The No Show Syndrome  

LittleVJ 54F
363 posts
9/18/2005 4:25 pm

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The No Show Syndrome

Sometimes I find myself a bit amazed (although oddly enough, not surprised) at the number of people from here that are no shows.

It wasn't what you would call a test, but recently I returned about 20 email contacts to various people (singles & couples) that had answered my ad. Giving most of them two weeks or more notice of where I was going to be (and the time) on a particular night if they wanted to at least meet and get aquainted. I wanted to see what kind of response I would get. Out of 20, only one showed up! That's something isn't it? I mean, I realize that some people have other plans and with work and family commitments & such. I struggle with those issues myself. But you would think that you could expect at least a little better turn-out.

More and more it seems like out of the people on here that do want to meet...well they do want to meet alright but, it has to be "right now!" No making plans or working out details. Even there I've experienced a few no shows.

Such a waste I think, but no matter, I still manage to have fun whether they show or not.

rm_byron1724 53M
214 posts
9/19/2005 9:20 am

I'm sure there's loads of reasons, commitments, distance, unknown partners, or even just a lack of confidence (some find it a bit nerve wracking meeting someone for the first time knowing that he or she may want to fuck them there and then - or even worse, not want to fuck them at all!).

Also you probably don't help - you look like a super confident, seriously sexy and sensual woman and that can very intimidating for a guy (but not this one!)

Byron xxx

overworkedloon 56M
400 posts
9/20/2005 8:33 am

I don't think I'd show up for a woman that said I'll be at such and such a week from Thursday. I'd even be less likely to if that's the only correspondance I had with her. My experience on here has been every person I've chatted with (i.e. had more than 1 or 2 emails) I've actually set up a date with (not a I'll be someplace, mmet me there in 2 weeks) has shown up. Then again I'm a fat ugly man and not a hot blonde woman, so I actually have to do a little work to convince someone I'm worth meeting.

spinmedown 49M
3626 posts
9/20/2005 2:39 pm

We all make mistakes.
I'm sure they are still, uh..kicking themselves.
Would you give any of them a second chance?

Most people are other people... FUCKING CHARACTER LIMIT!!! ~Oscar Wilde

Renofunone 62M

9/22/2005 3:45 pm

I wish I had gotten your invitation to my letter. I would not have let you down. I know stuff, you know, shit happens to us all sometimes but I always try very hard to do what I say, especially to please a beautiful fun woman like you

rm_plztryme1 49M
17 posts
9/23/2005 2:18 am

Did you just tell them or did you agree a set time/place/day ect.As they may well have made other plans...

rm_YourOsfirst 50M

9/23/2005 11:12 am

I find that hard to believe as hot as you are. I know if I lived near Nevada, I would have responded.

JimSteel99 57M
1 post
9/23/2005 9:11 pm

If I lived in Nevada, I would go to a place you said you would be at.
If nothing else, the excitment of possibly meeting someone would get my ass in gear. Plus as YourOsfirst said, you're hot, that would an extra fire under my butt. Still I would have to be way richer than I am to fly from Florida to Nevada for a possible meet. But if your ever in Ft Lauderdale, send me an eMail and I'll show up.

OftenPriusPicks 58M

9/24/2005 11:33 pm

You bring up a very interesting point. I am surprised that you had only one person show-up. Then, I thought about it a little, and viewed your profile again. Perhaps there are some, who are a little intimidated by a woman like yourself; sexy as hell, smart with ton's of confidence. There are some who do not do well with that, my dear.

fireax 51M
1 post
9/25/2005 4:05 pm

As sexy as you are i cant see anyone standing you up, guess they were just intimidated. Dont give up though there are a lotof us that would love to chat and meet with you.

BOBnROSE4BiFem 61M/48F
3 posts
9/25/2005 6:47 pm

Well VJ, I am more like you. I want to meet before I get naked. My husband and I had plans to meet with five different woman. Only one did not show. She was the one wanting to just "do it". I felt very uncomfortable and glad she was a no show. However, I do agree with Overworked, more often than not it is the online conversation that initiates the meeting.

