Coming out!!!  

LisaTgrrl 58T
29 posts
6/25/2006 1:51 am

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7/6/2007 6:37 am

Coming out!!!

Okay, this is for anyone that is curious as too how i went about this, or too those who might actually be interested.

I offically came out three years ago, when i moved to the Seattle area- i thought i should offer some explaination too a few of my family members. It is certainly something that was quite difficult.

I mean how do you explain to someone you love that you are a Transsexual. Its not very easy.

Yes, i was married- and am now going thru a divorce. I never thought of myself actually ever having a family. It was something i just didnt think was something that was meant for me. And if i had mentioned this too my Ex., she would have certainly told my father about me(which i am trying to avoid).

I thought that telling the female members of my family would be the easiest way to go about it. And they understand, and say they completely understand my situation.
Yikes, my mother is actually coming to visit me in August. Now won't that be fun!!

Oh well, i am sure i will get thru it and survive-- but i am asking myself--- Will she??? giggle

Why do Transsexuals come across as being gay??? I have no idea., i think we are more likely to be Lesbian, since we have grown up thinking more like girls then men. All i know is i went thru my entire adulthood(until now) attracted to females-- i just relate better to them., and of course i never got into the whole hairy body thing.

I think the hardest thing about actually coming out is finally having the nerve to say--- Yesssssssss- i am a TS..

And not care what others think.

Sooooooo, there- i am a Lesbian Transsexual, who is mildly also attracted to men, and if i cannot find a woman, i suppose i have to go thru finding couples.
Do not get me wrong, i love anyone that is nice and sweet to me, and i love sex. And if i meet a male that loves me for who i am-- well, i just want to be happy.

Doesn't everyone want to be happy in their life. I know i do.

It also helps before you come out to be seeing a therapist--- at least it worked for me. It took me long enough to just Come Out to myself- and know i was doing the right thing.

So if you are gay, lesbian, or transgendered-- it is really scary- but once you do you will Love yourself better and will feel a burden finally lifted off your shoulders.

Bye for now--- thanks for reading.

Kisssssssssssses Lisa xoxoxo

rm_jackie40503 69T
1323 posts
6/25/2006 2:48 am


You are so right, getting to the point where you accept yourself is the hardest part. Once you've accepted yourself, coming out to the world in general and to family is something that you feel has to be done at whatever the cost. At least thats the way its been for me.

I sure hope that your mothers visit goes well.

Hugzzzz & Kisses {=},

longhairfreak00 40M
1 post
7/16/2006 10:59 am

ty for your inspiriation, ive had a very hard time with my family since they are set inn the old ways of our people. you helped out some

Luba44 62F

8/12/2006 3:54 pm

I strongly agree with you. It`s great courage! My wife dont know, cause I know that she cant understand and we will have divorce too. There is another problem, I am not on the hormones and it is difficult to pass when I am outdoor. I would like living all the time qs/like the woman.

cyberluvr1957 59M

12/21/2006 10:35 pm

Hi Lisa, keep coming back too the group and keep coming back too your blog, enjoy yourself here, make some friends.

~~~Have Condoms, Will Travel~~~

.......Stay Happy, Stay Safe, Stay Well........

LynnCd2006 55T

2/9/2007 11:55 pm

Lisa you have been an inspiration to me too, now that i have had some help from a lesbian friend getting to the point of being passble in public i am actually having a wonderful time. I hope things continue to go well for you. I am just now coming out to family and closest friends.

rm_yaboi422 34M

3/2/2007 11:51 pm

Lisa T-girl. Im a straight black man who have been in love with transexuals since I was a little boy. Ive never been able to figure it out. Or even why I was so attracted at such a young age but I really need someone to talk to about it. I know your in to older men so I understand that. But if we can ever just talk about this all I will give you my number or email or IM. Just let me know k. Im really eager to get some things off my chest. My friends prolly wont understand. Anyways hoping to hear from ya soon

rm_hard4fun53 63M
4 posts
3/3/2007 12:54 pm

You do what you think is right. Dont worry about others. People will always have something to say no matter who you are. Be proud of yourself and I hope you find someone. I am a married straight male and have recently become tranny curious. I think someday I would like to enjoy a sexual encounter with one for curiosity sake and only hope it will be as good as I think it will be. I have conversed with a few on line but have never met.

Good luck to you. And by the way if that is your chest photo on here you look great.

rm_Mark47221000 57M
1 post
3/16/2007 6:33 am

I think you are a nice woman, who is coming to know that.

esoteric774 51T

7/4/2007 10:56 pm

I came out to my wife of 15 years last fall. It was the greatest thing to happen in our marriage in a looonnngg time!

I have since told several very close friends and all have been more than gracious, understanding and supportive. I am really happy with myself now...however, I do agree (and have been in) therapy with a qualified counselor before coming out is the best thing I could have done!

~ esoteric

praying for peace and harmony or just a piece!!! ~ ~
~ esoteric

rm_gano5585 33M
1 post
10/20/2007 2:05 pm


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