we have been on/off on a AdultFriendFinder for some time now and not had one genuine meet, just people stringing us along. To be honest were only here for the blogs at this stage! (off to update ours). That being said no matter what site you are on, what IM, where you are on the net, the infamous COCK pics will find you!!! You'd think in this engightend day and age, with men reading womens magazines and such they would have learned that a cock pic is not the way to a woman's bed!


rm_limerickcpl 36M/35F
16 posts
5/21/2006 7:20 am

Got another nice one just now

"plz o thru my profile and mail me what do u have to do so i can enoy your company..."


tolde999 46M
29 posts
5/22/2006 2:13 am

thank you for your comment,i am really get something in this site Maybe i am not in your class but you invited me. i appreciated and want to be close with you. thank you my dear limerickcpl


DubiousInnocence 32F

5/23/2006 2:55 pm

Yup, there are plenty of people who can't read. if I had £1 for every guy who thinks 'NO SINGLE MEN' means no single men, except them, I could, um, er, well, probably spend it on shoes


ella1966 50F
1528 posts
10/7/2006 9:16 pm

Hiya hon, well this post is rather late in the piece but it was not appropriate for me to comment on more recent posts of yours

Anyway I can't lie and say that I am not jealous, both of your 1st and the fact you are doing postgraduate medicine!!! - both of which I would have liked to have achieved by now, but for various reasons, which I won't go into here, I haven't and will unlikely to be able to accomplish now at 40 and also of your freedom to sexually explore, which I could not do at 26 as I was in my first year of marriage to my first boyfriend,

But but other than that I applaud your enlightened post and wish you well in your studies and beyond,

ella from Oz X


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