Good luck in the future.

BOG609 48M

9/27/2005 12:29 pm

I think your no show may have a little to do with my question. What's cool, what's not. Protocol is a funny thing, when it seems someone else is calling the shots. I've learned when it comes to women, pay attention, and listen for my name. When it's called I'm ready!

rm_socaljc10 55M
1 post
10/1/2005 1:07 am

I think that sites like this allow people to be something more than they think they really are. Whether it's by pumping up their personality or posting a picture that is 20 years old or not even really them.

Did they e-mail back and say they'd meet and flake or did they not respond at all?

Personally, I'd have shown up but I like meeting people. And of course, you're hot. That definitely helps.

Maybe they were a little intimidated.

trymesometime00 48M
3 posts
10/1/2005 12:34 pm

Don't give up yet, there are some real men out there. It's true they are hard to find, but they are there. The trite response would be that you have to meet a lot of frogs before you meet a prince. That sucks, but it's true. I know for myself, that I would definitely want to know something about a person before I met them, and I would want to feel comfortable about meeting them. When people are only saying "let's do it now" instead of taking the time to make some plans, it sets off my warning bells. I understand the lure of sex, but there is a lot more to life. It takes more than just pleasuring the body to be happy. Enjoy and love!

rm_Huevos30 42M
1 post
10/1/2005 11:20 pm

I've had similar experiences where there were "no shows". Don't give up. I've had plenty of people that have shown up and we had a great time.

rm_Bronze330 40M
27 posts
10/2/2005 1:17 am

I'm wondering about the ettiquette of all this too. (And how to spell) I did a couple of boards but I'm new here. For me, the first blind email is at best a MAYBE, if that's all there is. If would depend on the woman/profile, schedules and logistics, and mood at the moment. Everyone has a bad day once in while. If it someone I had been chating or trading emails regularly, it would be more certain. Either way I'd be nice enough to let you know first. For the "Let's hook up right now!" messages, it has to be the same rule. You have to stay safe, and you never know anything if you can't ask a question or two. BTW, you can ask me anytime!

rm_DDMM1 47M

10/6/2005 1:00 pm

Wow! that is hard to believe, but you are not the first person on here I have heard make the same comment. Very rude! I assure you, if you told me you were going to be someplace and gave the date, time and location, I would do everything I could to make it. If unable, I would let you know, and hopefully we would be able to meet up again later.

rm_oursecrets44 43M
2 posts
10/7/2005 12:04 am

I'll show up.

haughtforeyou 33M

10/7/2005 8:01 pm

I'll show up any time, just tell me when. E-mail me

rm_1963didi 53M
3 posts
10/10/2005 10:37 am

Showing up,
I can't even get them to return the message half the time. And if they do its usually in a derogatory manner. Sorry but if somewhat has a picture of their dick, only wants sex and no relationship, lives 100 miles away and a 72 year old woman messages me, then is offended when I mention S E X, what is a guy to do. You give me hope.

jimep2000 47M
13 posts
10/10/2005 8:04 pm

I agree with your comment. If you say you are going to meet than meet. If not don't pretend you will. It is rude to the other person/couple. Everytime I say I will meet I do. By the way if you would have sent it to me and I was in the same area, I should would have made it to see ya.

TenderTreasure 33M
1 post
10/12/2005 12:35 am

I just want to say that you are very sexy Little VJ and that I enjoy answering the many questions that you post on here. But to this question i'm going to have to ask how u went about contacting these people. Did you actually talk with them as in did they reply back to you, because if not i dont think any of them would show up if u didnt develop a contact with them. Otherwise I wouldnt expect anyone to show up.

bardicman 50M

10/16/2005 10:55 am

Hi VJ !!!!

Since I live so far from Nevada I can say DAMN ! I would have showed up if I had been invited.
The bigger question is.. If I was close enough and would have recieved an invitation would I have shown up for your meet and greet... Probably I would have but I would be scared that you would hurt me .... In a good way ...... I hope...... *sweats*

I am not dead yet

lv2pleaseunow 58M  
95 posts
10/19/2005 11:34 pm

Personally, I can't imagine anyone being a no show for you my dear. You are a delightfully sexy young lady.

lv2pleaseunow 58M  
95 posts
10/19/2005 11:37 pm

Personally I can't imaging you having this problem. For you I'd definately show up. You are a delightfully sexy young lady my dear.post95650

CaromRootsBulla 49M
1 post
10/31/2005 11:17 am

There has been several instances where a woman I've been emailing has said. "I'll be at such and such at a certain time, hope to to see you there" and it has never worked out. I prefer face to face meeting over endless email, but the time and location has to be mutually agreed on.

naughtygirlc 47M/52F  
8 posts
11/14/2005 12:28 pm

Were at the same stage lots of emails but when we send the email requesting a meeting it goes cold from there. Where are the couples and women who want to meet before playing? I've formed a group too but we still want to meet you before getting naked with you

pret4twee 55M

11/14/2005 5:39 pm

late show .... oké can imagine
no show without cancelation is simply not done


greatnsexy69 47M

11/25/2005 11:03 pm

I honestly don't understand the "no-Show syndrome" myself. But I guess some people get alot more out of the idea of a meeting then the actual meeting. It reminds me of a twilight zone episode. I think the lead actor was one of the Darrin's from bewitched but I don't remember which one. Anyway, he got the power to read minds for a day and came across a guy that worked in the bank where he worked and was planning a robbery. As it turns out the guy was just in love with the idea of the robbery that he had been thinking about for 20 some-odd years. He never actually planned to go through with it. I think many of the people on A FF that aren't bots or looking to sell something are exactly that way. They are in love twith the idea more than the the act of meeting you. Which I think is very sad. I mean seriously, what is the worst that could have happened? They would have had a drink or two (or maybe 20) and either find out that you click or you don't. I just can't imagine what these people might have been afraid of. I would have followed through. Just as guys have to differentiate the fake profiles from the real one's, maybe you need to differentiate the no shows from the ones who will follow through.

Totally off topic but the code you enter to post is 911, now what does that mean?

singleplay2 54M
1 post
11/25/2005 11:51 pm

one can only guess why? but it does seem all want fast meets but to each there own

pussylickefor 65M

12/4/2005 6:02 pm

MMMMMMM bby i'd be a show for you and like you i find taking the time to make plans when and where to meet is most productive. Feel free to e-mail me lixxxxxxx

teambrowneyes33 56M/52F
1 post
12/13/2005 7:28 pm

Cannot believe people would stand you up. Where are you from? we are a couple and would love to meet you if you're anywhere near Portland Or. We're new to this and don't know how to contact people. So far no one has gotten back to us.

fantasia_shares 47M/43F
4164 posts
12/15/2005 8:10 pm

When I planned something, #1 first I asked a couple I wanted to meet, then i asked them what they thought if I asked so-n-so. They seemed real interested in that, so I asked, what if i invited a few others? They said that would be great, the more the merrier. I made sure to ask each person who had answered affirmatively about the ones I was inviting before I invited anyone new, so everyone was meeting people they were interested in meeting. I had ZERO no-shows, one turn down. One never answered, so I didn't expect them to show. I made sure to get cell numbers and give cell numbers bfore the big day so we could confirm things.

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skidave2nite 46M
16 posts
7/23/2006 2:22 pm

indeed. if yousay you'll show up u should show up, especially to meet someone like oyu. If ya aint got the sack to show up why waste the time and energy to set up a bogus rendesvous?

alwayshorney1369 59M
9 posts
9/10/2006 2:46 am

some people just seem to get the jitters and tend to run in the opsite direction, hell woman tell me when and where to meet you and i'll be there no matter what.

rm_aim2pleze3 48M
4 posts
1/22/2007 5:36 pm

If you want to e-mail me with a place, I'll be there with bells on. They'll be hidden, if you are interested in a hunt.

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1/27/2007 12:45 am

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